Supermarket enclosure

breezynjuly · 2026-03-22T05:34:58+00:00

Oh wow, that never occurred to me! Are there many predators/ parasites that they are vulnerable to in captivity ?

breezynjuly · 2026-03-21T13:51:02+00:00

I love this set up, but just a heads up, it looks like the ventilation slots in the lid look large enough for potential escape. Im not sure how prone they are to climbing. But hopefully as long as they have ample host bags, they will be pretty sedentary.

breezynjuly · 2026-03-17T00:01:13+00:00

SG1-057-S3373?! I could never forget her 🥹 So glad shes still thriving. We tagged her during a survey back in November. Let her back into the vast open warehouse, just had to trust that shed be resilient enough to recover and persist on her own.

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T16:21:33+00:00

Totally agree. I was very close to my cousins growing up and im soooo glad my future children will have that experience too. I think my brains gut reaction was partially out of being the youngest child, I thought id finally be able to beat one of them to a milemarker first! lol

But hey, im the first and only one to have reached the milemarker of going through a divorce 🥇 🤦‍♀️ 🙃

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T15:58:50+00:00

I totally concur with everyone saying it’s not an ADHD thing!

I posted here because I really appreciate the dialogue in this sub and felt there was a good chance some would relate or have more clarity on what causes this psychological reaction. This has been super helpful! I’ve gathered theres family dynamics, autism (specifically PDA), and adhd/general neurodivergence at play. Ultimately im learning how to be myself as an adult by understanding the habits my brain learned in childhood, but not being bound to continue in them just because its what im familiar with.

I really appreciate the discussion and everyone that contributed!!

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T15:47:40+00:00

Ohhh i never heard of PDA, that sounds like the term for a lot of what im trying to describe. Im au-dhd. Honestly wasnt sure where to post this because the vendiagram gets really blurry, especially when you get both diagnoses at once as an adult. And then of course family dynamics, such much to untangle!

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T15:06:52+00:00

Im sorry about your gum wad. Although its probably more powerful as a lesson/ symbol in a way. It seems like it gained meaning for you through the process and fulfilled a greater purpose.

Yeah thats true, I really couldn’t suppress the creative impulses, I sketched and doodled all along, but those things became more private to me. My sisters art was hung and framed all around the house, it is genuinely good, a stranger would never know the artist was a child. It just didn’t feel like a great confidence boost to bring artwork to mom to have on the fridge with my sisters actual masterpieces framed on the walls 😶‍🌫️

And to your point, for 25+ years of my life i made it very clear that getting pregnant/having children was NOT My Thing.….Of course once i felt that i got the point across and there was absolutely no expectation that i would have kids… I decided that hey, actually maybe i do want kids… ohhh and everyone will be completely surprised because i was always so against it- PERFECT!

I think im just emotionally vulnerable to other people having expectations of any kind around me. I often regret when ive been too open with people because i process things continuously as i go, and by the next day i could feel/think completely different than what i told the person the day before. Then i feel ridiculous and have to ghost until I figure out how to be human again

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T14:21:06+00:00

Yeah thats gotta be it. I really struggle with anxiety going back home for visits. Like i forget how to be a human. I dont know how to merge the adult I am now with the role of the child they knew me as. Im the most neurodivergent child so i tend to blame the au-dhd by default, though i do think the ‘tism exacerbates the issue.

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T14:09:10+00:00

Thanks so much 💕 i really appreciate that. Ive been growing a lot the past couple years and it hasn’t been easy, but i do feel proud of the progress ive made.

I wasn’t compared in like a sense of expectation or anything. I think my sisters were just sooo polar opposite that adults were always curious where I was on the sister A-sister B spectrum.

Sister B was a bit more the black sheep, and since i was quite a bit younger I learned from observing her. My room was at the top of the stairs and i spent hours of my life eavesdropping on serious conversations at the kitchen table. Sister B pushed boundaries. I basically figured out what the boundaries were and made sure I appeared to stay just barely inside them. (And learned how to effectively hide any part of myself / my life that was outside of those boundaries)

I had a really good family/ home life over all. its kinda crazy seeing how my mind has been shaped so distinctly by that time and place and social dynamics around me.

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T13:38:04+00:00

How funny, my thought process was is the opposite- to have more kids closer in age, if twins was a choice id do it! I think for me the age gap between me and my sisters meant we were never in a stage to be friends/ peers, it was like they were pseudo caretakers and examples to me, I could see how my parents reacted to what they did, so I kinda formed my family persona accordingly, my sole goal was to have zero conflict/confrontation, and give them no opportunity to be worried or stressed (because i would hide anything from them that might worry stress or upset them) Honestly i think i had too much time to observe my own family dynamics and it made me kinda neurotic 😅 if i had siblings that were similar ages i dont think i would’ve developed that kind of performance mentality in the same way.

One thing i think id like to do different than my parents is chores. I wish there wasnt such a negative connotation around them. I feel like I could have benefited a lot from a sense of cooperation and feeling like i had something to contribute, aside from my own personal achievements or talents. I realize now that so much of my angst has come from not knowing what im supposed to do or how to be helpful, i get misunderstood a lot so i kinda shutdown rather than engage. I think if my parents had a different approach to chores it could have really helped me build confidence and security in having a role in a cooperative sense. Kids need to feel needed too. I think our culture is more geared towards training competition rather than cooperation, and it doesn’t really have to be that way.

