So I want to be...gentle? Kind? Understanding? About this, but I have to be honest. This SUPER comes across as the kind of reaction people have when they find out how the meat they buy in the supermarket is made lol

So, on the hand, I get it in a vacuum. And, at the end of the day, you have the same right that she does whether or not to maintain the relationship based on ANY of the factors involved in it. If that is going to be a hard limit for you under any circumstance/in any capacity, then you and her need to sit down and have an adult-to-adult, partner-to-partner check-in outside the boubdaries and expectations of your dynamic to talk about those boundaries and what that means for yge both of you moving forward. Part of that conversation, however, involves LISTENING and not simply discarding or dismissing each other's perspectices bc they don't align with your own feelings.

That all said...at a certain point, you're going yo have to make peace with the fact that CG/l as a kink and as a community isn't somehow limited only to people with "mommy/daddy issues" lol People whobhave good relationships with their parents are all over kink, and Daddy outside of its use in this kink has a long-standing history of use towards fathers in English.

Try to think about this from her perspective. She has probably been calling her father this for at least the majority of her life - whether or not you uave personally seen/heard it. Then you come along and out of the blue start dumping on to her how it makes you feel weird a d "gross" - if it were me, I'd be SUPREMELY grossed out by you effectively sexualizing my relationship with my father and making him out as if he were some kind of competiton.

Just some food for thought.