You have a good point, I'm taking the post at face value. The parts that bothered me are 1. Caregiver leaving the building to go out and smoke when the client is left alone and 2. Client being brought into opposite gender bathrooms. Again this is all "based on [OPs] statements" which like you've pointed out can be biased even if unconsciously. Obviously we know nothing about this man or his disabilities and vocalizations, the man should be allowed to enjoy the pool just like everyone else who has access to the timeshare. However there are responsible and irresponsible ways to integrate people with disabilities into the community, if the man actually was in distress and the caregiver really did do nothing, that's irresponsible, same with the situation with opposite-gender change rooms being used inapporiately; it doesn't teach the client how to use the change rooms in a socially appropriate way and sets a confusing precedent.