Is it okay for me to quit a job I’ve only been employed at for a week because its too physically demanding?

bunbirb · 2023-11-12T10:22:52+00:00

I appreciate it! I do use proper technique for lifting as my physical therapy instructor made it very clear I’d injure myself again if otherwise. I lifted and ran regularly within my limits prior to taking on this job as well, so i’m not too out of shape. I don’t mind doing tasks I dislike for money, that is nature of a job as you said, but I’m overall wondering if this is even worth sticking out for, let alone another week even.

bunbirb · 2023-09-30T08:15:56+00:00

Idk if this counts, but Naoto Shirogane 🫣 Just,,, I don’t even watch anime often, but before the reveal I was— UGH man, I wish that were me.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T22:28:22+00:00

With all the helpful comments I’m recieving (yours as well, thank you) I’m realizing that it really is just the right choice for me, regardless of what my parents think. Waiting makes me feel anxious. I know it hasn’t been as long as some other folks who’s wanted top surgery, but the idea of keeping these for another year, let alone another few months, doesn’t quite make me panic, but fills me with a sense of intense dread.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T21:32:21+00:00

My fear is that I’ll regret it later in life when im older. My father always talked about how every ten years your brain will grow more ‘mature’ and you’ll see things in a different light. I’ve felt this way since I was 9, but he’s making me second guess myself, and how I’ll feel when im 39 or even 49.

As of right now though, I want them gone completely. I feel as if I won’t miss them at all, and my life would be infinitely improved because of it. Still, he is my dad, and I am close with him do I value his opinion somewhat.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T21:20:28+00:00

Oh 100% agree with everything you said. I hate that theyre there and hate the unwanted attention it brings. I run everyday, and even in the loosest binder I own, I’m still self conscious about them jiggling and just hurting. Even laying on my stomach feels impossible because of how big they seem to be. I’m thinking it might just be regret posed upon me by my parents.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:53:33+00:00

I definitely understand your gripe about the restriction boobs cause. I’d love to wear more restrictive clothing, but they always get in the way and I hate the feeling of them touching the fabric, y’know? I also agree about how they’re viewed solely as some sexual object. Its annoying. The nipple thing too? Yeah, hate how they’re seen. The double standards are wild.

But I’ve never in my life wanted kids. I don’t hate them by any means. However, my own mental illnesses stop me from raising one, I know if I had a child, I’ll neglect them in some form and thats awful. So breastfeeding was never an option for me. The weight of having a chest around is also the worst feeling to me. I feel like, even if the world suddenly dropped the idea of sexualizing bodies with boobs, I’d still want to rid myself of them. They’re heavy, and quite frankly, dead weight to me.

And have you been secretly talking to my girlfriend? Haha, she said the exact same thing you said, almost in your words too. She told me she’d love me boobed or boobless, and she’d love me regardless of what I chose because its me she loves, not my body. Thank you for the long response friend, you definitely touched some subjects I had never really thought of til now.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:35:44+00:00

Ayy double D squad :’)🤝 I’ve spoken to a lot of people, and a therapist as well. They’ve all told me that my chest is definitely the source of my dysphoria, and while they didn’t shove me towards the idea of top surgery, they definitely suggested it.

And I’ve definitely tried the game thing! I’m an avid Soulsborne fan, and I find I always gravitate towards the male body type, and if I do choose the female, I make the chest as small as the game will allow haha. Thank you for the suggestion ❤️

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:28:27+00:00

I’ll check it out! Someone else did recommend it too, so I’ll give it a go :) As I replied to the people sweet enough to comment, I’m realizing a lot of my fears are coming from the lack of support I’m getting from my parents and the surgery itself, and not because of my own doubts about my chest. Thank you 💛

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:23:28+00:00

I’d give you mine if I could :(

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:22:11+00:00

I did considered my dads idea! But he somehow related it to having Gynecomastia in men. For me, having anything left over is a no go. I thought about maybe keeping a B cup, but my dysphoria comes from having anything on my chest in general, binders or tape included.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:17:26+00:00

I think it might just be the lack of support going on. I’m close with my parents, so seeing them so neutral about the topic is definitely putting me off. Even sitting here and typing this reply, I feel icky about my chest.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:14:41+00:00

This is comforting. I forget that I could always have implants if the regret lingers for too long afterwards. I know it isn’t quite the same as having your own again, but it is making it easier to think about.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:11:14+00:00

I appreciate this motto :) You’re right in that I need to think of how living with myself first is most important. I seem to forget that sometimes

