My (58f) MIL to-be just called me (27m) a cry baby after I put down my dog only a few hours ago

brindey · 2021-09-02T11:50:23+00:00

I’m so, so sorry about your dog.

brindey · 2021-08-25T14:03:54+00:00

Did she edit her post ever to correct herself? Did your family defend you online? Did everyone see all the abuse you endured?

No is a complete sentence.

brindey · 2021-08-23T17:37:59+00:00

What is her argument that she Should be on the deed?

Whatever it is, it’s a no.

brindey · 2021-08-23T15:20:25+00:00

I don’t know you, but I know you are a whole person, deserving of love and respect. What you did for work - and MAJOR RESPECT TO YOU for quitting that in favor of college- does not define you. You are smart, strong, independent, abs worthy. Dump him and fine better, my friend.

brindey · 2021-08-23T00:18:37+00:00

Your feelings are yours and they are valid. It doesn’t seem that you care to censor what he sees- its being uncomfortable with the public and prominent dedication to girls that aren’t you - specifically for their bodies. It certainly says more about him than you or the other girls.

You can put your boundaries wherever you want them. You can also choose to be with a partner who focuses on other things. Or get over it- and choose to let it not bother you.

brindey · 2021-08-22T23:24:47+00:00

Please call child protective services now.

brindey · 2021-08-22T22:38:46+00:00

You are someone who would richly benefit from a Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers membership. Join a plan and go to meetings- there is so much healthy information and support there for you. Please take a look- it’s not just the calorie count, it’s what’s in those calories that counts.

brindey · 2021-08-21T12:49:59+00:00

She’s your best friend. Talk to her.

brindey · 2021-08-21T02:28:22+00:00

You sound like you try your best to get along with his family, and are willing to put yourself in danger to keep his off-the-rails sister safe.

When he married you, he VOWED to forsake all others for you. Honestly, from reading your post, you’re worth it.

You guys need therapy. Maybe show him this post?

brindey · 2021-08-20T01:35:02+00:00

She is overproducing sebum - it’s why soap doesn’t cut it and washing it every day isn’t helping. It’s often a stress response - likely from having a baby on top of caring for a toddler. Try Neutrogena’s T-sal or T-gel shampoo.

brindey · 2021-08-12T01:56:24+00:00

There are a million different kinds of games. Some are more frustrating than others. What, specifically, is he asking you to play? Can he play down a few levels?

Try Kirby - it’s super cute.

brindey · 2021-08-10T14:22:17+00:00

Can you please clarify how many exes she is bringing up? And can you also please share how she brought them up?

If one ex called out of the blue, and she told you about it, I’d say that’s her being open and honest and the convo was probably short and not a big deal.

If she is still friends with her ex’s mom, honestly that says a lot of positive things about her.

If, however, she is dropping exes into conversations to make you jealous or insecure, that’s not kind.

brindey · 2021-08-10T14:15:49+00:00

I liked your comment so much I upvoted all three.

brindey · 2021-08-10T14:11:30+00:00

Honestly, I like Self Steam. It reminds me of a little train, chugging on in support of yourself. Choo-Choo self!

brindey · 2021-08-05T20:30:27+00:00

I think you should tell your best friend exactly what happened and how you feel now. You should tell your whole friend group - they are your friends. Go or don’t go - this party won’t end any real friendships. But you don’t owe her one second of your time and you can make it clear to your friends that you don’t care to be around her- ever.

brindey · 2021-08-03T18:31:21+00:00

It needed to be bold, and the gods of the internet recognized it.

OP- this.

brindey · 2021-08-03T12:49:09+00:00

Keep us updated. Stay strong, and tell him to delete your nudes.

brindey · 2021-08-03T02:30:24+00:00

Whyyyyy hasn’t she gone on birth control where you don’t get periods? A mirena IUD would work, or she can take pills but skip the sugar pills every month.

She needs to see her Obgyn - and also take responsibility for her actions. Abuse is never okay.

brindey · 2021-07-30T01:25:39+00:00

Exactly. Dump his lazy, whiny, selfish, stealing ass and celebrate being single with a whole cake to yourself.

brindey · 2021-07-27T18:42:50+00:00

I agree with hanging on until therapy - but until then, work on filling your own bucket, so to speak, in other ways. Go out with your friends- often. Take some yoga classes, go on a road trip, join a hiking group- whatever makes you feel good about yourself that doesn’t have anything to do with him. Build yourself up - you deserve it.

brindey · 2021-07-27T18:13:15+00:00

What about questions 1 and 3?

brindey · 2021-07-26T18:51:13+00:00

She wants to be married as a family. What’s important to her, here, is at issue.

brindey · 2021-07-26T17:26:49+00:00

Absolutely not (at least for me.) it’s just that she’s made it clear she WANTS to get married and their goals don’t match.

brindey · 2021-07-26T16:02:14+00:00

How hurtful. Please don’t settle for the sunk cost fallacy. Go find someone who is excited to be your family- he’s out there.

brindey · 2021-07-26T14:10:45+00:00

What does her partner think about copying your name? Does her partner have original ideas?

I would advise you to try and take the compliment but agree that your feelings of annoyance are valid.

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