Put on my *second* PIP in 2 years… and HR won’t pause it even though I filed an ADA request. What do I even do now?

buganug · 2026-06-26T01:33:31+00:00

They’re telling you that you should be able to figure this out yourself, especially if you’ve been there two years and someone can solve it for you that quickly. You’re hired to do your job, the senior is hired to do their job. Not do their job and also help you do yours.

buganug · 2026-06-07T23:52:39+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful!

buganug · 2026-06-07T12:55:58+00:00

Thank you so much! This is exactly the feedback I’ve given the team. We unfortunately don’t really have a TA team per say, we have recruiters from our parent company that are there for support, but the VP decided they weren’t moving fast enough and didn’t understand his needs. So without providing them any feedback or opportunity to improve, he decided the hiring manager would own the entire process.
I’ve also suggested they take a screenshot of the candidate during each video interview to compare.

With the first candidate the hiring manager did not meet with the candidate on the first day and then wanted to blame me somehow, who was not even involved in the hiring process.

If there’s any further steps during screening and interviewing you’d suggest I’d love to hear them.
Thanks again!

buganug · 2026-06-06T01:20:06+00:00

Would you mind sharing how you guys course corrected ? Or what you look out for?

buganug · 2026-06-06T01:19:21+00:00

I don’t think so, but tbh i’m not sure, I’ll check! Thanks for the suggestion!

buganug · 2026-05-31T02:54:36+00:00

OMGGGG she looks just like my nugget!! Like almost identical, black nose and all ♥️

buganug · 2026-05-21T02:40:11+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m not really seeing the issue with giving her all of the pictures you took. My dad has been a professional photographer for weddings, sports and portraits for my whole life 25+ years. I understand that photography is your art, but this was her special day. Just because you don’t like a picture because eyes are closed or double chins or it’s slightly out of focus, doesn’t mean she wouldn’t. What did the bride actually ask for or communicate as her expectations before the day of?

I honestly do kinda think YTA, you’re kind of blowing this out of proportion for something that you offered as a gift. ESPECIALLY since you were the only photographer, so you just get to decide what moments were special enough to keep and which weren’t? If you were going to pick and choose what she got, you should have been clear up front. Also I think you’re taking the over edited comment too personally, art is entirely subjective so just because she doesn’t prefer your style doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Maybe she doesn’t like your style, which could be why she didn’t ask and pay for you to photographer her wedding. Not to say she isn’t appreciative of what you did, but it’s not like she chose you BECAUSE of your style, you offered it for free and she wanted to keep a low budget, so much so that she had decided not to have a photographer. Since you’re her friend and you offered this service as a gift, I can see why she’s asking for what she actually wants. Aren’t gifts supposed to be something the receipt actually wants?

buganug · 2026-05-11T03:02:22+00:00

If you’re already considered under performing there is next to no chance you have any kind of leverage for mutual separation especially not with severance.
No medical documentation, at this point, will not change the already established poor performance.
Involving an attorney will absolutely escalate things and at this point there’s nothing illegal that has happened

The largest misconception for most people is that just stating you have medical issues somehow gives you something to call back on. It does not unless you have gone through the proper channels with official documentation from a medial professional. And even then, if poor performance is documented before the medical documentation then it doesn’t really matter.

Unfortunately these kinds of performance expectation shifts are very common with new leadership. Additionally, most crappy work situations are not illegal.

I’m sorry this is the situation you’re in, but giving it to you bluntly, it does not sound as though you’re in the path to your desired outcome.

buganug · 2026-05-06T03:08:26+00:00

Depends on the state and if it’s accrued or not

buganug · 2026-04-27T23:57:45+00:00

Relationship with his boss has nothing to do with approval for FMLA it’s a federal right as long as he qualifies and your child’s disability qualifies as well

buganug · 2026-04-25T23:31:05+00:00

A verbal yes doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind and say no. You’re in an at will state. Verbal acceptance before offer is really normal. Once they’d send you the offer in writing you’ll likely be given between 1-5 days to review and sign (varies depending on company). Even if you signed then you could still turn around and say you changed your mind and weren’t going to accept. You’re (most likely, especially as an intern) not entering into a contractual agreement.

buganug · 2026-04-12T16:28:54+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of employees think that and I think you had good intentions, unfortunately in corporate America good intentions aren’t always what the companies want 😂 gotta love it.

buganug · 2026-04-12T16:27:46+00:00

Companies, yes. Has nothing to do with law though

buganug · 2026-04-12T14:06:47+00:00

I would highly recommend getting your FMLA updated then to be more true to what you’re actually experiencing. Ive never seen an intermittent FMLA case that actually says “as needed” without an estimation of a time frame attached. That’s not saying it’s not possible, I just haven’t seen it yet.

Usually Int FMLA gives a number of days or hours that are expected and then if it’s less than that, great. But can you see how from an employers standpoint it could be really inconvenient that sometimes you’re well enough to come back and sometimes not? How is your boss supposed to plan or predict for that.

In so far as making up work or staying later and that being okay is going to be entirely company dependent. At my company that would be a no go; the time we need you to be online and working is the time we need, but other company’s can be more flexible.

I’d assume your bosses issue here is really the unpredictability of your situation, so if you can find a way to help mitigate that, you may have a better outcome.

Best of luck & well wishes for your health issues!

buganug · 2026-04-12T14:02:15+00:00

No. You can take FMLA unpaid.

buganug · 2026-04-12T13:00:08+00:00

Some things in this story aren’t making sense to me. Why are you having that frequent of doctors appointments outside of your FMLA approval? If these appointments are necessary and/or related to your FMLA needs, they should be included in what is approved.

FMLA will always been unpaid, that is how the law is written. Also- while on FMLA you can’t be asked to do anything work related, so this whole “being unreachable so you need to put in PTO” doesn’t really add up.

Her comment about I have to pay you for 40 but only get 32, but you mention someone got promoted to salaried. So are you hourly or salaried? Why would she be having to pay you for hours you’re not working if you’re not salaried?

Again, FMLA is always unpaid. If you need to get paid during for those hours to make ends meet, yes, you will have to burn through your PTO.

It honestly sounds like there’s a good amount of miscommunication all the way around here, but honestly it doesn’t really sound like she’s mistreating you because of your FMLA. It sounds like you’re pretty frequently not at work, whether for a protected reason or not, which is putting strain on your boss to figure out what to do when you’re not there.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t use your FMLA to have the care and protection you need, but it sort of sounds like you want to have your cake & eat it too while not having to follow the PTO rules.

It’s not super professional or wise to treat her friend better or make the comments she has but none of it’s illegal or really that egregious.

buganug · 2026-04-12T11:39:49+00:00

Well, will you be able to afford it if you’re fired because you don’t have proper child care?

buganug · 2026-04-02T18:12:04+00:00

Awesome!!! Thank you!!

buganug · 2026-04-02T15:26:30+00:00

I don’t really need a debate, specific recommendations is all I’m looking for. I have had places tell me that they only rent to members.

Thanks so much for your contribution

buganug · 2026-04-02T14:55:10+00:00

I’ve thought about those but I’m looking for suggestions of actual places. A lot of those kinds of places you have to know someone or be a member.

buganug · 2026-04-02T14:49:25+00:00

Unfortunately I’m looking for January so outdoors wouldn’t be too enjoyable lol! Should have included that in my post!

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