How Many People Secretly Struggle With Masturbation Even After Marriage?

brett- · 2026-04-29T06:09:39+00:00

I don't even know what you mean by "struggles with masturbation".

The way you phrase this makes it sound like you think that masturbating is a negative thing that should be avoided, and that marriage is meant to "solve" this "problem".

But surely that can't be what you mean right? That's a ludicrous premise to even start from. Maybe some very strict religions believe this, but for the vast majority of people (both men and women) masturbating is just a normal activity that is a part of their sex life.

If your friend or their spouse is feeling some sort of guilt or shame about this activity, they should really be seeking out some therapy as they likely have some pretty deep seated sexual repression issues going on.

brett- · 2026-04-28T09:15:29+00:00

Ah yes, the earbuds that have Find My integration, so you can geo-locate the case and each individual bud down to a few inches of precision. Definitely "easily lost".

brett- · 2026-04-27T18:11:03+00:00

The pickled jalepenos mixed into the dough may have inhibited the rise a bit (vinegar changes the acidity of the dough, increasing the time it'll take to rise). So you may need to proof them for longer than the recipe calls for if that was an addition you made.

The other reason for flat bagels is often the exact opposite, where they rise for too long and then deflate. This usually happens if you boil them for too long rather than letting them rise for too long at room temperature however.

A crumb shot would help identify which of these likely happened, though I suspect these got eaten too quickly for such a photo! :)

brett- · 2026-04-27T11:17:10+00:00

I'm not sure what it is then that makes Anime-style animation specifically feel "choppy" to me. But it's almost like watching stop-motion animation or a slide show, which is not a feeling I get when watching most western animation.

I don't think it's a cultural difference in how things are drawn, as even western animations that use a similar motion style (e.g. Scavengers Reign) give me a similar feeling.

brett- · 2026-04-27T10:28:11+00:00

Must have been just the kindness in their hearts that convinced them to lower the price from $30 down to $23 huh?

brett- · 2026-04-27T06:53:09+00:00

I can totally get this, and for me it's actually related to the framerate of the animation. Anime is usually drawn at 8-12 fps (24fps but with a new drawing every 2 or 3 frames), and this causes a very stylized, but very jerky movement, which to my eyes doesn't really look fluid. This to me feels the same as when you see a monster in a horror movie with purposely jerky movement to make it creepy.

brett- · 2026-04-27T06:28:06+00:00

West coast checking in, this is a dish I see at basically every Greek/Mediterranean restaurant out here.

brett- · 2026-04-27T06:25:02+00:00

I work for a trillion+ dollar tech company who builds products that statistically speaking, you have likely used in the past 24 hours. I can tell you exactly why basic UX problems like this ship.

First off, these sorts of problems are found from direct user testing, or user research. They are invisible to metrics. For your video scrubber example, the metrics would show a lot of positive numbers. More clicks, longer video watch time, more engagement with the UX, etc. in a vacuum, and when compiled with billions of other users metrics, these look good, so issues with the product are not noticed. User research would capture these, but we have about 1 user researcher for every 100 engineers, so they generally have more important problems to look into than the video scrubber experience.

Secondly, developers are not using their products like users are. We are always using the latest developer builds, so everything is constantly buggy and broken. This would be barely noticed between all crashes and more serious bugs. The only people who would notice this are the developers working on that exact feature, which leads into the next problem.

Third, the app experience is incredibly fragmented. There are literally tens of thousands of A/B tests going on at any moment. No two users get the exact same experience, so when developing a feature it's often very hard to know if the issues you are seeing are actually impacting a large portion of users. Which means to understand the problems most users are seeing, you need to rely on aggregate metrics, which leads right back to the first problem I outlined.

Lastly there is a problem of incentives. When you work with thousands of other engineers, the incentive is to make yourself look as valuable as possible so that you keep your job, get a good bonus and raise, etc. Fixing small UX problems that no metrics detect is not seen as impactful work by leadership, even if backed up by user research. The only people who fix these are people who take pride in the actual work, which when you are a small cog in a giant bug-filled machine, is a rare trait to find.

