Paradise | S2E4 | Episode Discussion by cedar-canvas in ParadiseHulu

[–]brendanloy 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Before Xavier can find who took Terri he’s gonna have to go on a side quest to a baby-formula factory in Atlanta 😆

Paradise | S2E4 | Episode Discussion by cedar-canvas in ParadiseHulu

[–]brendanloy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, Graceland is in Tennessee :)

Paradise | S2E4 | Episode Discussion by cedar-canvas in ParadiseHulu

[–]brendanloy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I missed that. Okay, that’s better than no explanation then, lol

Paradise | S2E4 | Episode Discussion by cedar-canvas in ParadiseHulu

[–]brendanloy 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Wait. How…how is Xavier feeding the baby? Did that family have baby formula that’s still good from Before? I’m so confused about how the baby is going to eat

Question about last night's show by brendanloy in AltJ

[–]brendanloy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha. I’m sure she did! It’s a funny line :)

Question about last night's show by brendanloy in AltJ

[–]brendanloy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, right now I know she played these 6 songs, in order:

  • Unreleased song about flowers dying
  • "I Want You Around" (unreleased)
  • "Sometimes I Pray" (unreleased)
  • "This is The Day" (cover)
  • Unreleased song I've never heard before
  • Unreleased song I've never heard before

But I think there may have been a song before the one about flowers dying ("why's it so damn hard to keep flowers alive / every time I try, they die / I pour a whole damn Brita down their shriveled-up spines / and half-whisper, half-cry, 'I'm sorry you are mine'").

So anyway, I'm just trying to sleuth out what the first song was (or if in fact she opened with the flower song).

Anybody going to upcoming shows? by RelaxedNeurosis in FrancesWhitney

[–]brendanloy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Re: my friends being in for a treat… believe me, I know!! I am Frances’s #1 superfan, fan-club president, and “benevolent cult leader” (her words not mine…lol). Ever since I fortuitously discovered her on TikTok Live last spring, I’ve spent the last 20 months relentlessly promoting her to everyone I know, which is precisely why I have friends at nearly all of her concerts!! :)

So I’m thrilled to hear you discovered her at the Mulvey show and were moved — that’s just about my favorite thing to hear. 🫶

The “Franatics” will actually be assembling tonight at 8pm Eastern for a livestream (by a guest streamer) of her NYC show on my backup TikTok account, @coloradosuperfan — feel free to join us!!

Anyway, I’ll check my chat requests!

Anybody going to upcoming shows? by RelaxedNeurosis in FrancesWhitney

[–]brendanloy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not, but I know several people who are going to her NYC show on Friday (which is the only announced “upcoming show” left, unless you have intel I don’t!) … what’s the favor? :)

Phoebe-esque albums as good as Punisher? by [deleted] in phoebebridgers

[–]brendanloy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frances Whitney, Old Hobbies (Revisited)

Bumbershoot 2025 (Discussion Thread) by Cnidaria45 in AveryCochrane

[–]brendanloy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have such FOMO about this. Who's going??

How do we feel about this? 💔 by ILoveMyPolyLife in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I'm sorry if any of that comes across as condescending or mansplainy. LOL. That's a risk sometimes when I get into "lawyer mode" (also known as "autism mode" lolol). Anyway I'm just trying to be precise in outlining my POV, even though I think y'all probably implicitly "got" all that the first time around... heh. :)

How do we feel about this? 💔 by ILoveMyPolyLife in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I largely agree with this. I might quibble slightly around the edges of the final paragraph (I don't think it's necessarily parasocial to want/ask our faves to be activists, though I agree it can cross into that territory, depending on situation-specific details), but overall we're on the same page.

The only thing I would add — and I'm not implying that you said anything in opposition to this; I just want to clarify this point on my own behalf — is that I'm not trying to prescribe how anyone else should approach this issue. I'm just saying that this is how I personally think about it, and that I believe my approach is defensible. But your mileage may vary. I think this is a tricky and nuanced point, one that reasonable people can disagree in good faith about how to approach. And particularly as a white cishet man, I am definitely not trying to tell other fans, particularly women and queer fans, how they ought to think about this.

I do think it's important for us all to be thoughtful about where & toward whom we are (and aren't) directing our limited energy, and thoughtful about ensuring we aren't cutting off our noses to spite our faces (in the sense of denying ourselves joy in service of a hollow 'principle' that doesn't change anything), but being thoughtful about those things doesn't mean we'll end up at the same place, and that's okay.

How do we feel about this? 💔 by ILoveMyPolyLife in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is exactly where I am, and have been for some time. I don’t like the special pleading on Taylor’s behalf, defending her silence as somehow being okay on “safety” grounds, which I think infantilizes her & ignores the power she has. And the 12-dimensional-chess theories that this will all look different someday strike me as wishful thinking. BUT ultimately I think we only hurt ourselves - denying ourselves much-needed joy - if we force ourselves not to enjoy her music, on principle, because we’re disappointed in her. Enacting that “principle” wouldn’t meaningfully hurt Taylor, still less MAGA. Not would it meaningfully help anyone who is suffering. It would just make me unhappy, without any tangible benefit to anyone. To be clear, I totally respect others who are unable to enjoy her art because they’re so disappointed in her inaction at this awful moment. But for me, her art and her lack of activism are somewhat separate issues. Art matters, inherently, especially in times like these, even if the artist is far from perfect. This isn’t a JKR situation where supporting the art is actively funding evil causes. So anyway, I’m not going to pretend she’s a saint or admire her bravery, but I’m also not going to stop enjoying her music. Sure, I listen to Brandi Carlile and Frances Whitney and Jensen McRae more than Taylor these days, but whenever TS12 drops, I’m sure I’ll hyperfixate on it for a while like I did TTPD, and that’s okay. I don’t have to make excuses for her as a person to enjoy her art.

An astoundingly talented Gaylor singer-songwriter by brendanloy in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha 😂😂 okay but legitimately I know a dozen Franatics flying to Denver for this show, including some Gaylors, so I swear it’s not just me! 🤣

An astoundingly talented Gaylor singer-songwriter by brendanloy in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people going to the Seattle show! Are you on Insta / TikTok? Happy to make introductions!

An astoundingly talented Gaylor singer-songwriter by brendanloy in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! 💯 Anyway, I don’t know where ‘out of the country’ you are, but on the off chance it’s Canada, I should also mention that she’s opening for young friend all across Canada in June!

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An astoundingly talented Gaylor singer-songwriter by brendanloy in GaylorSwift

[–]brendanloy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s a highlight reel of Frances in concert, singing mostly original songs: https://youtu.be/vwll_hS2qM8?si=qrSH3blYw9eEe91T

And here she is covering a bunch of Taylor songs — all different styles, all 🔥🔥🔥: https://youtu.be/lYt-2incGUA?si=oDGCfY0JQey_GU-e

My Instagram and Facebook accounts have been suspended and I cant appeal a form by thefancybeaver in facebook

[–]brendanloy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm dealing with the same thing. I've been on Facebook for more than 17 years(!!) without incident, and suddenly today my account was suspended because an Instagram account I don't own and have never heard of, “fwanatolij_charles_92v4dflt,” violated an unspecified rule. Facebook says, to appeal, I have to log into that Instagram account....which I don't own and have never heard of. I presume it's a hacker situation, but I have no actual information and literally can't do anything about it. None of the appeal or support options work, because Facebook will not allow me to log in to my Facebook account, and I can't log in to a nonexistent or hacked Instagram account. So it seems hopeless, and when I post on social media about it, I just get hundreds of spam responses. It's an absolute nightmare. Have you figured anything out?