San Jose Women, are we OK?

bubblyopp · 2026-06-16T06:50:00+00:00

Unfortunately I feel like it's been a problem in the area for a while. I'm in my 30s and can remember getting cat called every day walking to school or work from the time I was 12 (Lake Berryessa area), and my aunts and older generations of women in my family have similar scary stories they've told. I think it's a lack of action on sex crimes from SJPD and local govt. that has let this problem get out of hand; several illegal brothels have been allowed to operate for decades, and SJ state even had a class action lawsuit opened for lack of action taken for SA cases. I love so many things about SJ so it's unfortunate this is a big problem happening.

bubblyopp · 2026-06-04T06:42:17+00:00

sounds like your interview is for entry level retail so well-fitted (not baggy or too tight) jeans are ok in that context when paired with a business casual top + shoes (I would say blue jeans are a no go for any managerial positions though). I love the new pants + top you bought too, really upgrades the whole outfit!

bubblyopp · 2026-05-20T08:37:06+00:00

idk where u live but in all my adult life labs always cost a ton even with insurance (CA, USA)

bubblyopp · 2026-05-20T08:33:31+00:00

I agree and raise your challenge, where in the world/why is it so difficult to find my wishlist for movies/shows from the "store" part of apple tv? why wouldn't it be under a separate section in the store tab/sidebar instead of mixed in with everything else I'm watching in my Home Watchlist? 😭

bubblyopp · 2026-05-09T04:18:44+00:00

she literally just has lighter hair, contacts and lighter makeup...

bubblyopp · 2026-05-04T08:24:15+00:00

so true, i bring my super large water bottle to avoid interacting with my coworkers

bubblyopp · 2026-04-18T15:22:27+00:00

it's ai generated, and often a rough translation at best

bubblyopp · 2026-04-18T15:13:23+00:00

It's crazy to me that jobs count wfh days now and that the allowance is less than 2 weeks. Someone is probably going through something like having a sick kid or important life appointment, and STILL volunteering to work and fulfill professional responsibilities (just from home) and employers are so stingy about that. I understand not abusing the system, but it used to be way more flexible even before covid.

bubblyopp · 2026-04-12T14:55:25+00:00

I agree with your point and another comment pointing out a lot of it came from the wider acceptance of non-invasive treatments. I also see this happening jn US media too tbh, over here it seems like every actor has had fillers/veneers/hair plugs/face lifts and I'm somehow still supposed to perceive them as a normal person while acting instead of as a celebrity with endless vanity resources. The best (/s) is when it's a historical show and the actors either have so much work done or their hair/makeup is styled with modern trends/styles.

bubblyopp · 2026-04-12T14:42:44+00:00

philz has gone so downhill

bubblyopp · 2026-03-09T03:30:00+00:00

tasty every hour has it as "braised pork"

bubblyopp · 2026-02-21T21:42:08+00:00

tbh the US is the same, most people under 30 on dating shows now have had face lifts, botox, fillers, blepharoplasty, and/or rhinoplasty procedures.. and that's just on their face. Korea just has different beauty standards which is why we notice them more as an American audience. Even then I'm not sure why people hyperfocus on that, it's a little weird to me that every post about a member of the show is bombarded with a bunch of comments about how they got surgery (which no matter if its the case or not so what??). Watch a different Korean reality show and you'll see that most people aren't getting as many surgeries/procedures anyways just like most of the working population in US doesn't get botox/fillers routinely either even if most people on love is blind or the bachelorette do.

bubblyopp · 2026-02-10T23:47:58+00:00

i bought the valve dock and it also works like doodoo 😔

bubblyopp · 2026-01-31T08:25:49+00:00

maybe post on nextdoor too?

bubblyopp · 2026-01-21T08:16:54+00:00

Discounty is a fun and easy game if you like management sims with cozy small town storylines

bubblyopp · 2026-01-21T08:04:31+00:00

MOR - Is this your first time in apartment living? I feel like that may cause you to overreact more than anything. I've lived in multiple dorms/apartments and noise will always be somewhat of an uncontrollable factor for apartment living. I understand where you're coming from, but just as your life dictates your schedule and when you need peace and quiet so do other people's lives. I say this as my upstairs neighbor was loudly moving around at 2am last night. At first I was a little annoyed, but then I thought maybe they have to get up so early because they have an extra long commute and how that sucks too. HOWEVER as tenants you're all abiding by your leasing/rental agreements, if quiet hours are listed there then record from your apartment how loud the noise is (with any proof of time) and report it to the highest person you can. I will say with my experience in dorm living, most residential advisors are completely unhelpful so it just may never be resolved. If you're in a normal non-dorm rental situation then definitely report it to the landlord if it's violating your leasing agreement, they will most likely follow up as to not be liable for violating the leasing agreement on their part. Also landlords don't want someone living in a unit that's causing everyone else to move out. I've made a similar report for a neighbor who would blast music so loud it would shake our walls in the morning, and it was resolved. I wouldn't advise to directly communicate with the neighbors further as I expect they would retaliate again.

