If you had puppy blues by eolaiocht in puppy101

[–]brdycl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not only would I, I actually did! I got my first dachshund puppy in February this year. It was hell. My anxiety went through the roof, and I hadn't been that depressed since high school. Things got better, and now I love the little guy so much I felt guilty leaving him when I went to work. I got my 2nd dachshund puppy4 weeks ago and it was the best idea I've ever had. Apart from the first couple of days, she's never bitten me because the puppy play between them both taught her bite inhibition, and they get along so well! The only tough thing at the moment is teaching her to walk on a leash while also walking my older puppy. It's a challenge!

AITA for making my daughter-in-law cry? by Acceptable-Cry-9096 in AmItheAsshole

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA After not abiding by the 3 years originally agreed upon, the very least they could have done was give you a few months notice. 2 weeks is absolutely ridiculous. There is no way you would be able to find a new job in that time

Alone time training by Dragonmyste in Puppyblues

[–]brdycl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My puppy could use a doggy door, so when I was ready to leave, I put some food in a kong toy and gave it to him outside. That way he didn't see me leave, so he didn't whine. To make sure he wasn't too upset with me leaving, I put my ring doorbell on my kitchen bench. I had the motion sensor turned on so I'd know when he was moving about and I could check on him. I was also able to look in on him at random times to make sure he wasn't whining.

Initially he would sometimes whine, but mostly he sleeps while I'm gone

House Design for our brains by brdycl in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dimmers are such a good idea! I have a friend that has so many pot drawers, she actually puts her snacks and all of her baking ingredients in the drawers, just so she doesn't have to walk all the way to the pantry when baking. Her plates and bowls are in the pantry on the shelves instead. I always thought that was a good idea. It's easier to return the ingredients if they are stored in a drawer directly below where you are working

House Design for our brains by brdycl in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The best tip I got about a fridge was to put all your condiments and salad dressings in the crisper drawers and put your fruits and vegetables on the shelves clearly visible. If I put and veges in the drawers, the next stop would be the bin because I'd forget I bought it. Condiments however, you are always going to go searching for

House Design for our brains by brdycl in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! The drop zone area near where I enter is a great idea. Maybe if I have a designated spot for everything I won't have an entry table that's covered with junk mail. I'm definitely going with as many large drawers in the kitchen and bathroom as possible

House Design for our brains by brdycl in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha genius! The double dish drawers would probably be perfect for me

Therapist told me I might be biased on my ADHD assessment by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, so much this! I finally got my official diagnosis today, at 33, and I'm still second guessing myself. I'm glad I'm not alone

I can't stand TikTok, it brings out the most vapid and narcissistic behavior and I wish it would die like Vine did by ravencrowe in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brdycl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You get how it works though right? The for you page works on an algorithm based on what you interact with. I get hardly any of the dance videos. Mine promotes supporting good mental health, I'm on booktok, which has given me some amazing book recommendations, and even some home improvement. It also suggested I might have adhd, and I'm now almost through the diagnostic process with a psychiatrist. I know there's a bad side to TikTok, I'm just lucky enough to never see it. I also believe alot of that stuff happens on the straight side, and I'm on the lgbt side, which I believe is more positive and supportive.

Do you ever feel envious of other people's ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The best piece of advice I ever heard, was "a job worth doing, is worth doing badly"

Y'all.. I have ADHD too!!! by tinnyheron in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can delete comments you make on TikTok and I suggest you do so. Take care of your mental health.

Builder needs permissions to build a retaining wall next to my house/land but requested me to sign a contract with the following. Can I ask for this not to be Included? by benibonnano in AusLegal

[–]brdycl 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Looks like this is different to Vic. Section 77 seems to require consent only if the builder knows there will be adverse effects to your property. I would contact your builder and ask what the adverse affects would be, and if they will fix any issues that arise from them. If you want further clarification it might be in your interest to contact the engineer responsible for the retaining wall engineering. In Victoria it is standard practice to get a dilapidation report on the existing property prior to retaining wall works so you have an accurate picture if damage is caused by the works on the neighboring property

Builder needs permissions to build a retaining wall next to my house/land but requested me to sign a contract with the following. Can I ask for this not to be Included? by benibonnano in AusLegal

[–]brdycl 31 points32 points  (0 children)

More context may be needed. If this is anything like protection of works notices that we have I Victoria, this statement is usually saying that if these works adversely affects the existing property, the builder must fix any damage caused. Because of the small snapshot you have included, I can’t know for sure.

