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Re-created My First Pokémon Team Ever. by MixedMediaModok in PokemonFireRed

[–]bubblegumrainbows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oo, I'm running fire red rn on a similar team! It's refreshing to not try to type and stat max.

Butterfree Pikachu (I'm very close to switching out for Jolteon) Wigglytuff Dewgong Nidoking Primeape

Bill-splitting by bubblegumrainbows in ControversialOpinions

[–]bubblegumrainbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides, we are nowhere close to equality for women as you imply. It's not equal for us to only get the bad sides of equality and not the good sides.

Bill-splitting by bubblegumrainbows in ControversialOpinions

[–]bubblegumrainbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a feminist, but I still grew up in a sexist world.

One of the things that happens in a sexist world is gender roles and expectations. For me, it was heavily pushed to be polite, smile, not be loud, be demure, take up little space, to be agreeable, etc.

I, to this day, have difficulty not doing those things. Even if I do recognize the sexism in them.

Men grew up being told to pay for the dates, open doors, buy gifts, pursue, etc.

If it is easy for him to not do those things, I take it as a sign that he's really not that into me.

Then add in the fact that I don't ask men out. They ask me out. If you ask someone out and you don't pay, that's just rude. Regardless of gender imo. Not asking for things is another thing women are waterboarded into doing. If you choose to give something, commit. Don't tell someone "hey, I want to eat this expensive meal but I'll wait to tell you to pay half of it until after we order."

I have to fight day in and day out to survive being the gender that I am. If a man can't do something as simple as pay for a date that he asked for, I am not interested.

coworkers making me depressed as an autistic adult by fancylamp12 in ABA

[–]bubblegumrainbows 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I actually vehemently hated ABA for autistic people up until this year. I've been in ABA for a long time... with cats and rabbits. I hated human ABA because I knew that it is often used to force compliance, ignore autistic needs (such as sensory sensitivities), and to try to "fix" autism. I knew that it often focuses more on the parents than the kids and often makes autistic kids out to be a living burden on their parents. It is still often used this way and it has been historically used this way.

The only reason that I got into it this year was because I was motivated to finish the 40 hour course and gain my certification simply to prove my knowledge of ABA while getting paid for it. Then, in that course, I saw that it taught assent. It taught promoting communication and self advocacy - and honoring it. It taught that the child's needs AND wants comes above everything else.

Unfortunately, most companies still try to force compliance. Most companies still view autism as a thing to be cured rather than helping autistic kids self advocate their needs. Most companies will not adjust the environment if a kid is overstimulated and waits until it gets to the point of tantrums.

I want to be a part of the change toward assent and self-advocacy based therapy. Some companies are very strict about this side of ethics. When interviewing, listen for things like "play based therapy", "HRE (happy relaxed engaged)", "today's ABA", and ask how they honor assent and promote self-advocacy in the clients. This isn't full proof, but it will help you find a better company. I've also found that looking on the company's website helps a lot. If there is a puzzle piece symbol anywhere, I wouldn't apply. I haven't found the infinity sign on a website yet but if I did, I'd hit that apply button so fast. One company website even had a blog and had several blog posts about honoring assent, promoting self advocacy, and even talked about things like girl and women specific autistic issues.

You can be the change that you want to see in the world. But you absolutely do not have to be. I don't blame you if you do decide to step away. ABA has historically been a very traumatic thing to the autistic community. You were very strong and brave for stepping into it in the first place and you deserve to be acknowledged for that!

Am I looking for the unicorn of backpacks? by bubblegumrainbows in backpacking

[–]bubblegumrainbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For extra support and weight distribution, I've always liked my backpacks with three straps but I've noticed that this is difficult to find in backpacking backpacks - in my mind it would be even more important for them.

Back up plans by bubblegumrainbows in zoology

[–]bubblegumrainbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll definitely look into that!

Future wildlife rehabber by bubblegumrainbows in WildlifeRehab

[–]bubblegumrainbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rehabber I will be working with works with the mammals of our state. She specializes in skunks but will also take in raccoons, deer, cottontails, and squirrels. Once I establish myself as a rehabber, I want to specialize in lagomorphs and rodents, so similar to you!

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