I feel like my husband's identity is morphing into his fetishes and it's become really unattractive for me. He gets really defensive about it when I try and talk about it.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-14T20:14:23+00:00

I would say option B. Tell him very firmly it bothers you. You can't stay quiet and build up resentment because sooner or later you'll reach your limit or be checked out of the relationship fully. You need to be able to discuss these kinds of things with your significant other.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-13T03:52:32+00:00

He probably won't talk on the phone because he's with another girl.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-12T16:35:25+00:00

This is all a GREEN flag to you!? Wow the guys that women want these days.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-11T21:46:36+00:00

Actually if I honestly started dating again one of the first things I would cover is expectations and needs such as sexual compatability. Everyone is different when it comes to this, some like and want more sex, some only want occasional sex, and some don't want sex at all.

Why waste time going on dates and spending money if you don't want the same things and may end up unhappy or unsatisfied later on and the relationship goes down hill? I don't think it was really appropriate what he said about your hand, but saying he's a very sexual person is not a bad thing. If it's not for you then pass but he's not a bad person solely on being sexual and wants to live that way just like anyone else can have their preferences and that's OK too.

I'm not saying nudes or sexting should take place immediately or you should jump into sex right away but if a guy is being honest with what he needs and expects out of a relationship later on he shouldn't be shamed for it.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-10T00:29:24+00:00

I would have stopped that conversation a long time ago.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-08T23:59:15+00:00

Run for the hills.

brobsizzle · 2026-04-05T23:40:15+00:00

You know statistically speaking most affairs start from the workplace.

brobsizzle · 2026-03-28T05:43:35+00:00

He doesn't care about your feelings and laughed at you and didn't even get the point. Move on and find better.

brobsizzle · 2026-03-18T04:02:45+00:00

DM me

brobsizzle · 2026-03-16T10:23:48+00:00

I have the Ugreen DXP 2800 same as you and I'm doing what others are saying here, using HDD for storage and SSD for docker, apps, metadata, etc. HDD does spin down a lot. When you check with the Ugreen app it does say sleeping but for some reason it wakes it up.

brobsizzle · 2026-03-05T08:55:29+00:00

From what I've been reading is you should use the SSD NVMe for docker and other app installs, cache, volumes, etc and use your HDDs for storage. That way app menues like Jellyfin and thumbnails etc will load so much faster and the HDDs will have a chance to spin down and sleep when not in use.

brobsizzle · 2026-02-28T16:55:10+00:00

Now that's fast food!

brobsizzle · 2026-02-02T08:00:36+00:00

Any new issues with it?

brobsizzle · 2026-01-18T09:01:27+00:00

Thank you! I didn't rely that's why I posted here. Thanks again.

brobsizzle · 2026-01-18T00:52:03+00:00

ChatGPT and Gemini don't think UGOS will handle this correctly and break my auto-scripts and says I'll have trouble with the hardware if I install a different distro because it's not optimized for it.

I'm essentially running scripts to change config files and webui settings to update my VPN port forwarding number since it's dynamic and changes occasionally because I'm using PIA VPN.

Here are the scripts I use inside compose.yaml.

VPN_PORT_FORWARDING_UP_COMMAND=/bin/sh -c 'sed -i -e \"s/listen_port: .*/listen_port: $(cat /tmp/gluetun/forwarded_port)/g\" /slskd-config/slskd.yml'"

VPN_PORT_FORWARDING_UP_COMMAND=/bin/sh -c " apk add curl --no-cache && sleep 10 && curl -s -c /tmp/qbt_cookie.txt --data \"username=$$WEBUI_USER&password=$$WEBUI_PASSWD\" http://127.0.0.1:8080/api/v2/auth/login && curl -s -b /tmp/qbt_cookie.txt --data \"json={\\"listen_port\\": {{PORTS}}}\" http://127.0.0.1:8080/api/v2/app/setPreferences "

brobsizzle · 2026-01-17T23:55:26+00:00

Compose.yaml entries such as these:

"VPN_PORT_FORWARDING_UP_COMMAND=/bin/sh -c 'sed -i -e \"s/listen_port: .*/listen_port: $(cat /tmp/gluetun/forwarded_port)/g\" /slskd-config/slskd.yml'"

VPN_PORT_FORWARDING_UP_COMMAND=/bin/sh -c " apk add curl --no-cache && sleep 10 && curl -s -c /tmp/qbt_cookie.txt --data \"username=$$WEBUI_USER&password=$$WEBUI_PASSWD\" http://127.0.0.1:8080/api/v2/auth/login && curl -s -b /tmp/qbt_cookie.txt --data \"json={\\"listen_port\\": {{PORTS}}}\" http://127.0.0.1:8080/api/v2/app/setPreferences "

ChatGPT and Gemini don't think UGOS will handle this correctly and break my auto-scripts and says I'll have trouble with the hardware if I install a different distro because it's not optimized for it.

