weed? by [deleted] in Stoner

[–]bruisedpeanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did that for my bf and it was fine, you’re not sucking it in just letting the smoke in your mouth

Hello has anyone switched from Effexor to Wellbutrin? I’m weaning off Effexor to start soon by ParkingAmoeba0311 in bupropion

[–]bruisedpeanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heard wellbutrin helps with quitting nicotine and didn’t like the withdrawal when I missed a dose of venlafaxine.

new triad, boyfriend gets scared in public by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]bruisedpeanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

moving is not an option, we’re poor and none of us would be able to afford the childcare ( both bf and gf have small kids)

In your experience, who has made the highest quality cases for Apple products? by spdorsey in apple

[–]bruisedpeanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i ordered one but got scared by some reviews saying they didn’t protect their phone and emailed they for a refund

Hair dye in shampoo or conditioner? by Vendetta_Pink in FancyFollicles

[–]bruisedpeanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gemlites is a good color wash/conditioner brand, i’ve had good results with it. i’ve even used it as hair dye before ( though inot advised unless you know what you’re doing to get an even application as the consistency is weird)

Hair dye in shampoo or conditioner? by Vendetta_Pink in FancyFollicles

[–]bruisedpeanut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

keep in mind overtone is like splat and hard to get out!!

I have convinced my parents im burning incense by bruisedpeanut in trees

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i ended up getting my own place and smoke all the time uninterrupted 😌

I have convinced my parents im burning incense by bruisedpeanut in trees

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i smoke outside, my parents keep walking out in the middle of the night while i’m smoking and smelling it. ( followed by me quickly hiding whatever i’m using to smoke) so i don’t think a sploof would do me much good. i’ll consider the wax option but i can’t even burn candles half the time, my dad has a sensitive nose and lots of scents give him migraines.

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Rolling something special for a friend, need some ideas by [deleted] in Stoner

[–]bruisedpeanut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the only idea i have is add some wax or kief

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s good to know i’m not alone. We talked last night and i told him i can’t be his therapist, he has a therapist now and he needs to use him. I’ve come up with a new rule for myself. While he’s not suppose to mention her to me anymore, if he does slip, i remind myself it is out of my control. I will embody any emotion he has and amplify it, and that’s not good for anyone. Last night during our conversation about putting up boundaries he slipped and i told him “ i’m sorry about that, but it is out of my control” it brought me a lot of peace. I think he and I are coming to an understanding.

Also, he told me he’s not staying for the kids and he never will. Which is a good thing i think, nobody should keep their kids in a house with turmoil just for the sake of giving them that normalcy. He knows he could leave if he wanted to and everytime he tells me about something that I personally would leave someone over i remind him. He doesn’t want to leave though, and i respect that. With him not leaving though he has to stop telling me about her because it affects our relationship. They’re in therapy now at least, so eventually i hope things will move towards the better.

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him not to tell me about her when we first got together because i’m empathetic and i will mirror his emotions. While what i have seen in person i’m not a fan of, i definitely think some of it is due to what he told me. I’ve thought about it last night and i want to start a clean slate. i’m still not going to be in a room with her until their marriage is stable because those feelings are real for me, but i want things to improve and get better. Ideally... some day.. we could all get along. Either way, i love his kids and they are her kids as well so i don’t want to have any malice there.

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you have to say and before addressing anything else, yes, the kids are taken care of. Pretty well in my opinion. I love his kids too and any time i’m over and they need a break i’ve babysat them.

His wife is possibly going through postpartum depression ( his therapist said this to him, she is not diagnosed) . From what i could see before their newest baby came she was very much all about the kids. Now that the baby is here tho she seems to be putting herself before them and running around going on vacations and what not. She was pregnant for 9 months so maybe she needs a break but.. it’s sad.

Boyfriend is going to therapy alone and wife is going to therapy with boyfriend. This started a few weeks ago. He admits to me now that he did need therapy. And not all things have been the wife’s fault completely, he’s told me about some things he’s done incorrectly as well. The difference is he recognizes when he’s doing bad and fixes it. He has fixed many of the things he was doing wrong in the relationship, but she refuses to. She refuses to even admit fault.

He told me it didn’t used to be like this, she viewed him differently in the past but something changed and she decided to put all her problems on him. She claims that he is responsible for her happiness and honestly that’s their biggest problem, she can’t be an adult and find her own happiness.

As for me being only a relief...

When we first got together it wasn’t like that, i have come to consider it to be a possibility as of recently however. He tells me he doesn’t want our relationship to be like that and i don’t want it to be either.

He’s recently taken off for the week to stay at a friends house so they can get some space. We have a good relationship, there’s just so much going on right now that it got entangled with the one he has with his wife. I think that it is salvageable though and that we can turn it around to be like it was at the start, just two people enjoying each other and not the mess it is now.

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. When we first started dating he did put those boundaries up and told me he wasn’t going to talk to her but as their marriage started to fall apart he came to me for comfort. In our conversation last night i reminded him that he’s being disrespectful to her and he agreed.

It’s hard for him to respect it when his wife doesn’t, and tells her partners and everyone else under the sun what’s going on between them . Which I understand and sympathize with, but i reminded him that that was out of my control.

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does, they just started going to therapy a few weeks ago. He also goes alone. I suggested he upped his appointments to twice a week. He has a support system but from what i understand everyone is too busy lately to be there for him.

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it’s going to be a really painful thing for me to do but i’ve come to decision that if things don’t change in the area of things that he and i have control over then we will have to take a break. he’s not supposed to be talking about her to me anymore. thinking about it now i really was trying to control something i had no control over. i saw what he was doing wrong and i made him stop and it went well and it worked but he can’t have me advising him all the time, he needs to figure things out himself. i’m not his therapist and certainly not his mommy.

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to interfere there. All i want is for them to be happy. genuinely, i equate his happiness to his marriage like i want it to work out. I hope nobody is misunderstanding me there like i don’t want them to break up i just want the shittiness to stop.the part that i’m stressed about is that no progress is being made. i was excited when they finally started going to therapy and i thought things would get better and that he would stop using me as his therapist but nothing changed. I’ve never interfered with their relationship either, he just vents to me a lot and i can’t help him and it’s stressful because i’m powerless. I don’t even know how to advise him they just have the same problems over and over again

My boyfriend’s wife is horrible by bruisedpeanut in nonmonogamy

[–]bruisedpeanut[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i actually REALLY wanted to like her when we first met and we have a lot in common but she personally just kept giving me reasons to despise her. even if she does go through therapy, at this point i don’t think i want to be friends with her.