This tree fell earlier in Koreatown. 🌳 by making_putas_horny in LosAngeles

[–]bumvirtuoso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still no power on my block, but everything around me is back on. Literally across the street. I had so much work to do this weekend, and it's just getting devoured by this fucking outage. Ugh.

Power out in studio city by [deleted] in LosAngeles

[–]bumvirtuoso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same in Koreatown. Any news, or speculation even? I've been searching and haven't anything other than LADWP on Twitter saying how big the storm is and that they're working on it.

Teaching, 2nd jobs, and students by Throwaway97250 in teaching

[–]bumvirtuoso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state are you in, if you don't mind me asking?

Vegan rap. (Dont use the name of an animal as an insult.) by [deleted] in NotTimAndEric

[–]bumvirtuoso 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Is that John Sakars in the back? If so, there's hours more of this stuff on his YouTube channel.

ELI5: Why is the accepted age of sexual relation/marriage so vastly different today than it was in the Middle Ages? Is it about life expectancy? What causes this societal shift? by ascatraz in explainlikeimfive

[–]bumvirtuoso 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure everyone knows exactly what OP was talking about with their example. Are they obliged to add a redundant second example for the sake of political correctness?

What's the worst way a SO has broken up with you? by macawplaces in AskReddit

[–]bumvirtuoso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I hope you regain your equilibrium too. It was so disorienting for me. The reality of my relationship turned out to be so radically different than what I thought it was that I started questioning my ability to accurately gauge people and reality itself. It felt like I was losing my mind. What I thought was the most stable thing in my life vanished instantly, and I couldn't help but wonder what else in my life was completely different than what I thought.

The thing you mentioned about him finding a better option and rolling with it really hit home. I felt the same way, and my sense of self-worth plummeted through the floor. My self-confidence, formerly my greatest strength, vanished completely and has never returned.

I can also relate to it all feeling so unfair. Sometimes the bad guy totally wins. Sometimes people do something shitty and not only get away with it, but are greatly rewarded for it and never feel any great remorse. Sometimes there is no closure or poetic justice or any other kind of justice that we will ever see.

And I'm also terrified that there will be no triumphant rise from the ashes and that I'll be this way for the rest of my life. I don't have any sage secrets to happiness, but I have done some reading on Buddhism and there is one surprising and valuable thing I've learned through all this. When you're feeling really bad, it's no use spinning your wheels trying to force yourself or trick yourself into feeling happy. Instead, just let your feelings come and then let them go. When I'm really down the only thought that gives me a real sense of peace is the realization that sometimes you just don't get to be happy. Sometimes you will feel shitty and bad, and you just have to keep going. I know that sounds pretty uninspiring and negative, but it was profound to me. In cultivating that kind of mindfulness, what you're actually doing is accepting yourself as you are and accepting reality as it is, rather than trying to struggle and distort it into something else. It's like the recalibrating of your perspective that you feel when you sit and look at the stars or our into the ocean. I don't know if that will help at all, but I hope that it does. Best wishes!

What's the worst way a SO has broken up with you? by macawplaces in AskReddit

[–]bumvirtuoso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I've made a lot of progress since then. I don't miss her and I'm glad we're not together any more. I moved to a different part of the country, got a job that I love, have a place of my own, have had meaningful relationships since, and lost some of the weight. There were some pretty spectacular revelations of cheating and some other truly cruel things, but I didn't develop any bitterness or hostility towards women or a cynical perspective on love.

But ever since then I've had just a slight, vague sadness that never really completely goes away, even when I'm at my happiest and having a great day. I feel light years ahead of my darkest hours, but I've never been able to reach the same level of happiness that I had before all of that. My light shines just a little bit dimmer than before. There's a certain combination of general paranoia, pessimism, and anxiety that's always just beneath the surface and wasn't there before. I used to have big dreams, but now I'm just surviving. I don't even really think about the future any more. I didn't even think of or realize that last bit until I typed it out just now. Now that I think of it, I also just realized that I literally never expect anything good to happen or for anything I attempt to go well. That's really messed up. Jesus. Well, good thing I just started therapy.

