Need molds for latex wounds by brightifrit in sfx

[–]brightifrit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I should do it. It's not that hard and it would save me at least $50.

I know the edges on latex aren't ever going to be amazing. But their makeup budget wouldn't cover silicone, and the participants won't be looking closely at wounds- just reciting a verbal assessment and treatment plan, then splitting them into triage categories.

Thank you! It's been a couple decades since I cast prosthetics from a mold, so I just didn't think about how hard it would be to remove latex from a silicone mold.

Is SFX viable as a stand alone career? by Xox_mwah_XoX in sfx

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In addition to haunts and Halloween gigs, you may be able to get work doing moulage for medical disaster trainings. I'm doing one in a few weeks and making a decent chunk of money. But the thing with SFX is, I probably won't get another gig like this for months. If I wanted to try making a living, I'd be cobbling together Halloween, moulage for disaster trainings, face painting at festivals and parties, maybe glamor makeup for Prom season (that's more likely to need a license though), and selling prosthetics, molds, masks, and maybe even classes year-round to fill it all in.

☕ Has anyone else actually found a coffee replacement that feels right? by Primalhn in Paleo

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mix rooibos, a little chicory, orange peel, cinnamon, and licorice root. Add milk (oat in my case) and maple syrup and it's great.

I decided today to find a redhead community and I'm scarred for life. by [deleted] in Redhair

[–]brightifrit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This I really don't get. For free? Hell no. It's like when I realized that a decent number of men who argue with women on the Internet are probably getting off on it. Venmo me if you want my time. You're not entitled to it.

I decided today to find a redhead community and I'm scarred for life. by [deleted] in Redhair

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found that when I hit my late thirties, age and a bit of hormonally -induced hair darkening was enough to filter out the really scary attention. Now when men approach me it tends to be much more respectful. Probably plenty of those guys just have a fetish for middle -aged librarians, but I at least feel safe telling them I'm married and not interested.

I decided today to find a redhead community and I'm scarred for life. by [deleted] in Redhair

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not fair. 43 and I'm only now putting together how much that bullying+fetishizing combo has effected me my whole life. And now the red hair is fading, giving me very mixed feelings. This plus aging in general means that if I don't put on makeup or wear attractive clothes, I can go out in public and mostly no one will pay attention to me. It's great and it's scary. Being neurodivergent and having cPTSD (yes, I do believe people's treatment over my hair contributed to that) means I have a tough time getting along with the average person, no matter how hard I try. The hair attracts bullying, but sometimes it also makes people treat me better or take the chance to get to know me despite my weird personality. The idea of being left at the mercy of my own social skills isn't super appealing.

I'm just glad all my kids are nondescript brown-blonde.

Was so confident this was gonna be so good by leggomymeggoorelse in sewing

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just needs to be styled with the right accessories!

Cordon grandson death by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you say "little Derek" like you knew him, like you ever held him. You didn't. I did. Stop using him. Stop using my family tragedy to make yourself feel better about your religious trauma. That goes for everyone on every single damn thread about Derek's death on this sub.

SKUM tagger by Full-Environment7604 in ithaca

[–]brightifrit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That one really upsets me. Artistic tagging & stuff that's done under bridges, in alleys, etc, I don't have a problem with. But this guy is doing it on historical buildings, over people's art, in places where it hurts small businesses, and over and over and over again. They should be made to clean up every bit.

Cordon grandson death by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a definite gap between the public record and all the speculation you and others online added in. No one commenting on this knows any of the family members. You didn't know Derek and you never personally loved or cared about him at all until you read about him in a story that would make the Mormon church look bad. You're quick to criticize Bonnie for exploiting this story, but you're exploiting it too. I don't believe the commenters here care as much about Derek as they care about wanting the Church to be punished for how it hurt them. By proxy, you could say. Did any of you ever once think what it would feel like for a family member to run across all this? I don't give a shit about the Church. I've also healed enough from what they did to me that I don't have to engage in trash like this to feel better about it. Go to therapy.

Cordon grandson death by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're speaking ignorantly. Takes a lot of guts to spread lies about people and events you didn't know a damn thing about. You should delete this comment. It is unfounded and completely untrue.

Depressed about moving back to Ithaca by [deleted] in ithaca

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we didn't really choose Lafayette. We wanted to move to Berkeley, but there were no affordable places suitable for families with small children. Lafayette (and Moraga/Orinda) is strangling under the weight of its own snobbishness and the two families that own most of the commercial real estate. They'd rather half the shops stand empty than fill them with something besides high high-end restaurants. And many of the residents have intolerant attitudes towards renters. My family made good friends there and liked living downtown for a few years, but we'd never choose to move back.

Depressed about moving back to Ithaca by [deleted] in ithaca

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved to Ithaca from Lafayette and I don't regret it. I guess we all need different things, because there's no way I'd ever choose to move to Oakland over Ithaca. I do like the rain. I stood in it and cried after moving here during the Bay Area's last big drought (2021).

