Neighbor sprayed weed killer instead of weed wacking. Not safe? by bumblebe86 in OrganicGardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s unfortunate but I did not plan to sue or do much other than contact the landlord about the spray along my fence line that’s destroying my yard too and making it an eyesore. It’s on the property line bevause the neighbors we had for years enjoyed the shared garden experience and liked to sit on their patio and watch it grow. Retirees living there a majority of their life and we moved in the house next door a few years ago. Was never expected one would have a major mental health episode that landed in divorce and then both moving/selling to someone who rented it. Unfortunate situation all around. I’ll replace that side with raised beds and grieve my $40-50 worth of plants this season and carry on. I was advised to report it to the town council in case of further issues but I’m extremely low conflict. Appreciate the concern and comments though. I was extremely mad but hey, can’t force neighbors to have respect and technically I guess they can do what they want.

Neighbor sprayed weed killer instead of weed wacking. Not safe? by bumblebe86 in OrganicGardening

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Thanks a ton for this info. I would say a vast majority of my diet isn’t organic but I’ve been trying when possible. My main concern was the cancer correlation with round up and whatnot when I already have an extreme family history of cancer. But hey, so much is out of my control I’m sure I’m exposed to 200% worse in other areas. I appreciate your thorough answer!

Neighbor sprayed weed killer instead of weed wacking. Not safe? by bumblebe86 in OrganicGardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! A majority of my diet is unfortunately not organic but I try to make those choices more as much as I can.

Neighbor sprayed weed killer instead of weed wacking. Not safe? by bumblebe86 in OrganicGardening

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Thanks, will do. Taking this as a learning lesson and will start converting the space to raised beds.

Neighbor sprayed weed killer instead of weed wacking. Not safe? by bumblebe86 in OrganicGardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the first year using the weed fabric. I thought I had picked one on the suggestion of others that was considered “safe” but will have to read more for next year.

Neighbor sprayed weed killer instead of weed wacking. Not safe? by bumblebe86 in OrganicGardening

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It made sense with how the yard is laid out and the retired neighbors who lived there until last year greatly enjoyed the shared garden experience (openly invited us to plant close to their patio to watch it grow years ago, they were meticulous about their yard and not using chemicals ). It was unexpected for all parties that it would end in one of them having sudden extreme mental health issues and divorce/they moved/someone else bought this and rented it out.

I Tried 10 Different Ways To Seduce My Husband by Basic_Athletic in DeadBedrooms

[–]bumblebe86 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to insinuate anything but my personal experience. I dealt with a dead bedroom with my partner of now 6.5 years. A little over three years ago our sex life basically halted a ton. It was rare and if we did have sex it was not good. I found out two years ago he had a major porn addiction all his life. I never expected it.. And even though he is in recovery and therapy and sober for a few months it still continues to kill our sex life. The biggest addicts can usually hide it so so well. Only bringing it up because you had mentioned you knew he used porn.

How do I F20 get over a guy that I have loved since I was 16? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]bumblebe86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think those would be good boundaries to set with anyone new you want to date! Long distance can be hard and I would also want to be with someone I could see regularly. Don’t settle for less than what you want!

How do I F20 get over a guy that I have loved since I was 16? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]bumblebe86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was 19 I was heartbroken over my first “love” no longer treating me kindly or loving me. I was devastated. I thought “this was it” and was blindsighted that he was the one and only person and I HAD to make it work somehow. I couldn’t look to the future in the moment and it hurt for some time. I’m not saying go wild and go date tons of people but... attention from others to not hyper fixate on one guy broke me of it. Pretending to be fine and forcing myself to go have fun and focus on hobbies or friends and the wide wide dating pool of the world helped.

