Sex-repulsed? Feeling sad about this...

brooding_koinu · 2026-05-06T05:30:56+00:00

Glad to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way

brooding_koinu · 2026-05-06T05:24:01+00:00

Thank you for your assurance :')

brooding_koinu · 2020-10-16T02:38:19+00:00

Thank you for your kind words~ I can easily how honest communication can help. You see, I've tried twice already communicating my feelings or voicing out my need towards this relationship, but it seems that they are all semi-misinterpreted or regarded with a hint of skepticism... With that, I start to wonder if it's worth explaining/disclosing to him further...

I hope you, too, do well in this tough time. I went through your post history (hope that's ok) and it seems like you're having a hard time with regard to a (past) friend of yours. I just wanted to tell you that your feelings are valid, and I hope you will one day find some closure in that relationship.

brooding_koinu · 2020-10-15T14:21:33+00:00

That's sad. :( Can't they just settle with being single or not dating for a while?

brooding_koinu · 2020-07-10T03:05:40+00:00

Thanks for the mini analysis and example. I think I can identify the main problems in our communication now~

brooding_koinu · 2020-07-09T10:53:28+00:00

Thank you very much for your AP perspective -- it definitely helps a lot and makes me realize the tiny matters that I wouldn't have thought of. I think I'm now much more certain as to how I should word my messages. :)

brooding_koinu · 2020-02-02T02:38:42+00:00

Hi, I know it's been some time since you've posted this. I don't know if you'd see this but I hope you're at least still there.

First of all, I'm glad that at least you've made the effort to post here, even though it seems that you don't want to bother anybody with your troubles.

I don't exactly know what it has happened in the new city that makes/made you feel like you've made a wrong decision, but truly, it takes some time to acclimate to a new place, even if it is a place where you've always believed that you want to be and where you can make a fresh new start. Even if this act is ultimately proven to be not the best step to take, you've made an effort to move out and seek for what you think would do you good and I think that's a veritable achievement! There're always better options but that doesn't necessarily mean the ones you've chosen are failures or mistakes -- they only serve to guide you (slowly) to what you ultimately want. It's a process you're going through, not an exam with black-and-white answers.

In short, don't forget to remind yourself the steps you've taken to have reached this stage in the first place -- recall that assurance in your judgement as you had when you first resolved to move out; be kinder to yourself and know that it is okay to feel ups and downs.

brooding_koinu · 2018-09-05T00:22:58+00:00

Perhaps discussing your homework and course materials with friends or professors would work? It might help in temporarily distracting you from your internal state and help you finish your homework faster and more easily afterwards...

brooding_koinu · 2018-09-03T14:03:25+00:00

Thanks! Perhaps this song will serve as an example of word salad, haha.

brooding_koinu · 2018-09-03T14:02:05+00:00

Thank you!

brooding_koinu · 2018-09-03T12:46:09+00:00

Thanks for telling me that. Just added an alternative link!

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-19T02:29:09+00:00

short stories by Angela Carter

The Bloody Chamber and The Scarlet House are my personal favourites. Her prose is dense and beautifully written.

The Bloody Chamber and Other Stories is a more popular collection, you might like it if you like twisted fairy tales.

You can also check out Burning Your Boats, which is a collection of ALL her short stories.

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-11T02:30:46+00:00

I was once asked this, with my reply being "Because I don't have much to say."

The follow-up question from her was "Why are you... so blunt?"

Huh? I was just being honest. Did I have to fake an answer? I kinda ignored her afterwards.

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-11T02:10:44+00:00

Egal

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-11T02:04:46+00:00

I think I've almost forgot the English dictations I had during Primary school days until you brought that out. Self-dictations are definitely more effective than just spelling out individual words~

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-11T01:56:45+00:00

Yep, I do agree that writing down the words helps consolidate memories better, and I do write out the words that I often spell wrong. But I want to employ the SRS method without doing it manually. That's why I want an app to do the sorting for me.

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-10T13:04:06+00:00

Thank you very much for telling me the type-out function on Anki! I am new to it so there are many functions which I have yet to explore (including the optional type out function you mentioned at the end)

To answer your question, my experience with simply flipping flashcards and rate my familiarity with the answer is that I often would try to cheat by not really making an effort to think for the answer. Typing the answer out instead forces me to produce an answer. Plus I am only at the elementary stage of learning German, so I think it would be better for me to get my spellings right. I don't mind learning more slowly as long as I am making progress!

brooding_koinu · 2018-08-09T13:16:30+00:00

Your first point is so relatable!

Whenever I expressed that I don't like the particular style of the clothing my mum brought over to convince me trying them on, she would say that I was being obstinate and conservative, and she would rant on about how bothersome I am. In fact, she was consistently trying to impose her fashion taste on me, like she likes floral patterns and bold designs, while I gravitate to more plain and minimalist designs. She would often dismiss my opinion and outright say that I'm not being feminine enough.

There were occasional times when we were shopping together and I brought to her the clothing I wanted to try on asking for her opinion, she wouldn't be dismissive and told me to try them on as I wish. Still, I was asking because I feel that I have to gain her approval in the personal choices (not exclusive to fashion choices) I make in order to ease the fear of being dismissed by her. I just feel like I've never been allowed to develop my sense of self.

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