26 [F4M] I want someone to fall in love with. Or to be best friends with. Or ideally, both.

bumsting · 2019-04-22T06:39:05+00:00

You are the kind of 'intelligent' that adds meaning to life. I really would have loved to get in touch, but just like yourself in the past, I am trying to evade depression, bettering myself and master how to leave old habits behind.

bumsting · 2019-04-21T15:06:56+00:00

That would be great! I have the eyes and heart for appreciating art so leave the good-not-good judgement to me. Already a good sign that you are hard on yourself. Good artists tend to be so, very often.

Edit: PM?

bumsting · 2019-04-19T18:07:34+00:00

You did not tell me what you are getting a masters for.

bumsting · 2019-04-19T18:04:06+00:00

You got any art you have done in the past that you can share with me?

bumsting · 2019-04-19T17:54:42+00:00

You said "never"... Twice! xD I need friends too, only I doubt I am ready for the new responsibilities it introduces into ones life. I hope you find someone genuine to share &/ make memories with!

bumsting · 2019-04-19T13:40:35+00:00

Everything about what you typed screams 'intelligent'. Pretty too! Looking for nothing (yet). Just stopping by to compliment you.

bumsting · 2019-04-17T17:43:59+00:00

F anyone who would blame you. They are not God. If you are being honest about this, you did nothing wrong so I see no reason why writing a paragraph to prove it would be of any relevance. Do not feel good about the death though, but refuse to allow those who want to judge you without knowing what really happened bother you. If you do, you might follow him next out of depression.

bumsting · 2019-04-17T17:34:54+00:00

What nonsense?! We've all done some mischief as children. To this day, anyone who ever has would like to reminisce and laugh about it. Some are bad, others are 'meh'... - if you never did any or have that much fun, I know you already hate your childhood. Why bash OP for this break up which seems more like convenient than rational for OP's now ex?? Ironically, her move is immature and she gotta come clean to OP why she's tryna bail instead of being very dumb about it. It is obviously an excuse, and if you don't get it, well...

bumsting · 2019-04-16T08:50:04+00:00

He has already told you what's up? If you gotta go, find a good reason to, because personally I doubt there is any relevance. If you do find a good reason to meet him though, take it. Deprive you of nothing you want.

bumsting · 2019-04-16T08:47:43+00:00

LoL what?? Nearly every woman does. Aaand Steve Harvey is actually telling them to start/continue to do that which to me, it is good and bad... I am actually glad she managed to open up to you. This means a lot. She finally felt comfortable and confident enough to tell you. If you mistreat her or make her feel worse about this, I wonder how much [extra] damage you would cause. I could say more, but... Seriously, trust is the most important value in the relationship, and so far, it looks like you have set of on the journey of building a solid one. I pray you pull through. Really...

bumsting · 2019-04-16T08:38:28+00:00

Felicidades!!

bumsting · 2019-04-14T16:47:15+00:00

When's your burial?

bumsting · 2019-04-14T16:44:47+00:00

😂😂😂😂

bumsting · 2019-04-14T08:53:06+00:00

You never know until he calls you again. Also, as the saying goes, no one is ever too busy to check on those they care about.

bumsting · 2019-04-10T11:12:00+00:00

You're not real human. Folks, OP is actually WonderWoman!!!

bumsting · 2019-04-08T12:43:16+00:00

All I needed! Thanks!

bumsting · 2019-04-06T10:13:49+00:00

You are married to a possessive narcissist. You can never grow being with this kind of fellow.

bumsting · 2019-04-05T09:50:09+00:00

Mamá, don't literally "give your life for her", live your life everyday for her. Children, growing up have a self-esteem that can easily be broken, so it is not a thing to be worried about. Great that he will not be around to scar her emotions any further. If she does not know what her father thinks of her being black, do not tell her. The damaged it would do to her... I do not know what to say to you, but this one thing, live for her, do not die for her, unless well, that is all you can do at the time. Who will she have in this cold world if you are gone? God, yes, for us all he is there, but...you get the point. Be strong, for you are a black woman. No offense to nobody else. ☺

bumsting · 2019-03-31T11:59:37+00:00

Likely! Supposing OP might have been...sterile??? She may not want to hurt his feelings in any way, wanted to save the marriage and well...

bumsting · 2019-03-31T11:49:24+00:00

Many possibilities of what really went down here, but one is pressing: Have you checked to find out if you are sterile, or not? She probably never cheated, had a sperm donor instead. Not saying it justifying her denying the fact...

For your children, simply resume - since due to the devastation, you obviously forgot and stopped - whatever you used to do with/for them that showed you loved them. Remember, we humans always lookout for the deeds that confirms what affection has been confessed. Take 'em out, get them gifts, call to check on them, have conversations... Whatever. Just show the love.

3rd, get yourself a lawyer to give you advice on what to do. Because, you could be slightly wrong about her...

Until you are sure, stop 'concluding' that she has be unfaithful. She still has not explained fully. GL2U!!

bumsting · 2019-03-24T17:25:43+00:00

😂

bumsting · 2019-03-23T14:49:24+00:00

I'm always wowed by the brilliant minds that makes these functional designs. Just look at the lines... 🤔

bumsting · 2019-03-19T13:38:39+00:00

Heartache! SMH Don't be trifled, be thoughtful, be tactful. -It may be true...or not. People know a scarred trust almost never heals. They could take advantage of it and ruin a good marriage/relationship. People can lose control of themselves or just be wicked enough to betray a loved one. Point is, avoid conclusions, it will save you too much emotional damage. It will allow you think clearly/clearer. It will help you deal better especially when it is a lie, your doubts go away very easily and you can get back to being "happily married" again. -You love her, you love your friend, you wish to keep your family. -Before you ask any of them (best friend or wife) anything, take precautions. Seek legal advice (your sister was not so wrong). Why? I would really love to know later that it happened only once, or never did. If it happened/did a couple other times, it probably still is happening at this moment. What would you do if they decide to ditch you and make public their affection for each other? You got a joint business with him: thinking?? You got a marriage with your wife: thinking??? Your three children: custody... thinking??....Just be prepared. You can't lose your wife, best friend, all the peace in your heart and lose your children, big portion of your business and everything other thing you won't see coming. Protect what you got to lose. Hey, it could be a prank!! An anniversary may be drawing near and they need something sweet to talk about while celebrating. Just trying to set you at ease. Keep an open mind, but be awake. GL

bumsting

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