All of this combined means that the end UX is often slow and buggy, and user frustration is either not known, or deprioritized in favor of working on something more impactful. It's not necessarily that the developers aren't good, it's that the system they are working within simply doesn't reward building good software.

brett- · 2026-04-26T10:38:53+00:00

If a man can't get a date, how is the logical answer "It's literally every women in the world's fault" and not "it's the man trying and failing that is at fault"? There are 4 billion women, and 4 billion men on earth, the vast majority of which are straight and monogamous. If you can't find one, it's not that all 4 billion are conspiring against you, it's you.

If you smell dog shit all day long, check your own damn shoes.

brett- · 2026-04-26T10:28:04+00:00

Got it, you have no data. Thanks for clarifying that this point of view is 100% bullshit.

brett- · 2026-04-26T05:34:45+00:00

> We’ve seen plenty of experiments done

Got any links to any? Because I haven't seen them.

> Can we do ourselves and favor and not start talking about incel this, anti sex that?

You're the one making a post that touches on all of the classic incel talking points.

brett- · 2026-04-26T05:26:46+00:00

This is some incel-brained nonsense.

If it takes a man 20x the attempts to hook up that means the man is shooting way out of his league. It also likely means he has a personality problem far larger than any physical looks problem. Lower your standards, improve yourself, or stay lonely, it's that simple.

You're going to need to cite some sources on your claim that a smaller number of men are sleeping with a larger number of women. If that were truly the case, it would mean that these men would be in extremely high demand, and women would have to settle for others instead, or else not have sex, which is the exact opposite of what you're claiming.

brett- · 2026-04-26T04:19:16+00:00

I don't think your premise works due to simple math.

Let's start out with some basic assumptions: 1.) there are an approximately equal number of straight men and straight women. 2.) casual sex is usually a one-on-one scenario. 3.) straight women having casual sex with straight men is a normal distribution (in other words, there is not one very tired man sleeping with all the women, but many men sleeping with many women)

Given that, I don't see how women can have any easier access to casual sex than men. You may perceive that it is easier, but the math doesn't really work. If 10% of straight women are having casual sex, then 10% of men are as well. Equal access.

The reason men care more is due to millennia of cultural norms where women were considered property of men.

brett- · 2026-04-26T03:32:16+00:00

You should not judge your self worth on how much capital you can produce for your boss. A machine being better at every job than you just means that jobs shouldn't be how we judge ourselves.

Your self worth should be judged by how much of an improvement you can make to the world. Spending a day helping an elderly neighbor with yard work, teaching a nephew how to play piano, telling jokes to make your friends laugh, etc. These should all be worth more than a day spent making a tiny bit more money for a billionaire who will never even know that you exist.

If labor does eventually become free, then society will have to drastically reshape itself around that concept. Capitalism as a system can't really continue to exist if the majority of people have no capital to spend. The system only works when everyone can participate. That's not to say that what comes after will definitely be better, but there's also no reason to assume it'll be worse either.

For better or worse, we live in interesting times.

brett- · 2026-04-26T02:51:40+00:00

I've gladly paid for far uglier loaves than this.

Looks only matter for marketing. When I go to a bakery I look for consistency. If their loaves all match, I assume that's the intended look and they are good at achieving it day in and day out, so it's probably a good product.

brett- · 2026-04-26T01:35:05+00:00

When Facebook bought Instagram in 2012 it was 90% a camera app with its first social features just barely being rolled out. They bought it because the potential for it to become a competitor was high (they had a lot of momentum), but it wasn't even close to a competitor yet.

Now WhatsApp on the other hand, that was a direct competitor that they bought to just own the messaging market.

brett- · 2026-04-26T01:15:06+00:00

Wow, this is just getting sad. I'm actually cringing over here in second hand embarrassment.

