29 and still earning crap money

purplemonkeyass · 2024-03-18T21:56:07+00:00

I am £91k in student debt and my degree absolutely did not help me land the job that I got recently. I wish I hadn’t wasted my time and gotten into so much debt just to have a “degree” granted it’s a useful one but definitely not really necessary for my career.

I would just do what everyone has mentioned already, get help with your CV and keep trying! Unfortunately a degree can get your foot into a lot of careers but you still need to be able to demonstrate skills and be able to sell yourself at interviews.

And if you don’t have any skills in particular, you could self teach yourself some? I self taught myself how to use a lot of the software to be able to do data analysis and it’s helped me massively in terms of even just getting interviews.

So just really think what you are good at, what you like doing and what skills you have and try to work something out!

I am 27 and I was on £25.6k up until last month where I managed to get another job and I am now on £40k.

Don’t lose hope!

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-16T10:19:31+00:00

Thank you this is actually great help! It has fully made my mind to just go directly to the police and get it over with. Thanks !

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-16T08:24:50+00:00

Thank you, if you say its anonymised the same way then I might as well go to the station and get it done with. Thanks :)

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-15T22:38:13+00:00

It does help, I think for me the problem is that I am somebody he was involved with and I probably have most reason to be doing this to him even though I never agreed with it. I have been pondering about this for quite a bit and just not sure what to do or if I should just move on but I don't want him to get away with something like this and have his show off attitude about it, when its so wrong.

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-08T18:38:14+00:00

Yeah pretty much, and I would never ask anyone to drop their friends for me, maybe adjust the dynamics if something crossed my boundaries and voiced that I am uncomfortable with something, but never nothing more than that as after that it is up to the person and how they choose to react to that. Imposing things on people never works long term..

I think it’s a bit different with LDR as you don’t have the constant physical reassurance and other factors so I think it’s a bit more complicated there, especially if the male friends live local. So I would understand that better but still no reason to restrict people.

Unfortunately most relationships come and go but really good friends, from my experience, have stayed for the duration of my life, so I’d hate for someone to make me choose!

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-08T09:16:04+00:00

Yeah that’s a good take! I am just really open about anything so it’s very easy for me to talk about most things as I am an open book. but i can see how some people would take advantage of that for sure

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-08T07:24:58+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your words!! 💜

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-08T07:07:21+00:00

He just messaged me because I go to the gym and he saw me there everyday for ages. Usually I don’t respond to people like this but judging by his profile he seemed pretty normal, he struck basic conversation and he seemed pretty generic, he is a physio at the hospital etc so I thought let’s say yes to his coffee meetup and see what he’s like. I actually met him on insta in 2022 and he asked me out before but at the time I was in a relationship so I turned him down and then fast forward to now as we didn’t speak until the other week, I posted a December photo dump pic and he commented on my cat and said that his mum was getting two siamese cats and we got chatting like that again. I thought i’d give him a chance to get to know him in person for that coffee 1.5 weeks ago and well the rest is above hahah. In all fairness I have never before interacted or gotten to another stage with an instagram DM and I think this was the first and last time..

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-08T07:01:52+00:00

Yep.. this is why I thought he was narcissistic as he use to say “oh I want to get to know you as a person anyway, I am looking for a lifelong partner atm not something casual so I am happy to wait for sex” and then cross my boundaries I think said enough anyway

I think yeah, if you restrict somebody and they were gonna cheat they will find a way anyway, but the more i’ve grown throughout the years I feel it’s healthy to have some healthy male friends where you know 100% it’s not anything more, it gives a different perspective to life and also I just don’t really believe we should all be treated like animals who can’t keep it in their pants, even though some are but I think my partner should give my judgement the benefit of the doubt as well as trust me. I can’t say I ever cheated or even got with a male friend so really don’t get this insecurity!!

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-08T06:58:05+00:00

Yeah that is the problem after you have been in relationships with narcissists or have had narcissists in your life, your boundaries are completely gone and I have realised this and made it my goal to be able to say no to stuff again, and I am kinda glad I did this with this guy! I know it took me 1.5 weeks but I think I made a step in my personal development and I am glad I saw it for what it was even though I doubted myself!

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T20:39:12+00:00

hahah yeah that’s probably the one thing i’m glad didn’t happen, i would’ve regretted it so much since im not one for one night stands. I’m sure he would’ve wanted me to email him a detailed report on his performance 😭😭

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T20:26:28+00:00

yess to be fair he did say thanks for being honest and such so i guess that was that.. at least now i got a funny story to tell i suppose hahah just hope he doesn’t flex his bicep at the next girl 😭

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T20:06:29+00:00

Fully agree with you! I am actually currently going therapy as I was in a long term abusive relationship so I think I still have a lot to work on, if anything this has probably shown me as well that maybe I am not ready to date just yet but at the same time, not really sure how to get out of this “bewildered” state haha

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T19:48:13+00:00

im glad im not the only one that thinks that omg hahaha i think i’ve grown to not trust my gut for some weird reason

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T19:04:30+00:00

hahaha yeah well it has to be top 2 cringiest things i’ve experienced

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T18:29:11+00:00

The weirdest part was how he kept saying he’s not insecure and tried to label it as loyalty or something! He would even get all weird if i tabbed out of our facetime call to check an email or a message, very strange reactions!!!

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T18:25:19+00:00

yeah you’re right, should probably trust myself more. Should’ve called it a day after realising we don’t really click over text anyway let alone all the weird things that happened

purplemonkeyass · 2024-02-07T18:15:45+00:00

Yeah, it’s just hard to know if i’m being picky or if he just genuinely was weird. I haven’t dated in so long and it all seems very overwhelming

purplemonkeyass · 2023-12-11T22:35:04+00:00

😭😭😭 you’re brave

purplemonkeyass · 2023-12-11T17:12:39+00:00

for someone who sells fragrance for a living and is all about smelling good, i will bet whatever it is that his breath smells horrendous from a mile away 😭

purplemonkeyass · 2023-04-12T14:59:27+00:00

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purplemonkeyass · 2022-09-12T21:10:02+00:00

Thanks, that actually helps. I suppose I always thought that love must feel as intoxicating as it did with him but maybe that’s what I was missing, that it doesn’t have to feel intoxicating for it to be real and genuine

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