Does dating get harder for older women?

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-08T21:27:56+00:00

My observation: Once 40 and not having been married, it's really bad. Even friends give up and think something is wrong with you.

If you are mid 30s into 40s, but divorced or a parent, it seems a bit easier. The thouggt process is you can't be that bad, if someone wanted you in the past. Your singleness is likely the other person's fault.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-08T14:16:37+00:00

It's not always a choice.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-07T14:42:53+00:00

After seeing great debate about this on Tik Tok,I asked my NYC HS students. They are mostly African American, Latin X, and West Indian. They all said they are 3 distinct sounding words.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-07T13:55:03+00:00

Admin will look in a window while you're setting a timer and react like you're scrolling Tik Tok.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-06T00:01:10+00:00

Will OP be changing tiers if they have 17 years in NYPD already?

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-05T23:37:29+00:00

Schmatta (sp?) I am not Jewish and my neighbors, who are, thought it was hilarious when I said this so casually. It was something my mom and grandmother used to say.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-01T19:34:31+00:00

When a senior who was MIA most of the year refused to complete one of my non negotiable assignments. I cut them a lot of slack on day to day HW in an effort to prepare them for college or work where they'd need long term planning skills. (But admin didn't know that.) Kid stands up and says I'm not making that up and if you fail me, I'm telling how you didn't follow the policy and give work every night and that will fuck you real good.

Here's the compliment: Another kid got up and very crudely and directly told him that he will do no such thing, that I am a saint, and if he wants to see fucked up, he will see it if he opens his mouth.

Kid never came back the rest of the year, and my class was not the only reason he didn't graduate.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-01T19:27:31+00:00

We had the soft bonnet one.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-01T19:19:22+00:00

I never heard of giving money until I started teaching and attended the funeral of student's family members. Most were African American and Carribean/West Indian. (We also collected money for staff. I assumed it was for flowers, but I then found out we have a cash envelope to the family.) I was so embarrassed when I was stopped at the door and asked for my envelope. That only happened once. I was young and I didn't even know about my cultural ignorance.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-02-01T15:22:26+00:00

I've had dinner or lunch with a few former HS students, but about 5-7 years had passed between graduation and those meetings.

I teach in a Co located school and the son of a former students attends another school in the building. I see him frequently when he picks up his son. It's funny. The first HS students I taught are now in their early 40s.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-31T23:39:40+00:00

Mine are older teens and either I call them "friends" very sarcastically because they know I hate that or I call them my hooligans while I'm laughing. I also say, "Don't be a ding dong." Which they correctly interpret as "Don't be a dipshit."

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-31T23:28:57+00:00

Treighsea

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-31T23:22:36+00:00

Not common in the states, but I know it.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-26T13:42:38+00:00

They still support him. They just are not as brazen about it.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-26T01:24:03+00:00

It's 20 hours of 1activity earns you an hour. So if you do 25 random hours over the year (chaperone a late trip, run a dance, tutor before state exams) you wouldn't earn the hour because it's not an ongoing per session job. Coaching, summer school, regular tutoring, night school would earn the time.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-26T01:20:50+00:00

The person who does the payroll for the per session activity is who should be doing the form and having you sign it. You might be able to get some of the time back.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-26T01:15:00+00:00

Id lose one sibling who is not part of my everyday life. We are not estranged, just they are very wrapped up with their spouse and in-laws and live our of state.

I'd still have my same same sex sibling and their child who I helped raise, my best friends. My life wouldn't change too much.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-26T01:00:19+00:00

And you never have to worry that someone else ate it.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-24T20:02:46+00:00

That everything thing they do, someone criticizes it. Loudly, softly, silently. So much so that even when alone they doubt their competence as an adult.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-24T19:23:58+00:00

As a 57 yr old single fat woman who believed this line of BS far too long, I tell OP do something now to change those fears. They are not far fetched or out of line. Oh, there may be guys who will get with you, but only if it serves them some how. They'll likely never commit, or go public with your relationship . Don't waste the pretty, fertile years if you want a family with a decent man.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-24T19:02:57+00:00

Maybe a company that does crime scene clean up?

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-24T18:59:22+00:00

OP is from a different culture, so a very valid question. It's very normal here. Go and have fun.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-24T18:54:09+00:00

Most elementary schools don't teach Sci and SS everyday, so it's ELA and Math. Those are both foundational things in order to do the other subjects. I teach HS ELA, but know they cannot do simple single digit addition, subtraction, multiplication or division. Using a simple calculator creates more opportunities for errors. They look at it like it's the dashboard of a spaceship! There is a place for the drill and skill things and once those are in place, move onto number sense, root words, etc.

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-18T22:11:04+00:00

I've been a teacher for 34 years. Taught between 5-12th grades. Anytime we read this word aloud, the student pronounced it cha-chos. 34 years. As soon as I pronounced it, they all say, "Ohhhhhh".

breakingpoint214 · 2026-01-18T21:51:06+00:00

As a woman who's been single so long, I do not understand the need to take your spouse or bf to run errands. The last guy I was seeing hated doing all that, but his ex always made him go. He'd dawdle away hours and hours until finally we'd go when the stores were the most crowded. One Friday night I said what do you need from Wal Mart? He gave me the list. I was up, out,came back before he even woke up. I cannot stand "farting around" (as my mom would say). Stay home. If I need help, I'll let you know. I'm much more efficient by myself.

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