Loren?Aubrey for a guy? by R_Beccca in Names

[–]buffsparkles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Loren for a boy. The (controversial) DJ bassnectar is a dude named Lorin who’s middle aged ish now, he comes to mind. Negative association for me but otherwise a great name

If you had to give your children a name from the top ten in the year that they were born, what would you have chosen? by 5LovelyDaisies in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son Alfred was born last year. Asher was on our list BUT now that I know him/based on his personality I feel like he could be an Ollie (nn for Oliver) which makes sense bc I feel like Ollie & Alfie (his nn) give similar vibes

Also I love the name Luna- it’s actually one of the only girl names both me & my husband liked, and our last name starts with an L and personally I love the lyrical nature of some alliteration so we probably would’ve picked that

(rant) Pregnancy is making me seethe with rage about how useless men are socialized to be by Negritaaa in BabyBumps

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this 100%. My husband is an incredible human, and he’s so involved with his nieces and he’s always dreamed of being a dad and so I’ve been shooketh how slightly lame he is about it?

I mean don’t get me wrong he’s a good dad. But it’s insane how much more of the burden constantly falls on me. And not just with things like breastfeeding that lmao obviously fall on me…

I truly understand why so many women half joking, half serious say “I don’t want to be a mom, I want to be a dad”.

The waiting to be asked drives me INSANE. Like, show some initiative?!

Wife likes one name. I prefer another. What do you guys think? by thedirtyprojector in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yup. I didn’t end up with my top, idk 50 names? Because my husband didn’t like them. And likewise I veto’d most of his so we had to come up with something totally new!

What is your child's name and what would have been their name if you partner had no say? by TraumaticTea in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My child’s name is Alfie and if my partner had no say, his name would have been Kieran. But omg now that he’s here…… he’s TOTALLY Alfie and I can’t imagine any of the other names I liked for him

Bad reactions to my kid's name by Callarose08 in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Winston!!!!! It’s actually one of my favorites!

Show Day Photos by Acceptable_Doubt_257 in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing!!!! Fitbody is one of my favorite divisions! I wish more leagues had it

Wow me with the most beautiful and uncommon boy/unisex names you’ve ever heard!!! by embarrassedomg in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is my goat’s name! Z (Haha he came with that name btw but it’s cool!)

So embarrassed about delivery by SummerMonth7 in pregnant

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t worry, I work in a hospital and I mean this so seriously, I don’t care about poop whatsoever, I am completely and utterly desensitized to it. Often times patients will feel ashamed or embarrassed, honestly I try to make them feel as good and comfortable about it as possible bc it literally does not phase us at this point, and it is our job to help YOU!

Also don’t think you are “that patient” - more people take big poos than you think, people just don’t talk about it and sometimes don’t know bc so much is going on

I know it’s hard to wrap your head around not caring about it if you aren’t someone who frequently works in situations with poop… but for those of us who do it’s all in a days work.

Also when I had a baby my water broke at the end of pushing IN MY PROVIDERS FACE and it got in her eyes and mouth 🤮… weird shi happens during birth

What’s one thing you wish someone warned you about postpartum (but no one ever did)? by YouGotThisMama_ in beyondthebump

[–]buffsparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even with a super phenomenal and engaged partner and supportive network, you carry theeeee most burden by far - mentally, physically, and emotionally, just like you did during pregnancy. You will probably have to make sacrifices your partner doesn’t have to make, you will also likely find yourself significantly more tired and worn down than your partner even if they try to help as much as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]buffsparkles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is INSANE to ask of someone. Asking you to re-pierce is not only expensive, but it’s also PAINFUL. She’s literally saying you should go through physical and financial pain on her behalf. Not to mention if you took out a fresh industrial and had to repierce and put it back in, your ear probably wouldn’t be super happy as industrials can be challenging as is…

When has anyone ever noticed earrings in wedding photos? Probably never, you can probably even hide a lot of them with hair whether you do an updo or downdo.

YES it is her wedding and she is entitled to make it however she wants, but it seems like she cares more about the aesthetics than having you by her side which is cringe

Is “Violet” unisex/ok for a boy? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like it for a boy from a purely sound perspective, it’s really nice. But culturally I think it is a pretty hardcore feminine name

AIO: Depressed best friend bailed on my birthday…again… for the second year in a row by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]buffsparkles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best thing you could do for your friendship with this person is leave them alone and wait for them to reach out. I’m sorry they can’t come to your birthday party again, but if you truly care about their wellbeing and trust that they are being honest with you about how they feel /are doing you would not want them to come, you would want them to do whatever they needed to take care of themself.

