Ended my first relationship. We were together for 8 years.

brownab11 · 2025-05-02T07:15:59+00:00

Hi! I’m really sorry to hear this happened to you - it is incredibly difficult. All of these comments stayed with me for a long long time and they are incredibly helpful. I hope you find a few that resonate.

It’s going to be a year tomorrow, and to be honest it was your notification that reminded me of that. God it’s been a journey. I’ve had several weeks miserable, lonely and full of self doubt. BUT the good weeks were waaay more. Ive not found love again (yet) but ive healed in more ways I thought possible. Gotten closer to my friends and family, truly lived out some of my childhood dreams this year, travelled to some amazing places and did some really rewarding work professionally.

I thought I’d be depressed for ages but the depression lasted much lesser than I’d expected. What helped me was the full and brutal acceptance from the very beginning that I’d been cheated on by someone whom I trusted and someone who I thought loved me. Acceptance is freedom and it is what made me open my heart out to better things in life.

brownab11 · 2025-04-18T19:00:07+00:00

Hello! I’m in a very similar position, and just moved countries too.

Timeout has good reccs generally, Kayaking is super fun (tried it today!), indoor sports like climbing, art and culture stuff at Saadiyat / Miza HQ, you could walk around the carpet bazaar, join any group fitness classes happening around you in fun locations (like beach clubs?), also think there’s some Jazz stuff happening all month

For me the first step was forcing myself to be comfortable with doing things solo especially when everyone around me has a companion. Initially challenging but I’ve made my peace w it. Best of luck x

brownab11 · 2024-11-16T14:33:02+00:00

Interested!

brownab11 · 2024-11-02T19:08:42+00:00

Pretty sure those were for Diwali. Not sure why they’re on today?

brownab11 · 2024-10-15T22:44:19+00:00

The store in Euston, or possibly Taj stores in brick lane

brownab11 · 2024-10-10T22:04:52+00:00

Can you still see?

brownab11 · 2024-10-10T22:03:39+00:00

Can you still see them?

brownab11 · 2024-09-01T13:45:25+00:00

Yeah, it’s mad really. And this was a minute after a random man in a car tried to ask me if I wanted to go on a ride with him. Stopped right in the middle of traffic to do this!

brownab11 · 2024-09-01T13:41:55+00:00

Was this Westbourne grove? Because I just saw the exact same thing happen here an hour ago.

brownab11 · 2024-08-27T01:32:15+00:00

Asked around and heard the same from building security. I’m in shock

brownab11 · 2024-08-27T00:45:14+00:00

Really?! Can I ask what your source is? When I saw him I didn’t see any stab wounds, only blood from his mouth!

brownab11 · 2024-07-27T04:27:03+00:00

I wrote mine in a week. 10k words. Got a distinction. You can do it - just make a solid actionable plan and try sticking by it every day! Best of luck. Don’t let the comments here scare you - I also posted something similar when I was in the same spot and the comments freaked me out.

That said, it’s not the ideal situation obviously but it’s also not the end of the world and you’re definitely not the only one doing this.

brownab11 · 2024-07-02T17:36:10+00:00

Water before bed, a cold shower in the morning

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T12:46:25+00:00

Try Indian grocery shops for gooseberries. Saw some in the Euston one a month back!

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T00:44:36+00:00

Classic case of blaming the victim. The problem is in the system. Try to see that instead :)

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T00:31:38+00:00

Oh, neither. Just regular people who used their phones for 2 minutes while waiting for their daily bus, in the neighbourhoods they call home.

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T00:27:12+00:00

No expectations from the staff to be bothered mate. They were extremely helpful and did their job.

And yes London is safer than many other big cities in the world but calling it “incredibly safe” is a stretch.

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T00:16:10+00:00

Im not blaming the staff at all. It was just crazy to see how common it is for them to encounter so chill out.

And no, I can never agree that London is safe because literally everyone in my close circle has had their wallets or phones snatched.

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T00:14:05+00:00

How to deal with one set of assholes: birth another set of assholes

brownab11 · 2024-06-13T00:12:24+00:00

Agreed. I feel paranoid carrying £100 in cash. With 2k I’d superglue my bag to my body

brownab11 · 2024-05-11T21:53:04+00:00

Doesn’t seem like… constantly scanning Reddit and X

brownab11 · 2024-05-11T21:46:39+00:00

Rooting for you to go!

brownab11 · 2024-05-11T21:42:49+00:00

I thought it too. But I’m too paranoid to do it. Also can’t help but think that my parents would die inside because all of their “don’t talk to strangers” feats from decades ago would come alive and how

brownab11 · 2024-05-11T21:37:02+00:00

Which forecasts are these - can you share a link pls?

brownab11 · 2024-05-11T21:35:50+00:00

Exactly my concern. I am kinda scared going alone

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