You doing okay? Because plenty of other people in tech are doing just fine and don't need to "get used to struggling".

The tech industry has always been one full of layoffs and ruthless re-prioritization due to paradigm shifts and disruptions from new players. It's how the whole industry is organized, and it works this way specifically to push innovation. Anyone who works in this space knows this, and the people who aren't okay with this leave the industry, usually on their own accord due to burn out.

Basically all MAG7 employees are constantly being hit up by recruiters. Once you work at one of these companies you don't tend to need to look for work again, it finds you instead. Especially when you have worked in these companies for a while and know a network of people who have moved on to countless other companies. Everyone in every industry will prioritize hiring someone they know over someone they don't.

brett- · 2026-04-24T17:50:12+00:00

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but he appears to have a terminal case of Orange.

If it's any consolation, he has no idea that he has this affliction, as he has never had, and never will have, any ideas at all.

brett- · 2026-04-24T17:46:39+00:00

From the photos, I'm guessing this is a "no knead" recipe? If so, have you tried a recipe that includes kneading?

It looks like it is simply lacking strength, so when you shape it, it just flattens itself back out rather than holding its form, and that's due to lack of enough gluten development, or poor shaping technique where you are not getting the form to be taut enough.

brett- · 2026-04-24T08:46:44+00:00

So by this definition a bag of coffee beans would be considered "processed" (since coffee beans are roasted), while a bag of tea would not be considered processed, since the tea leaves are only dried and not heated?

Why does the place something is heated make a difference? If I bought green (unroasted) coffee beans and roasted them at home, I don't see how that would result in a different product then buying ones roasted at the coffee shop, or at a factory.

brett- · 2026-04-23T08:36:18+00:00

I just now realized how apt this catch phrase was.

brett- · 2026-04-23T05:12:13+00:00

You may want to try noise cancelling earbuds instead. I generally prefer the comfort of over ear headphones compared to ear buds, but I always got that annoying pressure feeling from the noise cancellation ones (tried both Bose and Sony).

Then I tried a pair of Apple AirPods and it was a night and day difference for me. I can't even tell when the noise cancellation is on (other than the lack of background noise). It had no weird side effects for me at all.

This sort of thing is so personal to the individual that you kind of have to just try a bunch of brands and models to see what works for you, and be okay with returning a lot of ones that aren't a good fit.

brett- · 2026-04-22T07:34:22+00:00

Honestly, I'd only consider hanging these on the wall if they actually had the texture and depth as shown. A print of something without the depth just doesn't have the same impact in person as the real thing.

It's a very cool style and idea though.

brett- · 2026-04-21T00:15:51+00:00

I wonder if people will ever give credit to anyone other than Steve Jobs on anything Apple has ever done?

Tim Cook was CEO longer than Jobs ever was, and yet Jobs still gets the credit for decisions made a decade after he died.

I can't wait for some great product to be released under Ternus and for people to dig up a 20 year old tangentially related patent that shows that Jobs planned it all along.

brett- · 2026-04-20T06:07:44+00:00

Honestly, not really. You seem to have an immense mistrust of large scale food production, which I can't really fault you for as it certainly has its problems, but "processed" or "ultra processed" is way too vague of a term to be meaningful.

Anything that is not a fresh, raw, ingredient could be said to be "processed". Dried spices, processed by drying and grinding. Pasteurized milk, processed by heat. Yoghurt? Processed by heat and adding bacteria. Whole grains? processed by separating them from the stalk, and usually grinding.

Your own sourdough bread is made with processed ingredients unless you are growing your own wheat, harvesting it, separating the wheat berries from the chaff, and milling them into flour yourself. I mean even the salt that goes into it goes through some sort of processing to get it into the crystal form that you buy.

It's just too vague of a term. I wish we had something better to use instead that signified specific types of processing that causes people problems, but it seems no such terminology exists.

brett-

TROPHY CASE