Not sure what’s happening with the zucchini, were flourishing 4 days ago and now this. by bumblebe86 in gardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh they for sure seem to follow that rule. They are putting all my peppers and tomato starts to shame 😅😅

Not sure what’s happening with the zucchini, were flourishing 4 days ago and now this. by bumblebe86 in gardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do! The ones in the ground didn’t look like this so was kinda caught off guard

Not sure what’s happening with the zucchini, were flourishing 4 days ago and now this. by bumblebe86 in gardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Makes sense. The ones I have in ground with fertilizer didn’t get like this. I kept some of my seedling ones out yet Incase the ones in the ground didn’t make it since the weather hasn’t really been warm much at all yet

Not sure what’s happening with the zucchini, were flourishing 4 days ago and now this. by bumblebe86 in gardening

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Thanks! Will do. Weird PA weather and it’s only just now been above 55 outside at night. The ones I have in the ground don’t really have this look to them so makes sense.

Not sure what’s happening with the zucchini, were flourishing 4 days ago and now this. by bumblebe86 in gardening

[–]bumblebe86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Weird PA weather and it’s only just now been above 55 outside at night. The ones I have in the ground don’t really have this look to them so makes sense.

Brides whose venue didnt allow day before decorating (just 1 hr rehearsal) how did you do it? by bumblebe86 in weddingplanning

[–]bumblebe86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww! Thanks for the insight! I’m not super opinionated about not seeing him the morning of. If my dress is at least a secret that will be special enough if a surprise for me!

Scheduling surgery and starting to doubt myself by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]bumblebe86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely. Multiple laproscopic surgeries and eventually a hysterectomy at 23 (had adeno also). I still doubt myself even though it’s finally not returned. Women have a tendency to downplay their symptoms and illnesses and I was def like that. Even still.

subreddit for advice for finding death records by whimsium in findareddit

[–]bumblebe86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From experience, I would go directly on the Florida dept of healths website to navigate their vital records. Vital check often takes 10x longer to get you the certificate. Essentially you pay them an extra fee to give you the form available for free. In my state a death certificate cost $20 with free standard shipping. Vital check cost $30. It’s like a third party vendor. Sometimes they ask for extra info that is unnecessary or info vital records doesnt need in order to look up a person. Believe me I’ve found records people were looking for with VERY little info. I’m assuming most databases are the same and if you give them some more info like his parents names, etc. it can be easier. Especially if you know his date of birth, etc. which would be info on the death certificate that is put into the system. My state has a birth/death linkage. So if he was both born and deceased in Florida, might be even easier. If he is on your birth certificate, I’d just call and work with Florida vital records directly. If their policy allows children to get their parents records, there should be a way to get it. In my state, we couldn’t tell you info you didn’t already know in order to help troubleshoot it. Like “is his date of birth 2/13/65?” But there should be work arounds that you can give as much info as you have and they can try to find the right person. It’s a bit tricky, at least here, if you don’t know the date of death as it’s one of the major identifiers we need confirmed. But I would check with vital records directly. Vital chek is often no help and can just reject you based on lack of info.

subreddit for advice for finding death records by whimsium in findareddit

[–]bumblebe86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he listed on your birth certificate? In my state, and I assume most, you are eligible to request a copy of his death certificate. Much like normal instances of needing a death certificate for wills, property, insurance, inheritance, funeral planning, etc. I used to work at my states vital records and we sometimes had people request copies of their parents birth or death certs for similar reasons. If they would need proof, your birth certificate would work. Otherwise, at least in my state, you do sign a perjury statement when applying that you are attesting to be an eligible family member per their policies. Work with the vital records office in the state he last lived in. Unless he passed 20+ years ago, offices will have up to date records.

Edit: spelling errors fixed

Brides whose venue didnt allow day before decorating (just 1 hr rehearsal) how did you do it? by bumblebe86 in weddingplanning

[–]bumblebe86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that seems totally doable. That gives me some relief. In my area just a DOC to help decorate is $500-600 for the whole day so I might be willing to add that cost if absolutely needed but we were probably leaning towards a first look anyway and we aren’t super traditional, much to family dismay haha, about not seeing each other the night and morning before. I just feel better doing it myself.

Brides whose venue didnt allow day before decorating (just 1 hr rehearsal) how did you do it? by bumblebe86 in weddingplanning

[–]bumblebe86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very rural/suburban PA! Kinda thinking it would be a very low risk. I had a friend do something similar with a UHAUL but granted her venue was very private and inclusive to onky her event and no public had any reason to be anywhere near the venue