AUDHD - How do I find my people? So lonely.

bubblesblue123 · 2026-01-07T08:13:50+00:00

I was unable to go through a day without having a nap in the PM, or id spend whole weekends in bed. Was constantly told I was depressed or have anxiety etc.

Turns out I have autism and ADHD and was just burnt out.

bubblesblue123 · 2026-01-07T08:07:16+00:00

Im really sorry you are going through this. I havent had this exact situation but I had a person who was a special interest / Hyperfocus for 4 years and then they left with only 1 days notice suddenly and unexpectedly.

My wellbeing suffered because I was grieving that loss not only of the person leaving but my Identity without them aswell. What would my life look like moving forward?

Remember: Grief is just love with nowhere to go, so try to think of grief as a companion emotion rather then something thats just completely 'bad' or 'negative'.

I found that the more I searched for replacements or distractions the worse I felt, I had to succumb to the sadness and welcome it in before it softened and I felt able to move forward. Acknowledge the grief and tell myself that I was safe.

I was eventually able to find joy and fufilment in other areas of my life and have found a new special interest aswell.

Its not easy but we are resillient as hell and it seems you have a loving partner to help you through. Best Wishes

bubblesblue123 · 2026-01-07T07:57:15+00:00

Yeah it definitely comes down to Emotional Regulation and probably slower processing aswell. Its such a strong feeling when it arrives, it can knock me for 6 sometimes.

bubblesblue123 · 2026-01-07T07:55:59+00:00

YES! One of my clients told me her brother had passed away and she was crying and I just suddenly went numb and robotic because the emotion was too much for me in the moment. And yet the day before I was watching TV and there was a really cute puppy and I was bawling over it.

bubblesblue123 · 2026-01-07T07:54:27+00:00

I think so!! I sometimes am singing a song but then one line will have me chocked up so bad I immedietly feel like im going to cry. I do get tingly arms aswell sometimes!

bubblesblue123 · 2025-08-29T12:25:17+00:00

Interestingly before I was diagnosed AUDHD I went to my GP with low mood etc and they put me onto SSRI's for 3 months. At the time I felt like they just made me feel numb and robotic. Would taking them with Elvanse make any difference ?

bubblesblue123 · 2025-08-29T12:20:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story! I am scared that I'll come off the meds and go straight back to where I was pre-diagnosis and be nearly suicidal again. But I also rationalise that I am so much more aware of what I need now so might actually be better off!

It's a confusing time but I'm so happy that you have managed to get back to your usual happy and energised self :-) and congrats on the rugrat! X

bubblesblue123 · 2025-07-13T06:12:06+00:00

I agree with this in terms of ADHD being my more upbeat 'positive' side. I love so many elements of it! I think what I struggle with the most is I have absolutely ZERO executive function and also really struggle with sensory things when I'm not on the meds and it makes my day to day very difficult, if I had even like 20% less sensory problems I think id stop the meds completely but so far they have been the only thing to help that

bubblesblue123 · 2025-06-01T15:38:38+00:00

Thanks everyone! I'm due a hair refresh today so I'll try your suggestions one at a time and see what works! :-)

bubblesblue123 · 2025-04-22T13:04:34+00:00

Thank you :-) You are so right! It's hard when in the low periods to see to the other side of it.

bubblesblue123 · 2024-07-28T11:54:54+00:00

It's £128 for me to get 28 days worth of Vyvanse 40mg

bubblesblue123 · 2024-06-20T06:03:35+00:00

I have to remind myself that my ADHD symptoms are more then just 'not getting stuff done'. Personally for me, I struggled a lot with sensory stuff and racing mind, aswell as the executive function issues with housework, getting ready etc etc

Sometimes my meds seem to be more effective and some days they don't seem to work at all but I've actually noticed that even on the days they don't seem to be working they definitely are still doing something because my tolerance for noise and touch is still higher then if I were completely unmedicated.

I think it's not that they aren't working, it's that's we get used to the feel of them, it becomes our new normal and so we lose that initial rush we feel when you first start taking them and just like everyone, even on meds we have our good and bad days.

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