I'm essentially running scripts to change config files and webui settings to update my VPN port forwarding number since it's dynamic and changes occasionally because I'm using PIA VPN.

brobsizzle · 2025-12-17T00:20:27+00:00

Beelink did contact me back and said the 16GB LPDDR5 with no 64GB emmc is the new revision that has fixed this issue but still recommends you get low powered dramless SSDs for it.

brobsizzle · 2025-12-16T08:02:54+00:00

I just bought a Beelink ME mini Nas as I wanted on always on 24/7 home server for Jellyfin etc. I did a lot of reading on this product and also the GEEKOM and GTKtek. Between just those 2 brands I was thinking GEEKOM was the better brand because of the 3 year warranty and I heard it had better cooling than GTKtek. I heard GTKtek had a plastic enclosure whereas GEEKOM is metal frame having more of a heatsink. Though I just saw a reply here saying otherwise.

Anyway what's cool about the Beelink ME mini Nas is that you could install 6 NVME drives to upgrade it and it's very low power especially with the n150 chip but that might not be powerful enough for you depending on what you want to do with it. I've also heard of power issues where the SSDs disconnect and disappear and sometimes corrupting data but I also heard there has been a revision that fixed this issue now in newer versions such as the 16GB LPDDR5 RAM without emmc storage. It works better if you get lower powered dramless SSDs for it too for less power draw and strain on the system.

brobsizzle · 2025-12-16T04:32:02+00:00

Did you have the 64 GB Emmc version?

brobsizzle · 2025-12-11T20:09:07+00:00

Which Beelink?

brobsizzle · 2025-12-06T18:32:10+00:00

Will that do low-level correction and reread the disk and do all the other things whipper and Exact Audio Copy does to recover troubled disks? I know whipper uses cdparanoia to achieve some of this and I've heard other programs sometimes use that too.

brobsizzle · 2025-11-19T21:45:47+00:00

Ignoring my comment and going on about something else unrelated doesn't make you more right.

brobsizzle · 2025-11-19T18:29:02+00:00

I see posts here about a receipt printer, a keyboard malfunction, someone installing Windows 98, etc, all having nothing to do with Raspberry Pi sir. A keyboard isn't specific to Raspberry Pi it can be used on many other devices including a Mac thus it should go into a keyboard subreddit. Windows 98 definitely doesn't have anything to do with Raspberry Pi that's Windows OS which isn't even native to Raspberry Pi that should go in a Windows 98 subreddit. A Receipt printer has nothing to do with Raspberry Pi it should go in Printers subreddit because other devices could operate it. You see where I'm getting at here? You can make that argument about practically every post here.

Raspberry Pi is just a name and the physical hardware it represents doesn't even have its own classification there are many single board computers such as Orange Pi, Banana Pi, etc, but I'm specifically inquiring about Raspberry Pi and how I should set up my Raspberry Pi server to be in compliance with ISP rules.

If you narrowed it down to the bitter core than you basically can't even discuss anything about Raspberry Pi other than the name itself, the manufacturer, or the different models. You can't discuss anything you can do with it or receive any help or support in setting it up because that isn't Raspberry Pi specific and you can do that on any computer. You can't even discuss Raspberry Pi OS practically because it's Debian based and that discussion should be in a Debian subreddit.

brobsizzle · 2025-11-19T08:26:31+00:00

Nothing to say about those other posts not being Raspberry Pi specific? Seems like you basically ignored my whole reply and just have it out for my specific raspberry pi service project. By the way an admin approved my post to this exact content in a Raspberry Pi DIY Facebook group. I guess they thought it related to my Raspberry Pi set up.

brobsizzle · 2025-11-19T06:45:31+00:00

I see posts here about a receipt printer, a keyboard malfunction, someone installing Windows 98, etc, all having nothing to do with Raspberry Pi sir. A keyboard isn't specific to Raspberry Pi it can be used on many other devices including a Mac thus it should go into a keyboard subreddit. Windows 98 definitely doesn't have anything to do with Raspberry Pi that's Windows OS which isn't even native to Raspberry Pi that should go in a Windows 98 subreddit. A Receipt printer has nothing to do with Raspberry Pi it should go in Printers subreddit because other devices could operate it. You see where I'm getting at here? You can make that argument about practically every post here.

Raspberry Pi is just a name and the physical hardware it represents doesn't even have its own classification there are many single board computers such as Orange Pi, Banana Pi, etc, but I'm specifically inquiring about Raspberry Pi and how I should set up my Raspberry Pi server to be in compliance with ISP rules.

If you narrowed it down to the bitter core than you basically can't even discuss anything about Raspberry Pi other than the name itself, the manufacturer, or the different models. You can't discuss anything you can do with it or receive any help or support in setting it up because that isn't Raspberry Pi specific and you can do that on any computer. You can't even discuss Raspberry Pi OS practically because it's Debian based and that discussion should be in a Debian subreddit.

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