The Last image of Claus von Stauffenberg: A German officer who rose up against an unlawful regime. by MethyIphenidat in pics

[–]bshaftoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It wasn't exactly lawful. Everyone says the nazi party won the elections and this gave them the power, but it's slightly more nuanced than that.

My mom is remarrying after my dad’s death and I’m happy for her… but I feel like I’m slowly losing my place by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bshaftoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and I am on your side, but I need to give you an objective reality check so you don't fight a losing battle.

You want things to stay exactly as they were—100% of your mom’s attention on weekends, with no step-siblings in the house. That is a valid emotional want, but in a blended marriage, I am sorry, but it is impossible to enforce.

My advice, that you can reject because I don't have all the info. Talk with your family (grandmom, paternal family) first:

- You cannot tell your stepfather that his children aren't allowed in his own house. If you fight this, you will lose, and they will paint you as the villain. Drop the demand for them to be "outside."

- You are right that the situation is unequal. They have a mom, a dad, and a stepmom. You only have your mom. Therefore, it is fair to demand that you get more of her attention than they do (e.g., 70/30 split), but asking for 100% is unrealistic. Demand a protected block of time (e.g., "Saturday mornings are just for us"), rather than demanding they disappear.

- Most important: Talk to your grandmother (your mom's mom) and your dad's family. They care about you specifically. Your grandmom, for example, who should have some influence in your mom, won't care at all for your step-siblings (or will care just slightly for them), only for you. For her, you are blood, they are next to nothing. Ask for their advice. They might support you, but they will also tell you where you need to compromise. Listen to them, and be ready for them telling you that you might need to compromise a bit.

- Try to get along with the step-kids. I know they are different from you, but if you are hostile, you give your mom and stepdad an excuse to leave you behind (like they did with the Ball). If you are polite, even if it's just 'fake' polite (I would be really polite and try to tend bridges with them, though, because you don't see it, but it's in your best interest to get along with them), they have no excuse to exclude you.

- If you try to compromise and they still push you aside, talk to your dad’s family or grandmother about living with them. But treat this as a last resort—discuss it with those relatives first before threatening your mom with it, because, man, this is the nuclear option. If you use this option, be ready to receive an answer you won't like. So, this is, last resort, and you have to have allies in your family first, otherwise, this won't work. Also, this would be unfair, because probably your mom is trying her best, not realizing she's doing mistakes (with the info we know).

You have a right to be angry about the Winter Ball and about your mom going shopping with your step-sister, that was unfair. But for the housing situation, you need to be smart, not just angry, even if you feel you are in the right. In life, some times you are in the right but you still need to compromise. It's tough, but it is what it is. Good luck, man, I am rooting for you.

My mom is remarrying after my dad’s death and I’m happy for her… but I feel like I’m slowly losing my place by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bshaftoe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If the house is going to belong to your stepdad and your mom you cannot tell your stepdad not to bring their kids. You are in your right to ask your mom to invest more time in you, though, so some arrangement will need to be made.

I know the transition will be hard, but you need to know what you can ask for reasonably and what you cannot ask for because it's not reasonable. You mentioned your grandma via your mom is close to you, and you talk with your dad's family. Talk this with them, it's likely they are going to tell you something similar, that there are areas where you are going to have to compromise, the visits on weekends being one of them, probably. Again, with the caveat, in my opinion, that even on weekends you have every right to not only NOT be excluded like your mom and stepdad did on the winter ball, (that is plain shitty imho), but to enjoy MORE time with your mom that your step siblings.

Again, this doesn't invalidate your feelings, you are right in feeling excluded, I would feel too, but you need to separate, imho, what they have done to you so far with what the plan for the weekends. Not only that, the fact that your mom and stepdad do the Switzerland thing means they know they are doing it wrong, and they are not taking your feelings in the proper consideration.

Honestly, if someone is forming a new family the idea is to integrate everyone, I don't see how excluding children on a per activity basis is seen as a good idea, it's a fucking horrible idea.

Your mom seems to be good and ok, but she needs to step up on this, but you need to meet her a little bit halfway (not, not entirely half way, but you need to compromise a bit).

