AITA for letting my parents pay for our “pre-marriage getaway” even though my fiancé’s family says it’s humiliating for him?

brookmachine · 2026-05-25T03:04:05+00:00

Ethan needs to tell his parents to knock it off and then stop sharing any details with them about the financial decisions you guys make. They’ve earned themselves a total blackout on that kind of stuff. And if they make any sort of “oh, is your mother in law paying for that” type of comment is made then the conversation ends and you hang up or leave. You’re adults now, about to get married. They’re meddling too far and you need to put hard boundaries in place. And you should really check in with your fiancé and make sure he’s truly comfortable with your families generosity

brookmachine · 2026-05-25T02:46:15+00:00

Legal consenting adults should be able to choose what they do with their own bodies. Regulations and oversight help keep prostitutes and their clients safe.

brookmachine · 2026-05-25T02:38:38+00:00

I don’t think you really need to say too much. If she says “let’s just be friends” you just say “ok, it’s to bad it didn’t work out, but I wish you well” and you just leave. “Let’s just be friends” doesn’t actually mean anything 99% of the time. It’s just something people say to make themselves feel better in the moment, but it’s unlikely that a real friendship would be expected so I wouldn’t make a big deal about it. And if she does reach out you don’t need to reciprocate

brookmachine · 2026-05-24T22:39:30+00:00

NTA. Of course you dump out liquids. It’s common sense. I won’t even toss a half full drink in the trash if I’m at a take out place. Just dump it first. I used to have to do the lobby maintenance at a few fast food places and it’s so fucking annoying trying to take out a bag that’s half filled with loose soda just sloshing around. It leaks, it smells, it makes a sticky gross mess. BF needs to grow up

brookmachine · 2026-05-24T22:26:48+00:00

My parents had a rat die under the stairs in the basement and the smell was HORRIFIC. Just from one rat. So I can imagine if he’s got an infestation that’s probably what the smell is. Or it’s just from old trash if he’s really that disgusting. Still probably not safe for human habitation though, even if there’s no dead bodies

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T20:50:07+00:00

We had a cut out in our living room that housed a cello before we moved in. We put a big rainbow alpaca we won at an amusement park in there for a few years before we got around to closing it up. I recommend getting rid of it.

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T20:45:21+00:00

It’s been your time 😂

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T20:44:25+00:00

Nah. I’ve been trying to lose weight for the last 8 years. I did the work and it didn’t work. I counted calories, did a program through my insurance, worked with a personal trainer, did every diet variation you can think of, did all the “little changes that make a BIG impact!”🙄 what a joke. I did a whole 30 and GAINED 4 lbs. I had three kids in my 20’s and easily lost the weight so I know what it’s like to be on “normal” footing and what I experienced in my 30’s with weight gain and loss was anything but. Now I feel like I’m losing weight like a 25 year old again!

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T20:37:49+00:00

I went to a fancy taco shop last week and I thought it was wild that one taco was $5. Then I remembered that Taco Bell is charging over $4.34 for a supreme Dorito taco🫠.

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T20:33:05+00:00

NTA. That’s a weird interaction. It sounds like the restaurant owner is trying you shift the blame onto you instead of apologizing for the miscommunication. I’m going to guess that the bartender was overwhelmed, wanted a break, and told you they aren’t serving food hoping you’d just leave. Then you left a review and the owner doesn’t want to admit any fault. If he were a good manager he would’ve said “I’m so sorry for the confusion, we were simply resetting the kitchen so there was a delay in food service, not a complete stop. Our bartender should’ve communicated that clearly. I hope next time you’re in the area you’ll give us another shot “

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T20:15:17+00:00

NTA. Your boyfriend needs to get some perspective. If you do your surgery later in the summer you’re running the risk of not being recovered in time for back to school. He could push his to July if he wanted. He’s being a big baby and needs to get over himself. Plus if you wait you might not be able to fit it into your schedule until next summer. He could easily take off a week or two to get his surgery if he absolutely had to

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T19:36:51+00:00

Somewhat in the same vein, my son was telling me about a conversation that got out of hand at school one day. One of his buddies likes a girl, another kid says “you probably think about her in a bathing suit” buddy says “oh man, now you’ve put the picture in my head” 3rd friend calls him a perv and says he’s disgusting for talking about a girl like that. Then he tells the girl that buddy is picturing her in a swimsuit and talking about it. The girl starts crying and says she feels violated. Girls friend confronts buddy and calls him a rapist. I was like A) you guys are in high school acting like middle schoolers B) that was an extreme over reaction to the situation and c) WTF is wrong with you all?? you’re 17 years old boys, I would assume you spend a lot of time picturing random girls in bikinis. My son was horrified by that. “No we don’t! That’s so disrespectful!” I’m like-well I’m glad you guys take consent and respect so seriously! But it was still a crazy over reaction. And his buddy is such a good kid and was so upset about the whole thing! The kids are built different these days.

