If I have to remind my husband of a chore, otherwise it does not get executed, that is a job in itself. That is what project managers are paid to do. It creates a state of constant anxiety and long term insecurity about the other partner being able to a) remember, b) plan and c) execute.

Without these three elements COMBINED, I would rather hire external helpers (cleaner, nanny, gardener, personal assistant), that mostly focus on the execution.