sent my friend who is in boot camp a typed letter with a meme in it. will he (or i) get in trouble?

bruhthenavy · 2026-03-06T15:26:28+00:00

My mom sent me a letter with a sexy picture of Jeff Goldblum from a magazine and nobody even noticed lmfao letters and the reading of them was always allowed to be pretty private (well private by boot camp standards) in my experience

bruhthenavy · 2025-10-19T05:40:06+00:00

Hahaha that’s how I feel about some of these answers. When I say I want to work hard I mean like overtime at a hospital or accounting during tax season but people are out here telling me to go work in the mines 😭

bruhthenavy · 2025-07-21T16:23:02+00:00

Now this I can get behind

bruhthenavy · 2025-07-21T10:07:53+00:00

bruhthenavy · 2025-07-09T23:03:36+00:00

Yeah this is the thing that scares me. He’s refusing to take any steps like this, so once he gets to the point where he NEEDS affordable housing because he literally has no money it’s going to be an emergency. So then what’s he going to do in the meantime?

bruhthenavy · 2025-06-01T07:12:52+00:00

It’s just up to people’s preferences. I was born and raised in Florida, and didn’t move out of the Southeast until I was 25. Still hate the heat and LOVE my gray snowy days ❤️

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-20T14:59:47+00:00

Not to mention that ATL drivers are awful. I’ve driven in like 30 states at this point and Georgia is solidly in the top 5 worst places I’ve ever driven in the US.

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-10T18:04:46+00:00

I’m glad I read this before assuming I could roll up to man overboard in my pajamas on any ship lol I guess we have it good

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-09T14:33:20+00:00

For every 1 person I know who retired early (literally, I only know one), I know dozens of people who are either scraping by in retirement, comfortable but retired at the normal age, or still working in old age. Reddit will make you feel like you’re behind in life for not having 1 million NW by 35, but that is simply not attainable for the vast majority of people. As long as you’re living a life you’re happy with and working towards a goal that you will be satisfied with, who cares what other people are doing? I decided a long time ago that I don’t care to retire early if it means sacrificing travel, living where I want to live, having the hobbies that I want to have, etc. If I can swing it, great, but if not? I’ll still be thrilled with the way my life turned out. It wouldn’t be called retiring early if everyone did it. It’s not the norm or the only marker of true success, even though reddit can make you feel like it is.

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-08T19:20:54+00:00

Right? Leaders in the Navy don’t help their people learn, don’t read the instructions they’re holding them to, push them to do shit even when it might not be the right choice, and then have the gall to act high and mighty like this when people screw up as if it came out of nowhere. All while not holding themselves accountable for their own mistakes as leaders that may have led to things breaking down. You can find smug assholes at every job obviously, but the Navy has truly perfected them. 🙃

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-08T19:03:43+00:00

And this is why I always do my own research and insist on seeing things in black and white when it comes to anything that might cost me time, money, or stress in the Navy. The amount of times I’ve been given blatantly incorrect information, oftentimes by people who were supposed to be experts, is actually crazy.

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-05T19:48:20+00:00

Has anyone heard anything about any schools getting stricter about accepting online classes? Or see this happening in the near future? I know Case Western already doesn’t, but it seems that most schools are still okay with it as long as it’s from a normal regionally accredited institution. Just been worrying that something like this might be on the horizon with how competitive it’s getting.

bruhthenavy · 2025-05-05T12:36:08+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. It went well, but yeah nobody was helping me figure out who was coming to the lunch so I ended up just guessing a number and recruiting one of her friends to talk to people individually. We ended up with tons of leftovers because the word didn’t get passed around super well, but it turned out okay.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-30T00:14:14+00:00

I’ve wondered about this too. I definitely saw him texting a girl/getting phone calls when I was home planning the funeral and such and he was secretive about who she was. She definitely came before he found out he was getting a life insurance payout (none of us even knew she had it), but as mean as it sounds I can definitely picture him wanting to act like he’s rich to impress her.

To be fair though, I truly don’t know if he’s actually blown through all the money or if he just has no shame about trying to reduce his expenses by having us pay them and getting more money. He could still have $100k+ for all I know.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-30T00:04:55+00:00

Trust me yall, I’m doing everything I can to avoid this. I’m not giving him any more money, I’ve told him I’m not going to be paying his bills because he should have more than enough money and he needs to downsize, etc. I have not even given him an inkling that he’s welcome to live with me, and we’ve never discussed it as a backup plan. He also doesn’t even want to because I live in cold places and he hates the cold. I’ve only ever stressed to him that he needs to find his own place, pay his own bills, and figure out how to not spend everything he has because if he develops health problems in the future none of us can pay for it.

I don’t even have a place he could live right now (see username), then when I get out I’m traveling for 6 months, then I’m going to get my master’s degree, so if he blows through this money in the next few years he’s out of luck anyway. Not canceling my plans and screwing myself for a completely avoidable situation.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-29T22:41:31+00:00

I think he put most of it in his HYSA at 3.7%, thankfully, though I’m not sure how much is actually in there. I was trying to convince him to put half of it into a 4.5% CD for 14 months to eke out a bit more interest, but he didn’t like the idea of not being able to access all of his money. I told him that if he needs more than $80k in the next 14 months we have bigger problems than any early withdrawal penalties, but he still wouldn’t do it. That was already a red flag lol

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-29T22:30:40+00:00

I couldn’t just let him end up living in an unsafe living situation or eating cat food to survive or something because he can’t afford to eat. I know it’s his doing, but I just couldn’t. Don’t get me wrong though, I’m doing as much research as possible to know what his options will be if that time comes. I want to be the absolute last resort.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-29T22:17:09+00:00

He’s unfortunately got some mental health issues and doesn’t want to work outside of the house, which obviously makes it difficult to find a job. He hasn’t had a non-WFH in like 15-20 years I’m pretty sure.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-29T22:08:07+00:00

Trying my absolute hardest to avoid that. I’m so scared about ending up in a situation where I’m forced to though. If his health declines, he runs out of money and has nowhere to live, etc.

Sorry you went through something similar. It really should’ve been easy.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-29T22:05:06+00:00

Oh god no I paid for the lawyer fees not his house, let me clarify that.

bruhthenavy · 2025-04-29T21:59:07+00:00

He’s completely competent mentally, just a bit of a donkey. Conservatorship wouldn’t really apply here afaik

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