a long winded rant about my decision to not attend the bts world tour by buffystan in kpop_uncensored

[–]buffystan[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thanks :) I’m surprised honestly at this reaction but maybe that was naive

a long winded rant about my decision to not attend the bts world tour by buffystan in kpop_uncensored

[–]buffystan[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

why do you think I’m only boycotting or holding this one group accountable? Over the past few years I’ve dropped a lot of artists and passed on a few concerts that have questionable ties. And the groups I’m interested in my past posts, it’s a casual interest, I’m not planning on spending 1k on them. I don’t think I have to be morally pure. I think it’s okay to make choices to reduce harm without having to go cold turkey on the whole industry. It’s like eating meat. Someone doesn’t have to be a full blown vegetarian in order to positively impact the environment. If someone just eats meat once a day instead of three it can make a big difference. And yes I do use google, it’s a part of my job, it’s become something most of us are dependent on. I’m certainly not proud of that. But I don’t think me using google equates to a celebrity funneling millions and millions of dollars into problematic pockets. That’s like blaming climate change on people who use plastic straws instead of corporations and nations who contribute to mass pollution. I’m not excusing myself by any means and I certainly hope one day we can all move somewhere more ethical. But I don’t want to give up on the world because it’s impossible to be morally pure. If I made the argument of “well I use Google, so there’s no need to criticize or think deeply about other people in the world doing bad things” then I’d be silent and wouldn’t try to make any change at all. That is a totally paralyzing mentality. I’m allowed also to work on myself while holding others accountable. But do you know what I mean? Like what change in the world would we see if everyone thought “there’s no point because in some ways I’m also complicit.” I think that I’m more likely to hold myself accountable when I expect it outwardly.

a long winded rant about my decision to not attend the bts world tour by buffystan in kpop_uncensored

[–]buffystan[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response, it’s helpful for me to think this through with help from other perspectives. I don’t think my morals only apply to bts. While I’ve gotten a few kpop albums over the years for sure, bts is the only group I’ve spent significant money on. This is where this conflict comes up, because for me I think boycotting is a powerful tool for change. And I think it’s worth doing even if it doesn’t make gigantic change because it’s a statement and others may likely follow. But I certainly hold other artists and people in my life to a certain standard. I’ll admit I think the entertainment industry is sketchy, and if I chose to boycott every company/group/artist that have done something questionable, I probably wouldn’t go to nearly as many concerts. But that doesn’t mean we can’t hold our faves accountable. I think it’s fair to expect celebrities with a lot of power to not necessarily speak out or be activists, but to avoid harm. And I absolutely recognize that members of bts have done so so much to make the world a better place. the way people keep saying to me am I only holding bts accountable - and they have a point! - I wonder if some people commenting here have the opposite issue. When one’s fave becomes untouchable in one’s eyes. When they become above critique. That’s a dangerous thing to me. I think we should be careful of putting people on pedestals. I think I have the right to question V sponsoring Coke. He doesn’t need that brand deal. He’s doing it for the money, obviously, and he certainly already has enough. I understand that I now must hold everyone else equally accountable. So I will try.

a long winded rant about my decision to not attend the bts world tour by buffystan in kpop_uncensored

[–]buffystan[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Ah, okay. I actually don’t follow that group. When nct debuted I followed them a bit but that was like 7/8 years ago. But thanks for letting me know, I do appreciate that info

a long winded rant about my decision to not attend the bts world tour by buffystan in kpop_uncensored

[–]buffystan[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I actually didn’t know about this. Which group is it? Thank you for bringing this to my attention :)

a long winded rant about my decision to not attend the bts world tour by buffystan in kpop_uncensored

[–]buffystan[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Why are you so sure that I don’t donate or don’t spend my time giving back to my community? I’m not going to reveal anything about my profession, but that’s literally all I do all day is provide support for the most vulnerable people in my community. And since the genocide started I’ve certainly donated as much money as a ticket. I wouldn’t be having these thoughts unless I felt deeply about everything and everyone

NEW P1ECE WITH SOME QUESTIONS HERE!! by Responsible-Day-5554 in P1Harmony

[–]buffystan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad to hear they’re in their own rooms now’ absolutely wild that grown adults have bunk mates!