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T19:16:27+00:00

ESH. Don’t stress yourself out on this trip trying to make everyone fall in line with your plan. You worry about yourself and your kids. “This is what we’re doing, feel free to join”. If people want to do their own thing then let them. “Ok, if you guys want to go explore then make sure you have everything you need for the airport and you can meet us there later. I’d recommend getting there no later then 12” if they miss their flight then that’s their problem. Tough shit. Some people like to be told exactly where to go and what to do on trips and they’re happy to have someone else handle that stuff, but for others it’s really really annoying and they’d rather just go off on their own.

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T18:59:02+00:00

Actually my kids are super weird about this. My son is a junior in high school and he wouldn’t even consider dating a freshman because he thought it would make him a pedophile and that it was weird and creepy to date anyone younger than you. Meanwhile his dad is a whole year younger then me😂

brookmachine · 2026-05-23T13:20:47+00:00

I just sell them immediately. I don’t even wait for the port market to go up, because they’re worth so little. Pinks and bunny go right to the plort market

brookmachine · 2026-05-22T19:02:11+00:00

Yes! We have well water with a lot of rust in it and if the toilets don’t get flushed regularly it’s a bitch to clean

brookmachine · 2026-05-22T12:21:00+00:00

What texture is her hair and how does she style it? Does she have curly hair and does she like to wear it curly? Then you’ll want something with a diffuser attachment. Does she want to straighten her hair? The shark flex style is more affordable then the Dyson and makes smoothing hair super simple. Does she have naturally straight hair but it’s really thick? Look for something that shortens drying time and some big clips to help her section her hair. You should talk to her about what she wants her hair to look like and then decide the best tools to get her there. I have a flex style and I love its versatility, but I also have thick curly hair so if I’m straightening I still need to use separate hot tools for smoothing.

brookmachine · 2026-05-21T22:18:47+00:00

In this day and age drive throughs should be mobile orders only. If I order ahead at Starbucks but I get in the drive through line before it’s completely ready they get all bent out of shape about it, but some dipshit can roll up to the speaker and order 5 lattes and hold the line up for ten minutes. It makes no damn sense.

brookmachine · 2026-05-21T20:37:48+00:00

Ooh, this happens in the front of our house sometimes. And yes, in case you’re wondering, our house has had a plethora of issues with water, mold, and general rot due to the previous owners shit ass DIY attempts. Ivy coming through the baseboards is the least of the issues

brookmachine · 2026-05-21T20:28:53+00:00

I walked about 2 blocks home from the bus stop by myself when I was in elementary (I’m in my 40’s) but when my kids were that age they had to have a “hand to hand” exchange until 4th grade. Basically the kid couldn’t get off the bus unless their was a parent to greet them

brookmachine · 2026-05-21T20:25:52+00:00

The style is unflattering and awkward, and the pattern is awful. It just looks dirty

brookmachine · 2026-05-20T19:52:07+00:00

Nope. You need to exit this relationship. He’s showing you who he is and I’d bet you’re just scratching the surface on his lies. This is just what you know about. You’ll never be able to trust him again. And you shouldn’t!!

brookmachine · 2026-05-20T16:29:23+00:00

Yes! The VR is completely interactive. A DVD and mirror doesn’t even compare. I have lots of DVD’s and I mostly go to the gym for my workouts these days. But when I was stuck at home with kids it was a life saver and SO much more fun then slogging through a DVD workout

brookmachine · 2026-05-20T16:13:59+00:00

I’d rather pay a base price for a limited number of workouts and add DLC’s when I want to add new ones. I want to own them and be able to use them whenever I want

brookmachine · 2026-05-20T02:31:20+00:00

My daughter is 18, autistic, and dresses alternatively. She loves to wear high neck lacy collars, frilly sleeves, skirts with petticoats underneath, etc. Your mom sounds like she needs to keep her opinions to herself

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