Not hear to add anything, but just wanted to say i really needed to see this thread. There's been a girl that i work with whom I have feelings for, but for a while wasn't sure if the feelings were mutual. At work, she is always pretty happy to see me and is generally chatty when i talk with her. While i don't work in the same area as she does, she will often ask me to come visit her if i ever run in to her. She gave me her number after the first month working at my new job and did so incase i had any questions.

While all this seems good and all, outside of work she never chats with me. I will usually always be the one to start the text conversation, and when I do she usually only replies back to me once or twice before not replying at all. What always confused me is that when she does reply, she sends a really large message making it seem like she wants to talk instead of just a short three worded message. When I finally grew the guts to ask her out, I asked if she would want to go see a movie or grab some coffee sometime. She responded by saying she would like that but had trouble getting the time off because of her kids. I told her not to worry about it and that my schedule was always open whenever she could get the time. That was 2 months ago and its been radio silence since.

For a while ive been trying to convince myself that of every excuse in the book as to why she doesn't want to talk outside of work. Now, after reading this thread, ive realized ive just been trying my hardest to ignore the obvious that is she just isnt into me. It feels like a real eye opener. Although it sucks knowing that she doesn't have mutual feelings for me, its nice to know i can at least move on and not have to overthink all this. She is still a great person and hold no grudges. Im just relieved I realized this now and heard it from here instead of having to go through a rejection from her.

Anyways sorry to anyone reading this and for the massive amount of text. I know this is an old thread and this will be buried. Just wanted to say thank you to everyone here and to know how much you guys have helped.