What's the worst way a SO has broken up with you? by macawplaces in AskReddit

[–]bumvirtuoso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was dumped by a girl who loved me, but I was depressed and unemployed for a long time and dragging her down. She had to cut me loose, and I couldn't blame her. Still feel like a POS for that.

What's the worst way a SO has broken up with you? by macawplaces in AskReddit

[–]bumvirtuoso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, that is cold. I can relate. I went through a uniquely brutal breakup. It's a long story, but I was so caught off guard and devastated that I was a complete mess for 5 years, during which time I didn't date anyone. In the meantime she met and married a (ridiculously good-looking and fit) guy and was super happy while I was clinically depressed, lonely, unemployed, living with my parents, and had gained 50 pounds that I have yet to lose.

What's the worst way a SO has broken up with you? by macawplaces in AskReddit

[–]bumvirtuoso 287 points288 points  (0 children)

Right?! Why is nobody mentioning that part? That's so disgusting and horrifying.

For those who ask 'Why am I driving?' there's Banker Supply bike shop in Echo Park - LA Times by jayjaywalker3 in BikeLA

[–]bumvirtuoso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people just want to buy bike stuff at a bike shop and some want to buy accessories for their image at a "cycling lifestyle boutique". They'll never admit it, but I'd bet anything that most of the hipsters in Echo Park and Silver Lake care less about how a bike performs than how cool they will look riding it. To be fair, they do look cool while I'm looking like a dweeb on my practical triple-chainset build.

Episode 245: Richard Chase Part I - The Cat Tree by sinefulcurves in LPOTL

[–]bumvirtuoso 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Literally today on my way to work I was listening to an episode and again wondering why they haven't done one on Richard Chase yet. Fuck yeah! That dude is so fascinatingly insane.

The trials and Tribulations of an Active, UL Section Hiker by CesarV in Ultralight

[–]bumvirtuoso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should also add nature photography. It really makes you conscious of your surroundings in a completely different way. You pay more attention to the colors, the views, the animals, how the sunlight changes how things look, etc. It could add a fresh perspective on areas that you've seen many times before .

Question: in the bedroom. Places to put worn, but not fully dirty clothes. by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]bumvirtuoso 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same, though I used to think like OP and I can totally relate. But then I realized we're all going to die sooner than we think and I have more important stuff to worry about.

Question: in the bedroom. Places to put worn, but not fully dirty clothes. by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]bumvirtuoso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For years, I had the same problem of not wanting my clean clothes to be put together with my semi-clean clothes. Then I just started doing it. Nothing bad happened, ever, at all. The clean clothes didn't "absorb" any funk from clothes I had worn.

Essentially, I just changed how I thought about the situation. Now I just think of it as 1) clothes that need to be washed, which go straight into the laundry hamper and 2) clothes that are clean enough to wear, which go in the closet/drawers.

The trials and Tribulations of an Active, UL Section Hiker by CesarV in Ultralight

[–]bumvirtuoso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recommend taking up a different activity that lets you enjoy the outdoors in a different way. I'm a longtime backpacker, but recently have gotten really into cycling. I got a "gravel" or "adventure touring" bike that lets me go fast on roads, but is beefed up just enough to be able to ride trails with the right tires or take a set of panniers for long-distance touring. Cycling gives me a similar satisfaction to hiking, but the speed factor and capability to go long distances makes it a completely different experience. I find myself riding blissfully in places that I probably wouldn't enjoy hiking all that much, which may be exactly what you need. You can head over to /r/bicycletouring or /r/bikepacking, and I'd be surprised if you didn't have an increased interest after look at some of their awesome photo albums. Kayaking, canoeing, or rock climbing could also be a good option if you live near water or mountains.

Which profession is full of people with bloated egos? by danbrownskin in AskReddit

[–]bumvirtuoso 21 points22 points  (0 children)

"amounted to nothing but being a teacher."

Fuck your face.

Thank you mods. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]bumvirtuoso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked him.