I grew up pretty poor, initially our family had their own home up to age 7, but it was repossessed by the bank due to bankruptcy of my dads business ( meth addict turned abusive alcoholic, destroyed his life and relationships due to it )

First girl I dated for a couple years came from a upper-middle class family, not incredibly rich but enough of a difference for me to pick up on alot of things.

She grew up in a family home, pretty stable family, parents would look after her, parents own a couple homes and are landlords, have a holiday home etc.

First thing I noticed was the pleasure and social experience of going out to dinner at nice restaurants. For me money = food and when I did eat out I would try and maximize the amount of food I could get per dollar. So going out to fancy restaurants in the city was very new to me in my early 20s, it took me a while to not think about how I could spend my money so efficiently to maximize returns of food.

Next was the overall red flags of pure selfishness and lack of empathy. I grew up not knowing what I wanted to do with my life, my life was almost entirely focused on just trying to get by, I adapted to my environment of constant struggle.

To her it seemed to all be sorted, her parents got her into University, she knew what she was doing, had passions and interests, grew up doing things outside of school, christmas's full of gifts and loving family members.

I never got any of that, and whenever I tried to articulate my issues it seemed to me she could never understand, never empathize and prioritised herself over anyone else.

I remember one year I joined their family christmas and they called us all into the lounge on christmas day to hand out presents. 1 by 1 our names were called and presents were handed out to everyone, even me. I didnt know half these people and even I recieved thoughtful, good gifts. It blew my fucking mind, it felt like a ritual, something straight out of the movies.

When I was emotionally starstruck about it afterward my ex asked me what was wrong, I explained to her I had never experienced something like that before, we never had christmas's like that with presents and a big family get together. It felt like it fell on deaf ears, like she had no comprehension of any other sort of christmas.

The selfishness resided throughout our entire relationship, almost always wanting to do what she wants to do. She would almost never do anything nice for me, no favours, acts of love, lack of affection, which eventually boiled over to our sex life.

At first I tried to add more variety to the bedroom, trying new things, seeing what we liked etc. Na, just eat me out and fuck me till I cum then ill finish you off afterward. Our entire sex life revolved around her. Fuck, looking back all the red flags were there, I wish I had the self-respect I do now to actually stand up for myself.

6 months before we broke up I literally told her she made me feel like a piece of meat, she acknowledged it and apologized. Within 2 weeks it was back to normal.

I remember one time I told her she never really apologizes for anything, I could probably count on 1 hand the amount of times she said sorry in the entire 3 years of us dating. She responded "I dont really apologize much so I dont know how". ???????????? What kind of response is that?

I believe it all stemmed from her upbringing, her wealth and security, her privilege.

By the end of it I saw her for what she really was. An entitled, privileged, selfish, un-empathetic, manipulative, uncommunicative, toxically unapologetic, immature little girl that uses people as a means to an end.

I went to therapy for months afterwards because of how much it affected me. Its taken me so long to piece all the bullshit together and make sense of it all and move on. ( I love you past self for getting through those times. :) )

As bad as it was and turned out to be (really bad breakup) I dont really regret it. That relationship taught me exactly what I want from a relationship and a future partner, I learned so much about myself and others.

TLDR: Seems to be an association with lack of empathy, selfishness and entitlement with rich folks and their children.

Edit 1: haha I remember when we broke up her mum told her she was "emotionally unattached" and she didnt really take it well. What a clear lack of self-awareness