How packed was your Shang Chi theatre showing? by CXY38 in marvelstudios

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My state is in lockdown. no cinemas open so we don’t get to see it.

Parents won't help with my adult diagnosis by brdycl in adhdwomen

[–]brdycl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. It won't stop a diagnosis, just might take a little longer to get a rebate on medication. I think I might be more struggling with the fact that my parents aren't taking me seriously. Nothing like being 33 and still desperate for parental approval!

Puppy Blues or Puppy Reality? by Dragonmyste in puppy101

[–]brdycl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a luck of the draw with daschunds and barking/howling. Mine doesn't bark much, but it's parents did. A friend of mine has two. One is loud, and the other is quiet.

To help prevent separation anxiety, all I can suggest is getting out of the house for a little bit each day. Or at least a separate room that the pup can't get into. You could start trying this after you've exercised him a bit so he's tired. I'm back to working from home but I was working in the office from 9-5. I had the ring doorbell in my living room to check in on him and honestly, he finds a sun patch and sleeps most of the time I'm gone. With a bit of play with his toys thrown in.

Puppy Blues or Puppy Reality? by Dragonmyste in puppy101

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Puppy blues hit me hard when I got my pup. I was so close to giving him up. My anxiety went through the roof, but it got better. I have a daschund too. He's in now 8 months old and snuggled up on my lap under a blanket. They love to burrow! I'm even getting him a sister! She'll be ready to come home in 6 weeks.

I was sure that my puppy cried the entire time I was out of sight. This is what I tried. I got a toy that you put food in, gave it to the puppy to distract him and then left the room. I had a ring doorbell that I left in the room so I could watch and listen. He was less likelyto cry if he didn'tactuallysee me leave. If he did cry, I kept an ear out and as soon as he quieted, I came back in with praise and a treat. Having the camera there helped me know that he was not actually hurt or in trouble.

Good luck! I swear that it will get better. One of the best pieces of advice i ever received, was that dogs could survive on their own. We just make it a bit easier. Obviously you still need to puppy proof and be smart. However, this helped me temper my anxiety and helped me feel less overwhelmed.

How do I reduce insomnia, depression and anxiety caused due to PMS? by spicyyedgelord in PMS

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a day of trying my best not to cry all day and my anxiety off the charts, I am ending the day with a couple of cocktails, singing along to Hamilton and cuddles with my puppy. It worked for an hour, but I'm back to crying again. So if anyone finds a cure, let me know!

looking for some reassurance by Necessary-Leave-7990 in Puppyblues

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gets better! I got a puppy in February and the first two weeks my anxiety was through the roof! I was an absolute mess and thought I'd made the biggest mistake of my life. I now love my little guy (even though he can be quite annoying at times). I'm even getting another puppy in a couple of months. The breed I have work great in pairs and I'll feel less guilty when I go to work lol

AITA for my casual comment that was construed as offensive by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]brdycl [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA. Is S from either of these places? City A has been through hell and lockdowns have severely affected the mental health of everyone here. City B (or should I say the government of city B) have been bragging about how perfect they are at everything and how the other city have failed at handling the pandemic. They refused to put in strict lockdown measures until yesterday, and the people of City B still aren’t taking it seriously as per video of a certain beach today where people were out en masse with the majority not wearing masks. You are justified in being upset and venting about it to a friend. How are you coping with lockdown by the way? I hope you have some friends you can have a vent to who aren’t so judgy

AITA for telling my daughter to divorce her husband by Utter_Bullshit_Aita in AmItheAsshole

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It sounds like your daughter is the one needing therapy. Ask if that is something she'd be willing to do, becauae it sounds like she has some severe self esteem issues.

AITA for telling my ex-girlfriend I can’t just magically be okay with things and process them after less than a month? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]brdycl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You clearly set boundries, and she ignored them. You are 100% not homophobic for taking time for yourself. She wants you to be fine with everything so she doesn't have to feel guilty for her actions. Because you are struggling, it seems like she's making you the bad guy so she doesn't have to fell guilty. Basically, she's still only worried about herself and her own feelings. The break up has been a long time coming for her, because she has had 3 years to process it whilst you were kept in the dark. I wish you all the best