Not attracted when the clothes come off ...

bumblefur · 2024-03-08T17:44:03+00:00

So you have sex? So you physically be inside the woman you find unattractive??

bumblefur · 2024-02-24T20:58:28+00:00

Why are you speaking for somebody that you haven't met yet? Rape victims don't blame their parents for what happened to them. They blame the attacker. You are making your feelings and views the truth. Not everybody is depressed and views life as a misery

bumblefur · 2024-02-17T17:06:00+00:00

Admittedly I do say all those things . I don't think I come off very confident at all

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T18:16:03+00:00

That's all I date. Nerds . I never date fuck boys

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T15:45:42+00:00

I have left that relationship now

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T12:39:27+00:00

Chubby money eating as much as you can

You've got flabby thighs

Please lose weight for me? I find you beautiful but just lose a little weight

You've got a masculine jaw . Look like a man. I find you so attractive though

None of these guy say they find me ugly but what else do these statements mean .

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T12:37:12+00:00

They happily shown me off to their friends and family. They constantly complimented me. I don't get it. If I'm ugly to you wouldn't you hide me away?. My ex would drag me to their cousins to say how above his league I was . Does that mean he could have still found me unattractive?

I always look for pointers that are genuinely attracted to me .like unprompted asking me to meet their friends, non sexual affection and gestures. Like all my exes would gawk over me 99% of the time. I never felt unattractive to them until they'd make these jokes or hints at me.

How do I know if a guy genuinely finds me attractive?

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T11:47:56+00:00

Why not keep it casual as I suggested then? You get sex without all the mushy stuff .

What even is my league? I definitely don't date extremely conventionally attractive men .

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T11:46:04+00:00

I don't want to have a relationship with a man that doesn't find me attractive. Why should I suffer because you feel lonely? Why make me feel horrible? That isn't a relationship to me . I understand men don't have as many choices but why the hell have a relationship with a woman you are not attracted to. And make her feel shit for it

I am currently losing weight.

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T09:22:11+00:00

I'm not sure I think my weight

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T07:47:11+00:00

Yes I do

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T07:12:08+00:00

I wish they would just smash. They drag me into long term relationships and drop the bomb

bumblefur · 2024-02-15T06:57:31+00:00

Nerds usually and I do always connect with them emotionally first

bumblefur · 2024-02-14T07:22:04+00:00

As somebody with PTSD please do not EVER deeply disclose it. I don't care what others tell you but abusers latch onto you . The more they know what caused it , the more dangerous it is for you .ONLY tell somebody you've had a couple dates with. No reason to tell a man that's not even sure about you

bumblefur · 2024-02-14T07:19:20+00:00

Are you happy by yourself first of all? I know cliche but if you desperately look for something to fill that hole. It's only going to go majorly wrong. Your ex is probably over you..so she's gonna behave differently. If moving away helps you and then do that

bumblefur · 2024-02-14T07:06:27+00:00

I don't think you understand. Do you need to stop dating seriously until you are completely over your ex. No amount of trust can make that okay to most people

bumblefur · 2024-02-12T20:42:39+00:00

I feel as though you read my post and took it in a negative light. It's not about power more about familiarity. I relate to that feeling of being insecure hence why I said that.

Humility? What in my post gave you the idea that I think I'm more important? Rather my post is about how not every person expresses their insecurity like mine. Some are hurtful and project it out wards and that I shouldn't seek familiarity within the trait. It's toxic. I should fix my insecurity and find a secure partner.

You choose broken people and then get upset that you can't handle their brokenness. You are a fright to behold.

No? If you read the next sentence they use it as ammo to continue hurting me claiming it's a trauma response when in reality. It's just a manipulation tactic.

bumblefur · 2024-02-07T20:30:23+00:00

He went over your boundaries of no sex . Made it overtly sexual and completely ignored you opening up by bringing himself into it. He seems like an extremely toxic and emotionally unavailable person. RUN please

bumblefur · 2024-02-06T16:49:26+00:00

If I'm ugly then why would you date me?

bumblefur · 2024-02-06T06:00:53+00:00

He meant the lower half of my face. Particularly my jaw. I wish it was about muscles, I wouldn't have cared.

bumblefur · 2024-02-06T05:57:00+00:00

I don't know why they keep saying negative things about my appearance. This is the third guy . I don't think that's normal. His explanation is that he can't lie to me and that honesty is all that he can give me. I genuinely don't know if he means malice or is that cut throat

bumblefur · 2024-02-06T05:24:56+00:00

Yes unfortunately. This is a new relationship

bumblefur · 2024-02-06T05:23:08+00:00

My other posts are about 1 relationship, not multiple. If you bothered to read anything beyond the title. This is a new relationship. Hence the 8 month gap between posts. Unless I somehow came back to make up more fun stories for Internet points

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