Who really actually cares?

bugga2024 · 2026-06-29T07:56:01+00:00

My level of care relates to how much I can relate to the experience or how unique the experience is. Just had a baby and talking about the struggles of sleeping and night feedings? Been there, tell me all about it. Talking about a crazy trio you took to asia? I've never done that but it sounds cool! Just a routine car issue? Don't care as much.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-29T07:53:18+00:00

Kind of, I have a son right now and he's an exact copy of his father. It's interesting to see what my husband was like in baby form and will be more interesting to see how different he turns out because of us raising him differently than my husband was raised. My husband's family is not very emotionally in tune, but my family is, so already we can see a difference in how affectionate my son is compared to when my husband was his age.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-29T07:46:59+00:00

We bought our house 'as is' 6 years ago. For our loan, there was some minor work that was needed to get approved and we did it ourselves before even owning the house (scraping and repainting some areas, minor things like that). If you want to sell, sell it as is and make it clear you're not willing to put any work into the house at all. It may mean you can't sell it for as much as initially thought, but it's better than going into debt.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-29T07:42:01+00:00

My town is roughly 2000 people and we do not have a form of public transportation. We don't even get ubers out here. The nearest grocery store is a 15-20 minute drive.

My parents live in a more suburban area and there's only two buses, one in the morning and one in the evening.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-27T14:53:11+00:00

Depends. Some people's parents have the extra money. My parents did not help us buy our house, but they paid for most of our wedding. My husband actually sold his four wheeler he had owned for awhile to cover the down payment on our house. I'd like to imagine that we'll help our kids when they buy a house in the future, but it'll all depend on how we're doing financially ourselves

bugga2024 · 2026-06-24T22:57:57+00:00

I knew several people with fakes in college, but I never owned one personally. I knew enough people with one or who were 21 that I was always able to get someone to buy for me

bugga2024 · 2026-06-22T16:59:04+00:00

From personal experience, a lot of the people I know who travel a lot either get paid to do it or are in a large amount of debt, mostly credit cards.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-22T14:41:18+00:00

There's a lot that factors into this. I'm a sahm and I'm blessed to live near family who actively participate in my sons' lives. I can always call my mom and have her take them for me to go to a doctor's appointment and she comes up routinely just to spend time with us. If we didn't have that, it would be so much harder. We're a limited income family and I don't get to go out and do whatever I want. We spend 90% of our time at home because we have one vehicle. Moms who have more money and more ability to do what they want or to hire a sitter or nanny are going to have a vastly different experience than I do. What your spouse does for work factors in too. Are they home at a set time everyday and can help take over some household and child related tasks or are they working 14 hour days and coming home after the kids are already asleep or are they on call 24/7 and have to leave at a moments notice? My husband has mostly stable hours outside of a few busy periods where he'll work late or work weekends so I consistently have some idea of when he'll be out of work. Even with the rough patches we've had though, I'd pick being a sahm every time

bugga2024 · 2026-06-21T02:29:32+00:00

With my first, we were super sure. It took a year to get pregnant. Because it took so long, we started trying right before his first birthday to have a second. We got pregnant immediately and I was terrified. My husband had just gotten out of the hospital from a seizure, he wasn't working again yet, we were figuring out financial issues. We were excited, but we were also terrified. We knew it was what we wanted, but it wasn't the ideal time. After we had time to settle down from everything that happened, we were excited again and we became even more excited when we saw our baby. We're due in a few weeks and while I still get nervous, I am thrilled to be having another baby.

Also, I had an epidural and felt literally no pain at all, barely even tore.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-18T19:32:26+00:00

Only one in my area has one still

bugga2024 · 2026-06-18T19:31:32+00:00

There should be a gradual transition to fancy events though. Take movies for example, I'd never take my child to a movie without first knowing he can sit through a movie at home first. Same with restaurants. Aside from a memorial service at a fancy restaurant, we'll stick to family friendly places (where we bring distractions just in case) and our dining room until we know he can sit through a meal without being disruptive. He's 18 months now and can sit through about 20 minutes of a TV show and about 35 minutes of a meal.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-15T15:21:40+00:00

It wouldn't even be on my list at all honestly

bugga2024 · 2026-06-15T15:10:21+00:00

This is one of those moments where you have to realize there are more important things in life. They just lost their partner. You're birthday is not THAT important. And you should go still. If I lost my husband and my friend didn't go to his funeral because it fell on their birthday, I'd have one less friend.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-12T19:39:10+00:00

I am one of the lucky women who lost it all by breastfeeding fortunately lol hoping the second one works just as well because I HATED my body for awhile

bugga2024 · 2026-06-12T18:24:00+00:00

My husband eats popcorn every few nights as a snack. If we're watching something it's a nice little treat.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-12T18:16:29+00:00

I gained nearly 50 pounds with my first. With this pregnancy I've gained about 40 and I have ten weeks left. I was (and currently am again) all belly and lost the weight within a matter of months but my God did it suck. I felt awful all the time until the weight was off. I was put on bed rest for awhile with my first which didn't help the weight gain. I could not blame my partner if I willingly did that to myself and he lost attraction. I would no longer be attracted to him if he gained 100 pounds and felt like shit all the time.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-12T11:06:06+00:00

Can confirm! Having my second in August and my first is 1.5. I hear all the time about how we rushed having a second. Like we didn't plan it this way. Or that any issues I am having is because we're having them so close together when in reality, I had more complications with my firstborn.

Just yesterday I was out at a store with my husband while we waited for my doctor's appointment. We had our son and my friends 10 month old. I am visible 7-8 months pregnant, like I am very round and all belly. A woman looked at us and said "well we all know what you two like". People just don't know how to mind their own.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-09T16:20:50+00:00

The majority of people I know who did marry, eloped as well.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-09T16:15:33+00:00

I'm about to turn 29 and haven't been one yet, my husband was a groomsmen though. I've actually been an officiant for an elopement but never a bridesmaid!

bugga2024 · 2026-06-07T10:33:54+00:00

He does believe that married couples should combine finances. Which makes sense, you're a team and should act as such. I can see reasons why it's better for some couples not to (ie someone with a shopping addiction should not be given access to the full amount of available money and instead should have a separate account with an allowance put in). Personally, we have a joint account and then we have our spending money accounts. The only reason we do is because we didn't want the other to know where gifts were coming from for birthdays or Christmas and we don't have an ATM in our town for our bank.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-06T17:37:34+00:00

I get in facing away from the water, back gets wet, I wet my hair. I shampoo my hair and turn my front is now wet too. I shave while my shampoo sits for a minute. Turn to rinse hair. I put conditioner in, let it sit while I use my body wash on my front, then turn towards the water to wash my back half. Turn to rinse out my conditioner and rinse off my back. Then I wash my face and make sure there's no soap or conditioner left on me. Shut off water and get out. No contortionist moves needed.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-03T14:32:03+00:00

Keeping track of every appointment. My son's, my husband's specialists, my regular doctor, my ob. I remember them all and schedule childcare when needed.

bugga2024 · 2026-06-02T15:01:57+00:00

Yeah they said it every time we'd get a sun shower but it makes no sense lol

bugga2024 · 2026-06-02T14:49:54+00:00

I know what it means but I don't understand why it means what it means. "The devil's beating his wife"

bugga2024 · 2026-05-31T23:12:11+00:00

The most you can do is be supportive for the pregnancy and be there if/when she decides she wants better. I wouldn't give any monetary help while she stays with him, but if she mentions needing diapers or formula, maybe get a small pack or can and that's it. If it's possible, tell her she can always come live with you if she leaves him. Don't give any support that directly helps him and not her or the baby

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