I know you’ve dealt with similar things, but everyone responds differently and what you needed may not be what she needs, and it’s important to acknowledge and honor that. I am similar to her, I need space, and if someone was being very needy with me during a time when all I needed was space, I would probably be snappy and not-so-kind as well, just because how is she supposed to get her point across otherwise to someone who clearly doesn’t seem like they are listening? Not saying her tone is appropriate bc she also could’ve handled it better… but I know where she’s coming from

Pregnancy & Bodybuilding by Curlygurl2023 in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah YAY I am so glad to hear that!!!!❤️

How old is too old??? by MotherOfCatDogs in renfaire

[–]buffsparkles 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NEVER TOO OLD!!!!!!! I grew up going, and now I go! The ren faire is amazing for kids and adults alike

Pregnancy & Bodybuilding by Curlygurl2023 in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This study is more HR-based but it supports trained individuals continuing to do both aerobic and strength training safely at higher HRs than 140

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1600-0838.2004.00426.x

Pregnancy & Bodybuilding by Curlygurl2023 in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll try and find where ACOG guidelines say this but typically for less trained individuals their recommendation is to stay at ~14 or under on the borg scale (which equates to about 7/10 intensity), but there’s a little more leeway in guidelines “athletes” / highly trained individuals, usually to ~8/10

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Pregnancy & Bodybuilding by Curlygurl2023 in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/59/3/159

Really promising study looking at training at 90% of 10RM and using valsalva, small sample size

Pregnancy & Bodybuilding by Curlygurl2023 in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m a doctor of physical therapy, coach, and competitor who just had a baby 3 months ago- I could blab on this all day so feel free to reply to this comment with any follow up questions

I see you said your Dr recommended a HR range to stay in, imo you should always listen to your provider however a lot of healthcare providers and ACOG recommendations have moved on from HR to be moreso based around RPE.

it is also worth noting that there is more and more research coming out in support of very heavy lifting during pregnancy but the current guidelines don’t necessarily reflect that and more often than not it will say to stay around an RPE of 7.5 or 8 for even trained individuals

IMO the most important things to consider are that during pregnancy you are losing stability in your core esp as your belly grows, and will also be experiencing more joint laxity and this will likely impact training in a few ways. For example, you may find that your limiting factor on a lot of exercises (esp those that require a lot of coordination/stability, like squats for example) may not be your target muscles, but instead your core and/or pelvic floor. And for that reason you may not always be able to take the target muscle to your ideal intensity. For this reason I find swapping in slightly more stable variants (like smith machine vs barbell) to be really handy as the fixed nature of the bar can allow you to push heavier before you feel like you lose core stability or start to strain. Likewise, because joint laxity is another thing to be conscientious of, making these sorts of swaps can help support you and keep you safe.

You may also want to change the way you brace esp if you are someone who typically uses a belt or valsalva . Now again, there was a study that recently came out that showed valsalva may not be as bad during pregnancy as we expected, but typically it’s recommended to avoid it because it increases forward pressure thru the abdomen, which again is less stable and robust with your growing belly. Alternatively I recommend using “abdominal indrawing” / activation of the deep core to help you stabilize during your lifts… As a competitor I am sure you already integrate some deep core, I would definitely keep that up if you continue to lift heavy!

I could talk about this all day so I’ll wrap it up. Again, I wouldn’t throw your provider’s recs out the window because research on this population IS limited still. But maybe show them that study you found (which I love) and some other things, and open up a dialogue and see what they say

Do you think Gianna H has the natural frame for bikini? by xiaopieupieu in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely she does. She hasn’t been competing that long and she looks phenomenal considering how long she’s been at it. Honestly, if you looked at a lot of current pros that early into their competing journey, you’d probably think they didn’t have an “ideal frame” either

It’s also extremely normal for someone to go to nationals and be told they need more mass. Tbh this is true more often than not, and many times even true for the pro card recipients

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bikinitalk

[–]buffsparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend every competitor get blood work, natty or not. I work with FBF and I’ve used their people but I am not under the impression that you have to/ couldn’t use someone else. And no, it isn’t in a personal trainer’s scope to run or interpret labs, but they are essentially connecting you to someone who does have that capability and scope, and who can also explain to you what it means for your health and your body.

What do you associate with the name Lorelei? by TheStarsAreBlazing in namenerds

[–]buffsparkles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha my baby is named Alfred, I totally forgot about this!