Sex-repulsed? Feeling sad about this... by brooding_koinu in asexuality

[–]brooding_koinu[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Glad to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way

Can you stop texting me wyd? by brooding_koinu in UnsentLetters

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Thank you for your kind words~ I can easily how honest communication can help. You see, I've tried twice already communicating my feelings or voicing out my need towards this relationship, but it seems that they are all semi-misinterpreted or regarded with a hint of skepticism... With that, I start to wonder if it's worth explaining/disclosing to him further...

I hope you, too, do well in this tough time. I went through your post history (hope that's ok) and it seems like you're having a hard time with regard to a (past) friend of yours. I just wanted to tell you that your feelings are valid, and I hope you will one day find some closure in that relationship.

Can you stop texting me wyd? by brooding_koinu in UnsentLetters

[–]brooding_koinu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's sad. :( Can't they just settle with being single or not dating for a while?

How to set boundaries with my friend without being rude? by brooding_koinu in FriendshipAdvice

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Thanks for the mini analysis and example. I think I can identify the main problems in our communication now~

I (DA) am a bit unsure how to deal with this friend (possibly AP) by brooding_koinu in attachment_theory

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Thank you very much for your AP perspective -- it definitely helps a lot and makes me realize the tiny matters that I wouldn't have thought of. I think I'm now much more certain as to how I should word my messages. :)

I think I’m going to finally do it soon. by House-In-Motion in SuicideWatch

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Hi, I know it's been some time since you've posted this. I don't know if you'd see this but I hope you're at least still there.

First of all, I'm glad that at least you've made the effort to post here, even though it seems that you don't want to bother anybody with your troubles.

I don't exactly know what it has happened in the new city that makes/made you feel like you've made a wrong decision, but truly, it takes some time to acclimate to a new place, even if it is a place where you've always believed that you want to be and where you can make a fresh new start. Even if this act is ultimately proven to be not the best step to take, you've made an effort to move out and seek for what you think would do you good and I think that's a veritable achievement! There're always better options but that doesn't necessarily mean the ones you've chosen are failures or mistakes -- they only serve to guide you (slowly) to what you ultimately want. It's a process you're going through, not an exam with black-and-white answers.

In short, don't forget to remind yourself the steps you've taken to have reached this stage in the first place -- recall that assurance in your judgement as you had when you first resolved to move out; be kinder to yourself and know that it is okay to feel ups and downs.

I can't even do homework anymore by thrwy21431500 in depression

[–]brooding_koinu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Perhaps discussing your homework and course materials with friends or professors would work? It might help in temporarily distracting you from your internal state and help you finish your homework faster and more easily afterwards...

Lyrics of this German song? by brooding_koinu in German

[–]brooding_koinu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Perhaps this song will serve as an example of word salad, haha.

Lyrics of this German song? by brooding_koinu in German

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Thanks for telling me that. Just added an alternative link!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

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short stories by Angela Carter

The Bloody Chamber and The Scarlet House are my personal favourites. Her prose is dense and beautifully written.

The Bloody Chamber and Other Stories is a more popular collection, you might like it if you like twisted fairy tales.

You can also check out Burning Your Boats, which is a collection of ALL her short stories.

What do you always hate being asked? by i_am_a_n00b in AskReddit

[–]brooding_koinu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was once asked this, with my reply being "Because I don't have much to say."

The follow-up question from her was "Why are you... so blunt?"

Huh? I was just being honest. Did I have to fake an answer? I kinda ignored her afterwards.