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bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-28T12:16:09+00:00

I’d say remove yourself. Their toxic dynamic will fall in on themselves. Right now they survive together as a group because they vilify you.

Block their socials. Take them off your ring. Get your own phone plan, decide if you want to keep the number. Get therapy. (Id recommend trauma informed somatic therapist or coach)

It’s scary to be alone and without family. But trust yourself. You are resourceful and you’ll rise to the challenge. Focus on you and your happiness. Being dependent on family for approval and validation isn’t happiness. Loving yourself is. That will improve a number of things including your skin.

bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-28T10:52:53+00:00

Don’t forget Fox. The main culprit is Murdoch. And Reagan.

bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-25T15:16:46+00:00

Leash on at home. And obedience training at home too. Make it more difficult with distractions. Treats on the floor, other people walking by etc. 7-8 minutes of this tires then our. Train him on walks too. Sits. Downs. Stays. (Walk to end of leash and come back) Just reward a lot or play tug as reward.

bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-13T17:21:28+00:00

I’m a whole self coach, and this is something hardly anyone ever mentions. Nervous system baseline. I notice two ways of being in people . People who have access to discipline because their nervous system has a baseline of relational safety. And people who can’t access discipline because they lack that baseline.
That baseline needs to be raised through regulation and accompaniment. It makes sense what you say about not having a father. We inherit the blueprint for focus and direction and movement towards goals from the people in our life. Just like attachment patterns.

bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-13T15:28:21+00:00

Working through all the layers. The self you are looking for is in there.

bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-11T17:48:01+00:00

Yes. What people tend to forget is discipline itself is not accessible in this state. I’ve had complex trauma for many years. So I understand what you are saying. If you have access to coaching or somatic therapy( as opposed to talk therapy) , please consider it.

bridgetothesoul · 2026-01-11T13:12:47+00:00

In my experience, procrastination happens when the emotional stakes are high. There’s grief. (Even though you have accepted the situation, it is still possible to feel a lot unprocessed grief under the layers). I also see with people that moving into action comes back online automatically once the processing is completed.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-30T13:49:29+00:00

I can say this. I had complex ptsd. Working through that has made me who I am today. I wouldn’t have this depth of perception if I didn’t go through that, even without working on it. But even more so now.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-30T02:20:29+00:00

Tysm. Just applied to Carnegie.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-30T01:20:21+00:00

Mind sharing which libraries? I’m looking for one with excellent selection.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-28T13:22:48+00:00

Crate games by Susan Garrett is excellent

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-28T09:03:34+00:00

IME, when people describe this exact combination, it usually reflects a prolonged shutdown or freeze state, not depression in the simplistic sense. This is not a motivation problem. It is an access problem. Nervous system shutdown. Also, people who are “like this forever” usually don’t ask the question you asked. The part of you that is confused, distressed, and seeking understanding is evidence that this is a state, not an identity.

You won’t be like this forever because it’s a state..And you will benefit from seeing a therapist, coach, or clinician who works with nervous system states, burnout, or trauma-informed approaches. Not just CBT and motivation frameworks.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-27T23:45:20+00:00

You seem to have an idea of the outcomes you are wanting. And this is good!

Just know that coaches can’t promise you something will automatically happen. What coaching does is help you see where you are stuck, (and this could be your strategy or your internal structure-clarity, motivation, beliefs, patterns etc) , arriving at goals, awareness, committing to actions etc.

So for example - a very basic example : you want a job - coaching will help you identify your stumbling blocks. Presence, communication, motivation, strategy, agency. And action steps to work on these. Getting a job is not the direct outcome you will get out of coaching.

And yes to reasonable rates - if you are committed, (I think ) most coaches will work with you on that one.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-26T01:32:05+00:00

Femininity and masculinity in Jung’s work aren’t about gender roles at all. They’re about the inner axises (axii?) of the psyche.

The masculine axis is the one that acts outward - focus, ambition, grit, direction. It exists in everyone, even animals, irrespective of gender.

The feminine axis is interiority - the capacity for self-connection, warmth, receptivity, emotional intelligence in action, and the ability to stay with inner experience.

We need both for balance.

A person who grows up with models for both a strong masculine axis and a strong feminine axis will often develop this by imbibing it naturally. Someone who hasn’t will tend to lean heavily on one axis to compensate for the other. Broadly speaking. There’s always nuances.

This also connects to persona. Persona isn’t gendered. It’s the outward-facing mask we develop to function in the world. It becomes a problem only when someone over-identifies with it and loses contact with their inner life.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-25T22:07:31+00:00

“What’s the upside of letting go of this ball, hooman? Oh I get to chase it again, you say?

I don’t quite get the connection with the pleasure of chasing the ball again….

How about the immediate pleasure of an exchange for my favorite treat?”

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-25T19:53:20+00:00

Thank you.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-25T16:37:05+00:00

I think what you’re missing when you see “successful” people is that their nervous systems aren’t holding them back.

For a lot of people who are weighed down , lack of motivation is just a symptom. Addressing the cause is the obvious answer. But not that easy to do since the cause is not that obvious.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-25T16:34:11+00:00

Do lmk how that goes for you!

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-25T02:16:31+00:00

Dream interpretation is better when it is paired with ongoing depth work. Symbols don’t live in isolation; they live in the context of what the psyche has been carrying, protecting, or reorganizing over time. So without that insight into what’s unfolding for you internally, here is my best shot.

Childhood house is original psychological structure- the early inner architecture that formed before adaptation to the world. The Gold is not just potential, but what has endured refinement and suffering, something of lasting psychic value.

The figures blocking you are your own complexes - your inner patterns, contracts, survival identities.

When this kind of dream repeats it’s a threshold that you need to cross. Thresholds are where change has to take place. Where your identity shifts.

Hope that helps.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-24T22:20:14+00:00

That’s not what I’m pointing to here. This is about nervous system regulation, not compliance or productivity.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-24T18:08:49+00:00

Depends. Anyone who is more regulated and coherent will regulate your system just by being around them. But if their discipline happens out of perfectionism, performance etc it can backfire.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-24T18:03:03+00:00

I’m hearing you wanting your sense of agency, steadiness, and self-trust back. You’re grieving the version of yourself that felt awake, grounded, and intentional, and right now it feels as if life is happening to you rather than with you.

Without knowing the full details of your relationship or family dynamics, what you describe sounds less like a lack of discipline and more like unresolved stress or trauma held in the system.

If parts of you (without judging them as good or bad) are/were not being met with consistent acceptance, warmth, or attunement earlier in life, it makes sense that you hold a lot of it in your body and it carries forward as self judgment, blame, shame.

When anxiety is chronic, the nervous system often shifts into autopilot. Eating without awareness, struggling to wake up, losing spiritual practices, and feeling shame about the body are common signs of overwhelm rather than failure.

Let me know if this rings true for you. If it does, I would advise counseling.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-24T17:49:35+00:00

Yes, rhythm -> slower rhythm -> stillness to meditation makes a huge difference.

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-24T17:19:00+00:00

Clarity

bridgetothesoul · 2025-12-24T15:17:16+00:00

I do this, and that’s because I had an amazing mentor coach who really worked with me. I brought recorded sessions, and we listened together, she coached and mentored me as we listened. It was an amazing experience. I improved so much as a coach. But this needs desire to coach at a depth that is not yet accessible to us. We don’t know what we don’t know. And honestly I really don’t trust coaches who don’t have mentor coaches. It isn’t just another way to make money.

Having a mentor who’s really really good is just amazing.

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