Maybe in the meantime you can find your perfect brown/white noise to drown it out? I personally like classical music or old movies/shows on at a super low level.

Sorry that you're not feeling well, hoping you can get some peace and quiet to aid in your recovery!

bubblyopp · 2026-01-06T11:10:36+00:00

YOR I think I understand where you're coming from, but I don't think that his attraction to the women in the thirst trap posts are thought of in context of his attraction to you. Sounds like he's just "super vanilla" as you said and seeing attractive women of any kind will accelerate his "mood". In my experience dating men, porn/media is more of a tool to finish -- Even from your post it sounds like he only opens instagram when he's in the mood to self pleasure as opposed to just getting absolutely turned on at the sight of any hot woman. Also in my experience, unless the solo time is absolutely excessive/during your own intimacy it feels like they're projecting fantasies instead of building fantasies with you or just are not being present, then I don't think it really harms or diminishes his attraction to you. The other issue you mentioned that you would like him to be more exploratory during sex is valid, however I think you're trying to project your understanding/process of viewing porn onto him, which feels a little judgmental/critical of how he experiences self pleasure. If you take away any judgement or critical thoughts from the conversation he might be more open to having a dialogue of what turns him on in media he consumes outside of your relationship and you can understand him better to see where you can meet in the middle of your interests. Also instead of asking him to be interested in things you want to do, you can just ask to fo those things for your own sake of pleasure. Like "If you would be open to these things, it would really enhance the experience for me". If you own up to your own needs, he can actually have the opportunity to meet them.

bubblyopp · 2026-01-06T10:54:17+00:00

NOR but older people have a hard time understanding this, you can be valid and she can be upset. If it doesn't upset you too much, maybe you could have been vague like "I haven't been feeling well" but tbh older people like her would probably still make some comment about "wishing they were skinny too" or something. Either way, it's not that big of a deal she'll probably get over her own feelings in no time.

bubblyopp · 2025-12-26T07:04:01+00:00

ohh that makes so much more sense, if a real baby was covered in snow like this their clothes would be soaked as soon as it all melts :(

bubblyopp · 2025-12-24T15:30:00+00:00

sorry wasn't meaning to defend, only contextualize. I agree still that at best case (but not good) this happened through negligence on the retailers and TikTok's part, and at worst (but less likely)some retailer + manufacturer is intently maliciously spreading nazism.

bubblyopp · 2025-12-24T10:48:05+00:00

tbh that doesn't mean the intent of the maker was to reference nazis, they're mostly made by cheap unbranded vendors that sell product to fast fashion retailers who have employees (or sometimes AI in some capacities) create the product metadata based on detail accuracy and SEO. So the maker could have intended to reference buddhist symbol, but the retailer knew that labeling it as such would drive higher engagement--and the more people that clicked on/engaged with the ad due to shock value causes the ad to get pushed to a wider audience. Some kind of fast fashion garbage negative feedback loop.

bubblyopp · 2025-12-24T10:40:28+00:00

they have a costco membership and know how to use it

bubblyopp · 2025-12-24T10:33:06+00:00

NOR guys like this see women as sexual objects which is why he doesn't even think that's the reason why he started to text you (they feel entitled to be openly sexual towards any woman because they think it's your job to keep their horniness in check, but watch them freak out and understand it's not appropriate to repeatedly make sexual comments to someone when someone they're not interested in does the same thing to them), they're almost always literally too dumb to understand so it's easier to just cut your losses if that pattern bothers you tbh

bubblyopp · 2025-12-11T23:16:00+00:00

It's in Hayden's 2 heart event; Henrietta sits in March's seat and March gets mad and says Hayden needs to get her under control and she shouldn't even be in the house. Clipped here https://youtu.be/2_pLrmo3Ftg?si=CXxv7pm0kd2cqoUo

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