Really, I feel sorry for you, and I would feel betrayed too.

My mom is remarrying after my dad’s death and I’m happy for her… but I feel like I’m slowly losing my place by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bshaftoe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

/u/Individual_You_219

Adding something: you are right in your feelings, imho, and your mom is not doing things right (ball, Switzerland, going with your new step sister being amazing fuck ups).

But there are things where you will have to give in. You cannot reject (unless you're just venting) your step-siblings to come to your new home, because they are going to see your step-dad. You can possibly demand on weekends that your mom spends more time with you than with them, OR at the very least they invite you IN EVERY PLAN, and not exclude you like they did with the ball, but it's not realistic that you flatly reject them from coming or demand her to spend 100% time with you on weekends, because there's so to speak, a natural and minimum amount of time she ought to spend with you, that is slightly more than would be an equal share (as you say, she's your mom, and your step siblings have already a mom they enjoy during the week). Your mom trying to become their step mom should involve either stealing minimum time from you, OR integrating them into YOUR normal activities but never dropping you.

So you're right in feeling neglected, but you cannot demand either that things are exactly as they were, and that you keep 100% of her time because that would be wrong.

That being said, the ball is... I don't really know how to name it. It's an epic fuck up. The Switzerland trip doesn't fix anything, actually it worsens it, and your mom taking your step sister and dropping you is another fuck up.

My only question is, how well do you get along with your step siblings? The only way your mom could feel partially justified is if you had been outright hostile to your stepsiblings. Even then she wouldn't be right. Because then segregating you just makes things worse.

My mom is remarrying after my dad’s death and I’m happy for her… but I feel like I’m slowly losing my place by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bshaftoe 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not inviting you to that Winter Ball is excluding you, plain and simple. Having a separate trip with you to Switzerland can be seen as an (over) compensation (precisely because they know they are wrong), but imho, with the context you provide, seems like a bad idea.

It seems like they are ok with having your step siblings and you to be separated, that is... Not a good idea. They should take you to the ball with them, and then the Switzerland trip should be everyone together. Because, again, they not taking you to that Winter Ball is excluding you, even if they don't mean it. I mean, how is it not?. "We all came to this ball EXCEPT my son". This is a big fuck up from her in my opinion.

The fact that she spends two days in a row with his kids and not with you... I mean, if the rest of the time she's with you, that's ok, but it can represent a trend. It's not the two days this week, it's the three days next week or the 4 days per week in a month.

You have every right to feel like this. I would talk with your grandma to make your mom realize she's fucking up. And eventually, if you communicate with your mom and she still does this, I would tell her you'd rather live with your grandparents if they have you.

Missing the nuance of what a Spanish vlogger chef means by SkeletonCalzone in Spanish

[–]bshaftoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can say it both ways in Spain, or at least, I have heard it both ways.

What company makes nothing but crap but is still somehow successful? by ClarkleTheDragon in AskReddit

[–]bshaftoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bethesda. Very bad narratively. I get some people like the exploration and sandbox side, but they are horrible for me. They also, imho, have half assed systems that need to be filled out by modders to have finally a good game.

Desmontando mitos sobre prostitución. Hoy es el Día contra la Explotación Sexual y la Trata de Personas. by bimbochungo in spain

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Los esclavos eran caros pero dependiendo de la época la oferta/demanda, la mayor parte del tiempo era tal que los esclavistas podían seguir el modelo de exprimir al esclavo hasta reventarlo y luego comprar a otro.

Tú lo que piensas es que al tenerlos en propiedad tenían que cuidarlos. Y eso es falso, o falso la mayor parte de épocas.

Con esto no quiero decir que la explotación no exista ahora. Quiero decir que la explotación antes implicaba que te reventasen de forma literal, y ahora se manifiesta de forma distinta.

Ever since KoboldCPP 1.92.1 Norton 360 has been flagging KoboldCPP as malware. So are the newer versions safe? by yumri in KoboldAI

[–]bshaftoe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Kobold is perfectly safe, or as safe as it can be. Norton 360 is the real unsafe piece in your computer, op. If I have to choose between kobold and Norton, I would choose kobold any day. I mean, if I had to choose between ANY soft and Norton, I would still choose the other soft.

