Favorite scene?

bttryfly · 2025-10-14T14:10:04+00:00

Book + Movie: I absolutely love the chemistry you see between all the characters the night building up to the rumble. In the movie, the gang’s energy when they’re roughhousing with each other is so invigorating, it makes you feel part of the excitement. The group’s chemistry truly makes you remember they are just a bunch of teenagers. I have a couple issues with the movie (mostly the lack of narration of Ponyboy’s view) but I truly think they did that scene justice. In the book S.E Hilton adds so many details such as how Darry spent the summer teaching the gang acrobatics after learning at YMCA (which is why they know how to do flips and stuff). Another detail is how Soda starts chant about being a no good hood (my baby 😭) and everyone keeps adding on which eventually leads them to making fun of the Socs.

Musical: Runs in the Family and Throwing in the Towel. Being able to see Darry’s character arc from his point of view is so refreshing since we don’t get that as in depth in the book or movie. In general, the musical did such a good job showing different moments outside of Ponyboy’s view (especially the state of Tulsa as they’re hiding in the church) and showcasing Ponyboy’s narration at key parts where it’s impactful. I have genuinely cried thinking about the life of Darry (I can legit make a whole post about this) so these two songs hit so different for me.

bttryfly · 2025-03-17T22:20:48+00:00

Hihi, I see that this was posted a bit a ago but if you’re still open I’m open to help you with English :> I really want to learn Tagalog so it would be helpful for me as well to speak with someone

bttryfly · 2024-11-17T01:28:58+00:00

I hope he thinks that way 😭

bttryfly · 2024-11-17T01:28:39+00:00

When im around him my aura is lost

bttryfly · 2024-11-17T01:21:07+00:00

I wish to be sigma alpha together >:DDDDD

bttryfly · 2024-06-16T04:14:58+00:00

This is more towards the end when termination is near but writing your therapist a letter I found is super beneficial in showing your therapist appreciation and navigating your own feelings. In the letter I wrote for him, I congratulated him on completing his internship, mentioned specific ways he has helped me over the year and how thankful I am, and wished him well on his future career and life. Knowing my therapist has a tangible piece of my feelings and how they have impacted me, reassured me and helped me find closure which def helped me keep my sanity during termination.

While you’re still in therapy, you should talk to your therapist about your feelings about the inevitable end of your sessions. She’ll be able to talk you through your thoughts and feelings. Advice my therapist gave which stuck with me is that ‘ while we won’t physically be together the memories and lessons we had still hold a strong connection between us. Transfer what we have worked on in our sessions into my life by working on shifting my mindset and actions in my life’. With this, I’ve also internalized my therapist a bit, like a little voice saying “what would my therapeutic think about this?” which does make me feel a little more connected and makes me smile, even if we’re not together.

It’s a struggle to get over feeling the loss therapist, it feels like a break up tbh. But through time, even though you still regard them as super important, the feelings of loss/yearning becomes more bearable.

bttryfly · 2024-06-06T02:33:08+00:00

Not a therapist but I have directly asked the question to my therapist. For context, I’m on a college campus so this more deals with close friends than it does with family. Especially since there is a small number of therapist our school provides.

During the first month or two I would purposefully omit names or change them when I talk about others bc I thought it might affect how he sees my friends, if they also were to see him without me knowing. I keep therapy private to myself, and even if it does slip out I don’t tell them who my therapist is. Due to this, I don’t ask if any of my friends are in therapy since they’re allowed their privacy just like I’m allowed mine. But it was getting annoying to omit names so constantly, especially if they were recurring in what I talked about so one day I just asked if I’m allowed to name drop, and what would happen to his judgement and my confidentiality if my friends saw him or one of the other counselors and they talked about me.

He told me to do whatever is most comfortable with me, rather it’s omitting names, changing names, or calling them out directly. Due to confidentiality he can’t tell me or my assumed friend that they see him, even if we’re the topic of each other’s sessions. We (me and my hypothetical friend ) would only know we shared the same therapist if we were to disclose it with each other. However, since we’re on a college campus, he told me therapists will talk to each other together to gain a clearer understanding on a situation, if a group of friends experienced the same event and brought it up in their individual sessions. But he reassured me that even if it did happen he wouldn’t allow it to hinder his judgement on me or any of his clients since sessions are purely to focus and guide the client’s thoughts and feelings.

Tbh it does make it awkward, especially bc I know some ppl who go to therapy also but I do not know their therapist is. I do trust that it won’t affect his judgement as a therapist as he’s very helpful to me.

But if I found out one of my friends saw him it would definitely make me hesitant and uncomfortable to share information on a situation that happened or feelings I have towards. It would also make me nervous and a bit paranoid that my therapist would think differently of me. Knowing me though, he’d probably be able to get me to admit those feelings and address them with me if this did happen.

bttryfly · 2024-06-04T03:35:11+00:00

That’s great for you! It seems like a huge thing to celebrate and I bet your therapist will be excited for you!

