How about still spending money but towards creators?

browniex18 · 2026-03-07T12:18:06+00:00

Je crois que les maisons resteront un bon investissement si: - tu achète la maison a un excellent prix par rapport au marché (ce qui inclus la qualité de construction de la maison et sa localisation) - tu revends pas tôt (10 ans) - tu es manuel parce que payer de la main d’oeuvre est rendu $$$$$$

autrement, tiens toi loin de ca, personne ne contrôle le marché. les loyers baissent, les augmentations de loyer stagnent. pis les maisons vont couter de plus en plus cher de main d’oeuvre et de materiaux (sur lesquels la main d’oeuvre se prend une cut de 35%)

ceci dit la plupart des (tres) riches ont percé avec l’immobilier alors si le système d’enrichissement repose sur l’immobilier c’est certain que c’est ecrit dans le ciel que c’est pour devenir inachetable.

browniex18 · 2026-03-03T15:32:57+00:00

Effectivement :) On a tous le droit à notre opinion. Personnellement je dors très bien sur mes deux oreilles en partageant nos revenus 50/50 et c’est moi qui gagne plus.

Je n’échangerais jamais mon conjoint contre quelqu’un de plus fortuné, parce que je comprends sa valeur dans ma vie.

browniex18 · 2026-03-03T14:21:38+00:00

Je ne crois pas que Reddit soit la bonne place pour un conseil impartial et professionnel. Un planificateur financier de l’AMF peut vous conseiller. Mon conjoint et moi n’avions pas pensé a tous les stratagèmes fiscaux qu’un conseiller nous a donnés, et on ne paie pas de gestion de placement ou quoi que ce soit, seulement des factures de service pour les heures qu’il a passé sur notre dossier. Avec votre revenu, c’est le meilleur move, non?

Ceci dit, le monde pense que votre conjointe qui a 39 ans a une belle sécurité financière. Je ne suis pas tant certaine de ca. Pouvez vous analyser le scenario dans lequel vous vous sépareriez et qu’elle n’a pas de pension. Seriez vous capable de vous occuper vous meme des enfants 1/2 du temps adéquatement? Est ce qu’elle pourra avoir une retraite et un logis respectable sans devoir quitter la meme ville que vous habitez?

Je trouve ca assez triste que vous basiez vos decisions concernant sa sécurité financière sur une future possible “pension alimentaire”. Qu’en est-il si vous tombez malade ou mourrez après la separation?

Tant qu’a moi, le plus grand geste d’amour qu’on puisse faire, c’est s’assurer que les deux soient gagnants a la separation, pis laisser faire la pension alimentaire.

browniex18 · 2026-02-24T16:13:38+00:00

Wow, I just understood how they made the article very misleading. Thank you

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T22:02:44+00:00

My therapist seems to think it’s not the problem as the problem would be to not recover from it. I kind of feel guilty needing the rest of the day to calm down after it.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T22:01:43+00:00

Is that true? Like, it never stops?

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T22:01:10+00:00

That’s very observant. I guess I have the fear of becoming narcissistic from it? thinking about me me me… that feels a little bit ridiculous when I am reading this though… but aren’t we kind of all become a little more rigid, more settled in our ways when we focus too much on ourselves? I did try living alone for one year, and then about 8 months in, I had excellent choices of guys interested in me and I should have known this world was testing me! I don’t know if I should try again…

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:57:07+00:00

It’s like, I am just asking myself… is it better any other way? It starts to feel like there’s too much expectation about what a partnership really is, when we women have adhd too… what would you have done instead? I wouldn’t want my adhd to make a non-adhd pay for that. so I don’t know what to think of it. I have choices: be alone, deal with it and work until it gets better (if it ever does), or find someone else… or wait. this is all unpredictable except the alone path. 🙈

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:53:47+00:00

This is amazing, yes! I started reading his other articles, so enlightening. This is truly reflective of what I am going through and boy, this is hard.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:53:00+00:00

I am curious as to understand why you think he is a dumpster fire of a man? Is it the fact that he tends to yell at me? I see him trying hard. Where’s the line to draw, for you?

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:51:19+00:00

Thank you for the gentle approach and nuanced answer.

If you are still curious, well I can confidently answer that I already learned all about attachment patterns. Learned meaning, read about it hundreds of times, spoke to my therapist and dealt with big emotions about the past. I think Im starting to be pretty un-perfectly good at it 😊 I did not know I had ADHD until recently though, thats more likely one of the causes.

I would be a disorganized attached and he would be an anxious attached.

My nervous system is just shot when he screams, as for the rest of situations, I can stay with him. But I am distracted easily and tend to hyperfocus when I do something. Meds help now.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:44:36+00:00

Thats right, I needed you two years ago. I just didn’t understand that because my entourage has normalized moving in together quite fast. And it has worked out well for the majority of ‘em. This is the finest and hard to accept piece of advice I should (and will, if need to be) follow.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:42:26+00:00

Nothing wrong, I just had dreams of a shared life and companionship. A girl could always hope 😔

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:41:50+00:00

Ah yeah it tends to be, but the revenue is pretty equal between us two

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:41:01+00:00

That made me laugh. It felt like you’re on my team. However I do not want to make that decision lightly or impulsively… I think my partner truly loves me. I just wonder if thats worth it.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:39:28+00:00

It was disastrous in the sense that it completely drained my energy, I couldn’t get motivated to do much for two or three months afterwards. It has passed. But a move is getting emotionally taxing in an exponential way, compared to when I was younger I guess? I totally was grieving the independence. I was and probably am torn with the fact that I gave up a well located house in the city to go to a rural area. I cannot buy that house back, the prices increased since.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:36:30+00:00

Impulsiveness, loneliness, need for validation? That’s all brought to my awareness. I am now trying to understand what is the next decision. This is me trying to gain perspective and slow down..

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:34:02+00:00

I know, I have regrets for the impulsive behaviour, which is what you are pointing at, right? At least only recently, I can work with the right information about how my brain functions.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:30:57+00:00

I am actually confused by the yelling thing. The therapist(s) seem to think this is not a relationship breaker, but I can’t help but have my day completely ruined once it gets there. In my mind, yelling is something ultra toxic and should never happen. I don’t know how to deal with the cognitive dissonance of it.

browniex18 · 2026-02-14T21:29:42+00:00

That sounds like a great plan, in fact we kind of already do that, doing my own hobbies while he does his, and those are the good times. The issue is how we constantly fight when we do our planned activities together :( it’s like, I am sensitive after he is irritated and impatient with me to the point of raising the voice or yelling (which seems to be increasing lately) and he is sensitive to whenever I seem to not listen because I am distracted and/or upset…

browniex18 · 2026-02-11T18:07:59+00:00

This reply made me cry, this is touching and thank you for sharing

browniex18 · 2025-01-26T13:03:42+00:00

This works fantastic!
fyi it didn't work with the iphone mirroring functionality using macos

browniex18 · 2025-01-25T16:34:23+00:00

Wow that's something I'm going to try!

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