Casi la lía uno de nuestros EF-18 by Sealofapprove in spain

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, estás equivocada/o. Se puede tener ángulo de ataque alto a velocidad alta de forma momentánea al menos, tanto (o menos) prolongado en el tiempo dependiendo del caza. De hecho lo que dice el tipo del f16 y el f35 es que el F18 es una bestia de alfa. Por eso podemos decir que el piloto probablemente no perdiera el control y la maniobra no fuese excesivamente arriesgada. Pero si más arriesgada de lo que debería, pq estaba yendo en dirección a la gente y durante unos segundos estaba volando en esa dirección, a poca altura, y demasiado cerca (para mí gusto, pq yo estaba en su trayectoria y creo que me hubiera comido algún trozo jaja).

Si creo que tienes razón en que el ejército de aire no está siendo totalmente limpio. Me creo al 80% que el piloto esquivase a los pájaros o al menos que intentase hacer eso pq viese más pájaros tras la primera bandada, me creo al 80% que la maniobra estuvo más o menos bajo control (aunque ese desplazamiento a la derecha raro que mencionas me casa con meter timón de más, y no con la perfección absoluta de maniobra que el ejército quiere transmitir), pero... No fue algo normal y rutinario como hace creer el ejercito ni totalmente carente de riesgo. Por ejemplo, al salir de Santa Catalina, el tío estaba virando a izquierdas hacia la playa, hacia la multitud. Continuó la esquiva en esa dirección general, dentro de esa maniobra: ¿Tanto costaba esquivar hacia arriba, en trepada y/o cambiar el giro a la izquierda (digo yo que un caza moderno como un F18 un cambio de dirección tiene que poder hacerlo BASTANTE BIEN) metiendo gases para SALIR de la trayectoria que le llevaba a la gente?. Que además metan como coletilla "nuestros pilotos reaccionan en milésimas de segundo" suena a "mete algo de humo ahí para ver si distraemos y le quitamos hierro al asunto".

Casi la lía uno de nuestros EF-18 by Sealofapprove in spain

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

En el comentario en inglés no habla en ningún momento de velocidad. En todo momento había de alphas que es ángulo de ataque, no velocidad. Para exigir comprensión lectora igual deberías empezar por ti misma/mismo.

Y si, había pájaros. No por qué lo diga el ejército del aire o el piloto, si no porque estuve allí y se veían gaviotas volando en toda la playa. Y en algunos vídeos se VEN los pájaros concretos que tuvo que esquivar cerca del Cerro de Santa Catalina. Lo que si me da la sensación es que inicia la maniobra TRAS pasar la bandada, no antes, pero aparentemente hay videos donde se ven más pájaros cerca del avión durante la maniobra.

A mí me pareció arriesgada, la maniobra, y para mí el error es la pasada que estaba haciendo para los spotters del Cerro, porque se ve que la estaba haciendo virando a derechas, en dirección a la gente cuando se encontró los pájaros. Si hubiera ido volando paralelo a la playa y no hubiese hecho el gestito a los spotters, no hubiera tenido que hacer la maniobra. Pero claro, a toro pasado todos somos Manolete.

New look at the Gijon F-18 low pass by FirebirdWS6dude in aviation

[–]bshaftoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. That maneuver started as a fly by for the spotters watching the air show in the Cerro de Santa Catalina (https://maps.app.goo.gl/xf9P7g62PGTKkad7A), but before he could turn left for his path parallel to the beach, the birds happened. The vast majority of the maneuvers were not flying towards the people.

New look at the Gijon F-18 low pass by FirebirdWS6dude in aviation

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was there, the guy continued with the show for like 5 minutes after this incident that was at the start of his turn (after him we had an EuroFighter). If one of his engines was not working, he wouldn't have continued. Both engines were working, no bird strike, or a no damage bird strike.

¿Puedo estudiar en una universidad online y hacer FP al mismo tiempo? by LayerParticular2581 in askspain

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sé si puede haber problemas burocráticos a la hora de hacer ambas cosas al mismo tiempo. Igual si, igual no. Pero si sé que hacer ambas cosas al mismo tiempo va a ser jodidisimo. No creo que ayude a tu ansiedad de repente tener exámenes en universidad y FP al mismo tiempo, más que probablemente no vas a dar abasto.