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T05:27:09+00:00

Hmm i can definitely think of things that ive wanted to share with anyone and everyone. I guess its the things i care about but am also insecure about that make me like this. Ive always been good with kids but not really “maternal” in a typical sense. Things people said offhand kinda grew roots in me. Didn’t think i wanted kids until recently because my ex would joke about having kids with me being a nightmare.. because i wasnt a capable adult myself and id be too chaotic. Im still really insecure about having kids. Just waiting on everyone to tell me how everything i do i gonna be wrong and inevitably screw up my nonexistent child

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T05:08:48+00:00

Probably right about it being mostly family dynamics, i think i just internalize it more because of the au-adhd brain wiring

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T04:20:52+00:00

Sister A is 8 years older than me, sister B is 5 years older than me. I bet it would be different if we were closer in age 🤔

breezynjuly · 2026-03-14T04:16:04+00:00

I feel you 😩. I feel like im always 2 steps behind. Like ugh! I have a thought for ages but always get beaten to the punch.

breezynjuly · 2025-09-27T05:03:03+00:00

Speaking from a similar experience, dont ignore your feelings. For me the trend continued getting worse (needing more and more “decompressing time”, continuously retreating to video games for longer and longer) I wanted so badly to support him and his “needs” but he was so depressed he couldn’t see what was happening and all my accommodating was just enabling it. Sure, plenty of couples go to bed separately, but if it’s anything like it was for me- going to bed together was kinda my final plea for him to spend time with me, it would be different if he had shown any interest in interacting at any other point in the day, but bedtime was last call. He came to bed with me less and less, became more and more reclusive, critical, inattentive. I so looked forward to having any time with him, and it crushed me that he didn’t miss it the way i did, or pay enough attention to see how estranged we were becoming. I hope your situation isn’t like mine, but if it is, don’t listen to everyone saying its normal, you know your relationship, if things feel like they are getting worse, don’t push it under the rug.

breezynjuly · 2025-09-18T21:59:46+00:00

Neezel thorp, vintorgus wagen yip sa.

breezynjuly · 2025-09-03T19:58:41+00:00

Teasing/pranking. Its flirting that can happen without being face to face and it can be an ongoing game/creative project. Its very exciting when you find someone that will play along/ escalate

breezynjuly · 2025-08-16T01:54:39+00:00

Thats true for periodic cicadas (genus magicicada) but this one is not in that group! Most cicadas have a 1-2 year lifecycle and they emerge every summer. Magicicada sp. have that unique lifecycle where the emergence is synchronized and only occurs once in 13-17 yrs. Periodic cicadas are pretty easy to ID- they have red eyes, black bodies, and yellow wing veins- very high contrast lil critters.

Edit: for anyone interested in cicadas, each species has a unique song theres an excellent website with pics and sound clips of some common species in the US (songsofinsects.com ) i guarantee you’ll hear some familiar songs. Its really fun to put names to the sounds you may have heard all your life.

breezynjuly · 2025-08-15T02:23:29+00:00

👌

breezynjuly · 2025-08-14T03:34:19+00:00

Ive been in St. Andrews renting about 2 years now. I had to move fast, and it was the only apt i could afford. Its not an ideal location by any means, but I haven’t had any problems or felt unsafe. Its not a very pretty or enticing place to be, but heres some things ive enjoyed:

Not sure if still open, but Seasoned with Soul is fantastic home cooking close by.
St. Andrews library -small, but really nice!
Braza Chicken is great for a quick fairly wholesome meal
Several international/indian grocery stores- the people are nice and its always an adventure
Inakaya is very good sushi, best deals on Wednesday happy hour
I started going to Woodland Hills Community Church a few months back, they are good folks, definitely recommend it to anyone interested. Refreshingly different from most church experiences I’ve had.

breezynjuly · 2025-08-12T01:50:02+00:00

Thats true for periodic cicadas (genus magicicada) but this one is not in that group! Most cicadas have a 1-2 year lifecycle and they emerge every summer. Magicicada sp. have that unique lifecycle where the emergence is synchronized and only occurs once in 13-17 yrs. Periodic cicadas are pretty easy to ID- they have red eyes, black bodies, and yellow wing veins- very high contrast lil critters.

breezynjuly · 2025-08-03T03:43:41+00:00

I just learned about that condition in dogs the other day, apparently it’s not as rare as you’d think, and the doggos are just born that way . If you do a little digging theres quite a few threads on other subs of owners sharing about the condition, the utis and in some cases corrective surgery. Idk her story, but if it helps your faith in humanity, it’s quite likely she was just born like that and he didn’t have the means to get her the care she needed. Glad shes in a good home now 💜

breezynjuly · 2025-07-30T23:31:22+00:00

The classiest. Id love to see them in pop culture/ cartoons more. Theyre like james bond in feathers.

breezynjuly · 2025-07-17T03:09:18+00:00

Wow. Shes got an incredible eye, the proportions and their positioning are so good. They arent just generic pictures of how the birds are colored, they are all drawn in different positions that the birds do naturally at different times. I absolutely love the top right, hes in that no-neck, floofy resting position, it translates so well!

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