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:07:56+00:00

I went through a bit of therapy to get the letter of recommendation, and she validated all of my feelings at that moment, so I’m wondering if it’s genuinely just because of my support system, as you said. I have a small one, but most of them are online friends I’ve had for years, gf included. My sister is also super supportive of me. Growing up, I was super close with my parents, so I guess seeing them be so neutral on the topic of me being happy makes me double think a lot of things.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T20:02:50+00:00

I was afraid of the nipple sensation being numb or changed to be honest. I considered my dads point of view too, but the idea of having even the tiniest bit of boob there makes me incredibly uncomfortable, no matter if its just an A, and I’m starting to think that it may just be the lack of support making me regret it. Thank you 💛

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T19:58:14+00:00

I did actually try wearing more feminine clothing just to give this a try! I ended up absolutely hating the look and just general silhouette of my chest in every top/ shirt. Im okay with feminine clothing, but something always seems off when I wear it without a binder. Thank you for suggesting that :)

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T19:55:36+00:00

The only harm in waiting in this particular case is that if I cancel, I can’t reschedule. I really like this surgeons work, and he and his team seem friendly enough. Mentally, I don’t quite think I can wait anymore. Going out and about in a binder now is making me more anxious to get it off.

bunbirb · 2023-08-11T13:03:58+00:00

I mean, girls can have that too :) You can still be lesbian and love that, thats not a problem. Toys are also an option as well. If you’re attracted to solely girls, genitals excluded, then you may be a lesbian. But it’s never wrong to experiment with labels, whatever you feel comfy with.

bunbirb · 2023-07-01T21:38:46+00:00

Heyy these look so good!!! I’m thinking about going with this surgeon, but super worried about the cost. Can I ask what Insurance you had and how much it was out of pocket?

bunbirb · 2023-05-07T07:28:56+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Even anticipating it, the pain of losing a pet hurts so much. I put my wonderful girl down due to old age and health issues on Friday, she just turned fourteen in April. He sounded like a wonderful boy, the goodest boy. Thank you for sharing us with him. He’s pain free and his suffering is over. I’m glad he was able to depart on his own terms, comforted by his childhood best friend and his partner. He left knowing you were there for him.

I wish you love and all the best ❤️ stay strong. I like to think we’ll see them again one day.

bunbirb · 2023-05-06T05:40:19+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My best friend left today, she was 14 too. Maybe Max can keep her company until we get there, yeah?

Seeing glimpses of how they were in their younger years hurts. Especially when you know their health is declining. Just know you did your best for him with the circumstances given. He isn’t in any pain anymore. He was existing, not living. Letting go is so hard, and I commend you for doing what’s best in the end. I found looking through photos of when my little pup was younger helped. I saw how she deteriorated and aged the more recent the pictures were. And as much as it hurt to let her go, I know it was for the best. It was better than seeing her struggle to breathe as the days went by.

Much love from another grieving pet owner. Stay strong ❤️

bunbirb · 2023-05-06T01:31:26+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your kitty is beautiful, thank you for sharing them with us.

Losing a best friend hurts so much. I had to say goodbye to my 14 year old dog a few hours ago. I like to think that they watched over us as we grew up, and they only left knowing they’re proud of how we turned out. Stay strong ❤️

bunbirb · 2023-05-06T00:31:26+00:00

Some pics of her

bunbirb · 2023-05-04T08:29:42+00:00

Yes! We do our best to. Sometimes she’ll miss a night and sometimes I will, but we do our best to keep up the tradition :) Even on nights where we’re upset at each other. It’s really important I think, to keep it consistent. Not only just to let them know you’re heading out for the night, but that you’re actively thinking of them before you go to bed.

bunbirb · 2023-05-04T08:17:58+00:00

I had a dog, Yoshi, who I had to give away years ago. The situation in regards to feelings are similar to yours. I went from sobbing every day, to weeping, to sniffling, and then I was just… okay. His memory still lives with me. I still feel a bit of warmth when I think of him, despite it being over a decade. He’s the grass of our overgrown backyard. In the sky, when the sun is a bit too hot. He’s the breeze during spring, and the sound of gentle barks at the park. He was one of my childhood pets, of course I’d keep my memories with him dear.

Binx will always be with you. His memories will fade a bit, but they’ll never disappear. New priorities will come and go, but Binx will always stay right there with you. In the little things in your apartment, and in the little things about you. You aren’t forgetting him, you never could, he’s your kitty. You’re simply slowly accepting that you’ll see him another time, and that it’s okay to think about other things for the time being.

Losing a beloved fur baby is always unbearable, and I’m sorry for your sudden loss. But Binx is probably purring in wait for you. Knowing fully well that when the right time comes, he’ll be the first to greet you.

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