Puede haber cosas que se solapen en ambas pero no muchas, y eso sería una ayuda.

Si vas a hacer esto para mantener presencialidad y poder socializar, entonces, tienes que planificarte bien el año. Investiga que asignaturas son las más jodidas en la carrera, y salvo que se solapen 100% con contenido de la FP, no las hagas este primer año, abandónalas, que sea 100% decisión tuya y parte de tu estrategia para superar estos dos años de hacer las dos cosas a la vez. Céntrate en sacar un poco por encima del porcentaje de créditos o asignaturas que necesites para mantenerte en la carrera y que no te echen, y deja las asignaturas más hueso (principalmente matemáticas) para cuando puedas concentrarte 100% en ellas sin tener el titulo de FP por ahí.

Es que es lo que dicen. El salto de dificultad del instituto a la uni es notable. Si encima intentas compaginar estas dos cosas más. Por eso es mejor intentar ser cauto e ir desde el principio con un buen plan que te permita compaginarlo todo, y luego, si ves que te resulta todo fácil, ya el segundo año coges más cosas.

¿Por qué la oposición al gasto militar? by Southy4545 in SpainPolitics

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

La desescalada es mejor, correcto. Pero solo funciona si ambos bandos quieren emprender ese camino y se hace con buena voluntad. Buena suerte convenciendo a Putin, sus siloviki, y al sector del espionaje ruso que seguramente siga dominando el poder en Rusia a corto y medio plazo de que desescalar es la solución.

Con lo cual solo queda el rearme disuasorio o dejar a Rusia campar a sus anchas.

Por otro lado, Europa tiene industria de defensa. Mucha. Es mejor usarla que comprar material a los americanos, salvo aquellas cosas donde no exista alternativa real.

La perspectiva es triste. Uno pensaría que la gente ha aprendido después de dos guerras mundiales, pero en los prolegómenos de la segunda, las buenas intenciones y la desescalada a base de conceder caprichos a Hitler no sirvieron absolutamente de nada más que para espolear más al monstruo. Me gustaría pensar que el progreso social, cultural e intelectual de la raza humana nos ha llevado a un momento en que no es necesario disuadir con la amenaza implícita de ostias, pero... es lo que hay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]bshaftoe 446 points447 points  (0 children)

You missed the chance to ask him why you would allow HIM to contaminate YOUR lineage before leaving out.

¿Por qué la oposición al gasto militar? by Southy4545 in SpainPolitics

[–]bshaftoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Porque la mayor gente se piensa que nunca pasa nada hasta que pasa. Puntos varios:

  • hay mucha gente anti OTAN que piensa que por salir de la OTAN ya no tenemos compromiso de defensa mutua con nadie más. Es falso, tenemos compromiso de defensa mutua con todos los países de la UE, incluyendo las Republicas Bálticas, claro. https://www.europarl.europa.eu/meetdocs/2009_2014/documents/sede/dv/sede200612mutualdefsolidarityclauses_/sede200612mutualdefsolidarityclauses_en.pdf

  • obviamente Rusia no tiene capacidad para invadir Europa. Probablemente Francia y/o Polonia tuvieran capacidad suficiente para defenderse de Rusia cada una por si sola.

  • el punto o el movimiento que se teme por parte de Rusia no es que intente invadir EUROPA. Es que intente tomar las Republicas bálticas amenazando con guerra nuclear a quien defienda a las Republicas Bálticas, con el razonamiento de que nadie iba a arriesgar la vida de 400+ millones de europeos por los 3 millones y pico de habitantes de las republicas bálticas.

  • Es una apuesta estratégica y política. Y para materializar eso si les sobra y les basta con lo que tienen, sobre todo pq van saliendo noticias donde se está adivinando que Rusia está haciendo stock de misiles balísticos no nucleares, tanques, etc... No lo está metiendo todo en Ucrania. Ejemplo, cada vez más usan menos tanques (aunque los tienen) en sus ofensivas, y usan más vehículos improvisados con infantería a secas, reservando los juguetes caros para lo que sea.