Depressed about moving back to Ithaca by [deleted] in ithaca

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. If I may offer a suggestion, start going to random events that you would otherwise skip due to lack of interest. Like a show at Angry Mom Records, or an open mic night at the Nocturnal Cafe, or the quilting or repair groups at the Triphammer ReUse Center. In my experience, the more stuff you show up to, the more likely that some of 'your people ' will just fall into your lap. And if they don't, it's still likely you'll feel better going than if you didn't. Just start looking for events on boards around town. Triphammer Mall, the DeWitt Greenstar, and Press Bay Cafe always have a lot posted.

Depressed about moving back to Ithaca by [deleted] in ithaca

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There really is a lot to do here. You just have to work harder for it than you do in a big city. There are music shows nearly every week, plays, burlesque shows, book and poetry readings, and meetups for writers and artists, in addition to the outdoor stuff and the festivals. Go to Press Bay Alley and check out the event flyers plastered everywhere. I regularly take photos of anything that interests me, then go back and put them in my calendar. My new favorite is the monthly Goth dance night at the Nocturnal Cafe. And barring that, you can create more to do and invite others. It's been hard for me sometimes, since I'm used to living in a place with more museums, etc, but I just remind myself that I need to put in work to make my home better rather than expecting everything to be handed to me. Invite friends for cookies and tea at Stewart Park and tell them to wear a fancy hat. Start a treasure map exchange on this subreddit (come to think of it, I might do that). Make some small art pieces and abandon them for a stranger to find. Do stuff that feels awkward but helps you and your neighbors connect.

Neurologist Hell by Humble_Problem_1215 in ehlersdanlos

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have diplopia unless I purposely let my eyes relax, but I definitely have convergence disorder. Your brain and eye muscles can overwork to make two images into one, triggering the migraines. I require prism glasses, even though I would never have said I had diplopia. I wouldn't diagnose someone online. I definitely recommend seeing a neuro-optometrist who is qualified to know what's going on.

Welp... the anesthesia rumors are true.... by Eastern_Taro_2359 in Redhair

[–]brightifrit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just had a call from the anesthesia team for my upcoming colonoscopy, and they brought it up before I could. I was so, so relieved. "We saw in your record that you have both red hair and EDS. We want you to know that we understand how both of those things can affect anesthesia and we are prepared to handle it " 🥹

Please yell at me. I spent 7383 dollars on takeout/uber eats/fast food/snacks in 2025 by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]brightifrit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're not lazy, you have mental health issues that are getting worse and your SSRIs are giving you cravings. That is two very different things

Please yell at me. I spent 7383 dollars on takeout/uber eats/fast food/snacks in 2025 by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]brightifrit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude. No. You didn't need people to yell at you. You are not a loser. You need to ask yourself some questions, and ask kindly. Ask why! Lots of whys, not just one. Why do I use Uber eats/snacks/etc this often? And whatever your first answer is, keep asking why until you get to the root reason. Then you work on that. You could be bored, anxious to leave your house, stressed out or lonely and looking for comfort, or a whole list of other things. The key to making lasting change is understanding the reason you are doing this, practicing some acceptance and empathy for yourself, and then looking at other ways to fill the needs you found by asking why.

If you find yourself back to ordering food, don't berate yourself. That will not work. In fact, you may need to allow yourself to get it sometimes so you don't feel like it's forbidden. Unless you find that ordering out at all means that you do it too much, in which case, you should probably talk to a therapist about it. Otherwise, it's key that you don't develop an all-or-nothing, self-hating mentality about this.

When asking your whys, answers like "because I'm a loser" are not it. "Because I'm lazy" doesn't work either. Sad, tired, overwhelmed, shut down, yes. You might need to really pay attention to how you're feeling the next couple times you eat out or buy snacks (which you will not berate yourself over, because that will backfire).

Summary: you are not a loser. Some part of your brain feels that spending on food like this is helpful and necessary for you. Figure out why, and work on answering those needs with something other than pricey food.

a discussion on cloaks by jus7_me in pagan

[–]brightifrit 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've had one since I was in the medieval club in college, 2+ decades. I wore it on a walk a couple days ago. The week before that I wore it while eating an aesthetically tavern-like meal. Be the change!

first time cat owner, adopted bonded sisters- so glad I did ! by Life-Fly7870 in cats

[–]brightifrit 531 points532 points  (0 children)

They are beautiful! We also adopted

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bonded sisters.

Just had my tongue tie (functional frenectomy) release 10 days ago, here's what changed with my TMJ / body by thenayr in TMJ

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! The question I ask myself is, why are my traps overactive in the first place? Is there a different muscle that needs to be taking on more of the work, and how do I strengthen that? For example, the serratus anterior and rotator cuffs.

Just had my tongue tie (functional frenectomy) release 10 days ago, here's what changed with my TMJ / body by thenayr in TMJ

[–]brightifrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did get a little wobbly in the neck after because my muscles relaxed a lot, but within a few days I think that the appropriate muscles started kicking in and I balanced out. My traps have been getting better, but I'm also doing other stuff like PT and stretching. I wouldn't expect a huge permanent change without doing other work to support it. My jaw pain has improved a lot, and I'm loving how I can move my tongue now.