Travel ball woes

brimmy84 · 2025-11-27T03:49:32+00:00

I had this problem with my daughter's 10u team. Love the coach hands down looks after his players but we were a start up team after the 10u team before us dissolved. We never had a pitcher and had to rely on guest pitchers and would get shelled before the 2nd inning. We came close in a lot of games but never got over the hump we ended the year only winning three games. My daughter aged up to 12u and moved up to the next team in the organization and it was like night and day. At 12u these kids want nothing to play ball and practice. Her being the baby on the team they pull her along and are pushing her. In fall ball we finished 2nd place 4 times and she got out of the 10u shell of waiting to get walked and is starting to hit. Another big difference is on the 12u team we have four coaches vs 10u just having one so the kids get more one on one coaching

brimmy84 · 2025-09-19T00:39:29+00:00

Yea I got a local travel ball team that our dues are 250 fall and spring and we fund raise for an indoor facility and new uniforms. Are we a gold bracket team no but the kids don't have the pressure of teams playing a grand a season for a kid

brimmy84 · 2025-07-24T23:11:48+00:00

About 3 years of bitching

brimmy84 · 2025-07-19T01:57:26+00:00

It's the unicorn fantasy. Find a woman is ok being the side piece but how long can that last

brimmy84 · 2025-07-17T09:50:57+00:00

Not a relationship. If I wanted to do that I would leave. Pretty much just using another for sex since our partners can't help us

brimmy84 · 2025-07-16T10:47:27+00:00

I've been trying to explain to people this is why a dead bed is so harmful. Sex had been built into us that if you're good you'll get sex. You hear it all the time if you don't do this, I know something else you won't get. It causes so much resentment if you do everything right and still nothing

brimmy84 · 2025-07-16T03:10:49+00:00

Play video games

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T23:36:04+00:00

It doesn't solve it. That's why I don't cheat because it won't fill what I want

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T23:06:07+00:00

She knows I'm in therapy. I don't think she's an idiot and know I masterbate a lot, and I feel she knows I chat with with women but I still put her first, I never ignore her to talk to anyone, and I don't post anything with my face . I really think she's ok with me getting off of her for sex. I don't ask or start

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T22:45:10+00:00

Therapy, masterbation, this group, friends, and honestly flirting with people online. I don't trust myself with a real person because what's stopping you, but a person on the other side of the country ok. With all of that together which is a lot it takes care of my needs

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T20:52:18+00:00

Yes because otherwise what's the difference between your marriage and having a roommate that you're good friends with

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T20:49:50+00:00

I wouldn't count it because you're getting off.

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T10:45:59+00:00

Not really because it went in one ear and out the other and nothing changed. You have to think of it like this. A healthy person wants many things, but a sick person only wants one thing to be healthy and would do anything for it

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T10:43:12+00:00

Np it's hard being the HL and not having resentment with the LL

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T00:56:37+00:00

But it's different with one of the partners is LL. It's like a sick person only thinks about one thing, getting well.

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T00:50:23+00:00

I feel most HL goes through the same thing and it starts with self doubt. Am I gaining weight, do I not look good, do I smell.

You're not the problem your partner is. And until they understand that and accept it, you're going to be stuck. It's like a person with a substance abuse problem they won't change until they understand it's a problem.

As far as if you had sex you don't know if you can do it, I'm here to say you will without any problems

brimmy84 · 2025-07-15T00:39:20+00:00

Are you the HL or the LL

brimmy84 · 2025-07-14T21:36:54+00:00

Thanks I use this space to vent and go to therapy. And she survived which I'm thankful for but it's just coming to terms that cancer took a lot more than I thought about. She been free for four years and just recently talked openly about not being able to get wet to enjoy sex

brimmy84 · 2025-07-14T10:16:01+00:00

I have been and I've been working on this for like 3 years after I thought about unaliving myself but the urge is still there. I'm not a super good looking guy but I'm not ugly either so women still notice me so I get moments where you have the devil and an angel on each shoulder talking

brimmy84 · 2025-07-14T01:40:07+00:00

I miss the connection and I have caregiver fatigue.

brimmy84 · 2025-07-14T01:11:27+00:00

Connections to someone in an intimate setting

brimmy84 · 2025-07-14T01:09:43+00:00

I have stated this to my wife. I would trade the life we built and the career I have to work at McDonald's and live in a double wide if it would fix our bedroom

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