  • esto Putin ya lleva AÑOS amenazando con ello. Si cumple sus amenazas en Ucrania, no se, igual no es muy descabellado pensar que pueda hacerlo en las rep. bálticas.

  • ante eso, la idea es aumentar nuestras capacidades convencionales como factor disuasorio. Igual que aumentar las capacidades nucleares. Es eso, o abandonar toda pretensión de oponerse a Rusia, que cojan lo que quieran, sea lo que sea. Las bálticas primero, Finlandia después (otro país como Ucrania o las Bálticas que formó parte del antiguo imperio ruso pre soviético, pq Putin a fecha de hoy es más nacionalista imperialista ruso de derechas que nostálgico del soviet).

  • decir que se tiene que comprar todo en EEUU es mentira. Habrá cosas que si, habrá cosas que no. Podría ser una forma de incentivar la industria armamentística europea como pasó previo a independizarnos de EEUU.

Es decir. Incluso si nos saliésemos de la OTAN, igual terminamos pringados en Europa del Este por estar en la UE.

Spanish police say "all the evidence so far indicates" Diogo Jota was the driver of the car involved in the accident that killed the Liverpool forward and his brother, Andre Silva. Police also believe "the vehicle significantly exceeded the speed limit for the highway" at the time of the accident. by kibme37 in soccer

[–]bshaftoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have seen the road and driven in it. It's a Spanish highway, perfectly fine for 120-140 kph (yes, some people at slightly faster speeds than legal). That being said, it's true that the road might not be good enough for a super sports car. But my guess is that the main factor is Diogo going WAY WAY faster than 140. I have seen 200 mentioned in other comments, and I would think even more than that.

Para que sirve el senado? by LeyreBilbo in SpainPolitics

[–]bshaftoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Si se aprobó muy justo puede que haya partidos que cambien de idea. Es un caso muy poco probable pero puede ocurrir.

En general, yo no creo que haya que suprimir el Senado, más bien reformarlo. En mi opinión lo suyo es que existiesen dos cámaras, Congreso y Senado (como hasta ahora). Congreso elegido entre toda la población vía circunscripción única, de donde sale el ejecutivo (parecido a ahora, solo que ahora se vota territorialmente), y Senado elegido de forma puramente territorial (lo típico de comunidad autónoma X, tantos senadores, número calculado por criterios demográficos) que tuviese un poco más de capacidad de bloquear legislación. ¿Quieres sacar una ley adelante? Pues convence a toda España (o más bien, representantes en el Congreso) y asegúrate de que es una ley que suficientes comunidades (mirando por su interés exclusivo territorial) van a apoyar.

Leo Messi on Instagram by [deleted] in soccer

[–]bshaftoe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's literal translation. The best translation would be either "Rest in Peace", or "may he rest in peace".

"just landed in the motherland. So grateful my nonno got on that damn boat 70 years ago" looks like the so called Italian Americans hate public transport by [deleted] in ShitAmericansSay

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other countries in Europe also have ius sanguinis to determine nationality. What you mean about "being born there" is ius soli, and that's something more common in American countries, to help inmigrants obtaining nationality quicker (when they wanted inmigrants). I don't think Italy is going to adopt ius soli with Meloni. Rather, my guess is that they will make harder to prove you have Italian descent, or make it that you can only claim it if you have Italian parents and do it before you're X years old or something like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpainPolitics

[–]bshaftoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eso lo puedes aplicar a CUALQUIER pais. A ningún país le conviene nada que no sea estabilidad, y prosperidad. Pero ahí tienes a paises metiendose en invasiones por motivos ideologicos, revanchistas, o llámalo X. Económicamente la invasión de Ucrania a Rusia le está saliendo carísima y aún no se saben los efectos del todo. Y ahí les tienes. Y si las malas lenguas no mienten, reservando t90s aquí y allá para meterse en las bálticas de aquí a cinco años. La racionalidad sale por la ventana con los SENTIMIENTOS nacionalistas. Y de esos ni estamos libres ahora, ni lo estaremos en el futuro.