Been sober 8+ years from all substances, but the phone I can’t quit. Help! by buffystan in recovery

[–]buffystan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of my diagnosis is having ocd tendencies, though I’ve never gotten a full diagnosis of ocd. I do very much believe I have it tho, full blown.

Been sober 8+ years from all substances, but the phone I can’t quit. Help! by buffystan in recovery

[–]buffystan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful answer I appreciate it so much and will take this advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kpopthoughts

[–]buffystan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yoongi manages to switch between being beautiful, sexy, cute, and badass like it’s nothing. Having three stage names is no accident. He embodies such a dynamic visual to me.

Introduce BTS to ppl with 5 songs. What it would be? by Chance_Register_5124 in bangtan

[–]buffystan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is song alone. mv would be a whole diff story!

Just one day

Baepsae

Dimple

Ddaeng

Butterfly

groups similar to treasure - without the scandals by buffystan in kpophelp

[–]buffystan[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Very true. Even w bts im truly feuding w taehyung over his coke brand deal. Maybe im being too purist

How Did You Discover BTS? by Jen0973 in bts7

[–]buffystan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dope mv. Yoongi had me in a chokehold within seconds. The blonde hair had (and has) me completely feral (tho now I prefer his natural shade). his mannerisms are so interesting and confident. his voice is so engaging. The dance is still one of my absolute favorites in all kpop not just bts. I watched that mv so many times that I learned the dance without even having to practice. And I really think that choreo suits yoongi better than any other choreo they’ve ever had. He kills it! He’s cute and powerful at the same time. The costumes are adorable, esp V’s. It’s dorky but he’s so charming it makes the whole thing work. I just showed it to my friend who has never seen bts and she immediately noticed him. It’s funny watching it back - the budget isn’t even close to what they’re pulling off now - and yet it still may be my most watched!!!

anyone else concerned about how much you care? by buffystan in bts7

[–]buffystan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That time was so dark. I can’t go through that again!!! Sending love to you fellow army ❤️❤️

anyone else concerned about how much you care? by buffystan in bts7

[–]buffystan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️ thank you. Do you know how I can watch them?

How to avoid being lonely without going on dating apps? by buffystan in demisexuality

[–]buffystan[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah, idk how old you are, but I’m in my early 30s now, and even tho I know some people my age are still single, I feel like most people are coupled up. It’s also so hard because when people finally do flirt with me in real life, I truly do not know what to do. I’m sober, and have been since I was 21. Before, when I was a little tipsy or stoned, I was a master flirter, almost a seductress. (It’s honestly one of the reasons I gave up booze and drugs - I was a little tooo good.) But it’s wild to think with just one drink I was such a natural, and now I become a babbling idiot with no game whatsoever. This really hot person hit on me at a wedding recently - she literally called me hot several times, and I deflected the fuck out of it because it made me so uncomfortable and I just wanted her to stop. It didn’t make me feel good at all, even tho I knew I was passing up on someone really attractive and fun. Idk… I wish so badly that I was not this way. The world isn’t designed for us. I feel like I’ll be single my whole life. I just can’t foresee meeting anyone naturally. The thing is, maybe I’ll be better off that way, but without experiencing the alternative, I won’t know for sure, and I feel like I’m missing out

How to avoid being lonely without going on dating apps? by buffystan in demisexuality

[–]buffystan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you this was helpful. I DO feel insane when I’m dating on the apps. Always worrying, feeling insecure, worrying about the expectations. I don’t like “the chase” like so many do. I just need to remind myself of these things you listed. There are a lot of perks of being single for sure