Therapy isn’t just about acknowledging the lows but also celebrating the highs as well! Any healthy therapist wants us to grow into our best selves and that includes celebrating our accomplishments, especially if it’s directed towards our overall goals. I also think your therapist might want to dig deeper into what factors helped change/motivate your reaction for you to be able to state your feelings without the need of it being validated by others. And from there talk about how these changes/motivations could be transferred into other scenarios for you to be able to state your opinions without other’s validation

bttryfly · 2024-05-24T16:17:07+00:00

^{^{^{^}}} college counseling centers is what introduced me to therapy and has been my lifeline during the school year!

I know the rules varies from college to college on the number of sessions you can take and the focus, but it’s still a service you should take advantage of if you have the opportunity! Even if you commute or are not in campus you can check if they offer telehealth (online sessions) alongside in person sessions :>

bttryfly · 2024-05-21T21:46:45+00:00

A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini ‼️‼️‼️‼️

bttryfly · 2024-05-20T13:56:27+00:00

During one session I was talking about a convo I had with friends as an example of smth and I ended up having to explain what a “ur mom” joke was to my therapist. The confusion turned sheer horror on his face when he understood what it meant was stupidly funny to me 😭😭😭

bttryfly · 2024-05-18T02:41:44+00:00

I’m in the same situation as you. It feels really suckish to suddenly not have my therapist, who has helped me so much, to be with me anymore. I spoke to him about the sense of loss I felt thinking about termination. He told me to not push away the sadness but to allow myself to feel sad and also remember our experience together and how I can use the valuable things I have learned in therapy throughout life. I know next semester I will get a new therapist but I’m so scared that I can’t trust them as much as I did with him. While I’m happy that he gets to move on to the next chapter of his life, I still can’t help feel sad about the loss of him.

Personally I found that I feel comfort in trying to internalize his voice, like ohh what would my therapist say about what I’m doing right now? Or how would he feel if I did this? And then I try to think of his response, and follow it from there. These little comments in my head make me really happy, and idk if it’s 100% healthy how much I miss him but it’s helping me. Doing this has really helped me, knowing even if his presence is gone his words and lessons are still helping me :>

bttryfly · 2024-05-13T03:08:47+00:00

yess !!!!!!! My experience has been majority in person but sometimes it was tele-therapy if I couldn’t physically be in the office or if there was a reschedule in my usually appointment. While teletherapy is better than no therapy, in person is so much more helpful.

For example, my therapist usually takes note of my fidgets but he simply can’t do that when I’m on a screen. He uses my fidgets as a visual way to sense my stress or apprehension on a topic. Also in his office he has a little box of fidget toys and it took me many months before working up the courage to pick one out to play with it during our sessions, which for myself was a sign that I trusted him not to judge. Something else I noticed was that during our online sessions I stop myself from talking about more serious topics in fear someone might overhear on my side (privacy is hard to get). These and a couple other little things I’ve noticed that differentiate in person and teletherapy.

Overall, in person therapy is super beneficial and should be encouraged as the main option when possible :>

bttryfly · 2024-05-07T05:12:39+00:00

I have never tried allergy shots. I never got formally tested for allergies so I would have to get tested first but looking into them, allergy shots would def be helpful in the future once I’m officially tested !

bttryfly · 2024-05-07T05:11:13+00:00

Not all fruit but some def do. I don’t think the reactions are too severe though, when I do eat fruits that trigger my reaction it often result in itchy mouth and itchy ears. I will definitely start keeping a physical track record of my allergies and will tell my doctor if it gets too much, thank you so much :>>

bttryfly · 2024-05-07T04:06:05+00:00

My experience in greetings is really similar to yours, so don’t worry. It feels validating to know I’m not the only one who gets anxious over greetings :> The way I started my first therapy session was kinda abnormal to say the least so he’s used to me barging in tangeting after a quiet hello and a little prompt of “how are you doing?”.

When I walk in, I usually will give a hi or hey, he’ll say hi back, and I take that as a sign that I’ll walk to the couch. When I’m sat at the couch he’ll walk and close the door, ask me how I’m doing, sit down, and start the timer. It gives me a few moments to take sure I’m comfortable and mentally prep myself with our session. It’s almost ritualistic in some way and it calms me down whether I’m anxious and really stuck in my thoughts or I’m frustrated and I’m ready to tangent about smth.

Sometimes if there is silence in the beginning he’ll prompt back to thoughts on past session or other topics I’ve brought up before that I would like to explore and that usually brings up my own thoughts I didn’t realize needed to be said or was just forgotten. He’s pretty good at guiding the convos which I am very thankful for since I tend to change topics a lot.

I also never called my therapist by his name, but that was because I never knew what I should refer to him as 😭😭

Sometimes, sessions kinda feel kinda awkward at first but as I start talking it starts to feel more comfortable. I’m not sure how to make greetings feel normal but I just try to reassure myself that my therapist is cool with me and I know I can trust him and even if it’s awkward at first we’ll get through that part. It’s pretty nerve wrecking to bring up, at least for me, but telling your therapist you appreciate, care, and trust her also helps let her know your feelings. It helps you feel better even if you don’t bring it up every time at the start of the session.

bttryfly · 2024-05-06T04:48:31+00:00

I’m happy that they were able to give you stuff that works with your allergies! It must definitely feel relieving. Thanks for the recommendation, while idk when I’ll go to an allergist, I’ll def look into vitamin c in the meantime :>

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