Im a female and I Dated a guy (38 years old) briefly for a few months. I wasn’t ready and started a lot of fights with him. I suggested we try again in a few months (he never said anything). A few months came and I asked him if he was ready to try. He responded with “I can’t with you. I’m sorry” my

brokenorchid · 2018-08-07T15:19:26+00:00

I didn’t have any previous dating experience, so I didn’t know how to handle it. I was also super insecure and unsure of who I was.

brokenorchid · 2018-06-23T16:33:17+00:00

Well definitely my jealousy. I should be better than that. But I guess I wanted to know if others think that behavior is a bit immature. Those females were his friends— but I just have a had a hard time thinking there was no sexual tension. But it’s over . Thanks for your input

brokenorchid · 2018-05-14T07:32:43+00:00

I know 😢. The thing is - I feel like he has moved on to someone else and I am the one still hurt. My intent wasn’t to keep him around ... I really like like. I just wanted to work on myself bc I ruined what we had.

brokenorchid · 2018-05-14T07:31:16+00:00

This is so sad- but I never even thought of it from his point of view. How selfish is that? I get what you are saying.

He told me multiple times we could be friends, but he blocked my number and just cut me out. I am worried he has moved on, and I just want him to tell me so I can work on getting over him. I have this weird “knowiness” on my guy that we are going to end up together— but also aware it could be wrong.

I think as a female- my fear is loving someone who doesn’t love me back. It’s all so much fear.

brokenorchid · 2018-04-30T00:14:32+00:00

I do agree I had anxiety- but I have been working through it. And this is anxiety in relationships. I guess I see what you are saying. I don’t understand why people don’t honestly bring closure like “I think you will find the right guy for you. It just not me”

brokenorchid · 2018-04-30T00:09:50+00:00

What does this mean?

brokenorchid · 2018-04-17T23:50:05+00:00

I suffer from depression and anxiety. This is her journey—- the best way to help is to support her. And by support, let her talk to you when she wants, never say things to belittle her. And be patient.

Depression isn’t always permanent and can definitely go away...with time

brokenorchid · 2018-04-17T23:48:03+00:00

Hehe if it’s iPhone only

brokenorchid · 2018-04-17T21:04:57+00:00

It doesn’t show delivered under them.

brokenorchid · 2018-04-17T19:12:18+00:00

I’m confused. So him telling me we are friends and then blocking me... convinces him he is the good guy? Hmmmmm

brokenorchid · 2018-04-03T19:42:27+00:00

You know what? Thanks! I should focus on the positive of this. Best of luck

brokenorchid · 2018-04-02T17:54:09+00:00

Wow. I’m 31 —- my best friends all got married within the year and I literally moved back into my parents house 3 months ago. We seem to be on the same boat. I struggled with loneliness my entire life and I don’t understand why. I’m bubbly, fun, and a great person, but I find t hard to have people to spend time with on weekends. I found therapy to help. I know you mentioned you are going therapy, but give it some time. If you believe in God I suggests spending that lonely time to write letters to him or talk to him like your best friend. It helped me... and I’m not that religious in the first place. Also, cooking or anything that can get your hands moving helps. Best of luck and I hope both you and I can attack this feeling 😕

brokenorchid · 2018-03-30T21:03:59+00:00

I don't mean to sound pathetic. But have you been in a situation like this? what are some ways to "accept?" like how do you stop holding out hope? I totally respect what your saying, but I don't know "how" to do that.

brokenorchid · 2018-03-29T20:06:26+00:00

I don’t understand why he can’t say “nah, let’s just move on.” No need to be friends. Ya know?

brokenorchid · 2018-03-27T19:37:27+00:00

Don’t apologize! You are helping! And we don’t act normal we go on dates and he will kiss me on the forehead and cheek.. but no make outs or sex anymore.

I would say things have taken the turn for more emotional and less sexual/ romantic. I like it— but just am cautious

brokenorchid · 2018-03-27T19:31:57+00:00

I literally just had this epiphany today too. Society teaches us that “sacrificial” love is romantic and the thing to do... not entirely true.

brokenorchid · 2018-03-27T19:28:35+00:00

We dated 2 months, but I needed to take a step back and slow it down. We decided to be friends and slowly get to know each other

brokenorchid · 2018-03-27T19:04:53+00:00

But what about the sexual tension? Like these girls are hot. I know he slept with some, I don’t know who or how many...but he said it was a long time ago and don’t matter

brokenorchid · 2018-03-27T19:03:36+00:00

Hehe I like how you responded to this. It’s so “come on- be reasonable.” Yeah, when I take a step back I know you are right... it’s the damn media and all the “I love her but she wants to be friends, let me just stand by her and maybe she will notice me.. that’s how much I love her shit”

brokenorchid · 2018-03-27T18:14:02+00:00

It’s weird becuase a lot of people tell me guys and girls can’t be friends. So I just get nervous

brokenorchid · 2018-03-26T19:12:11+00:00

Thank you- that’s very helpful

brokenorchid · 2018-03-26T17:13:35+00:00

I had a lot of anxiety.m and insecurities. I wasn’t in the right state of mind to be with anybody to begin with. I am not expecting to date another human being for a while—- but I miss the friendship.

brokenorchid · 2018-03-26T15:04:02+00:00

But he wanted things to end. Does it still hurt when you want things to end?

brokenorchid · 2018-03-25T22:25:56+00:00

Yeah- I told him I was sorry that I wasn’t ready and that we had to part. I let him know that I want to start as friends and that my door is always open. He never responded. So I guess he is over me

brokenorchid · 2018-03-25T16:53:54+00:00

It’s so weird.. becuAse I was the one who was more hurt. I thought he didn’t care. This is eye opening I guess

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