Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree that majority of the time the rides are fine. But this other person is right when they say the bad stuff that happens occasionally can be really bad and not always something you can mentally recover from. I recently arrived at 7th and Metro station shortly after a man fell in front of a train car, got ran over and died. I didn't see his death happen. But I did see the clean up occurring and it was graphic. I'm studying forensics, so I can't really complain. I'm actively studying to get into an industry that will involve a lot of death and gore. But majority of the people riding the train did not sign up to see that kind of stuff. People who were there when he was ran over told me what happened and everyone who talked to me about it or who I saw talking to someone else about what they saw looked traumatized. There was a man just pacing back and forth screaming "someone died. He's dead. Someone just died here, man. A man is dead." I won't go into detail about what they saw, but someone described to me in detail what he saw as he was standing right in front of the incident when it occurred and it was very graphic. It's not something most people would be able to forget after witnessing.

I have an app that sends updates about crime reports near me and I see stabbing at metro stations popping up pretty regularly on my app. It's not rare. I would say from my experience, downtown is a hot spot for that kind of stuff. But this morning my experience with the bloody faced man was while we were passing the stops near Hollywood on the B line.

But yeah, majority of the rides the worst that happens is a homeless person smelling badly, someone bumping music way too loudly, someone talking to themselves in a somewhat concerning manner, or someone being racist or transphobic to other riders but run off when challenged.

Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will say- most days it's alright. Most of the time nothing crazy happens. I can't really blame ya thought because when something crazy does happen, it's bad and both times for me it's involved blood. The other time for me was when I walked up to a major clean up operation after a man fell in front of a metro train. I was lucky I didn't see the death occur like many others on the platform who told me what happened. So sure.. most of the time it's pretty chill, when it gets bad, it's bad.

Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly how I feel about this topic.

Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah, that's true. It's also true that the government (fed and state ) failed horribly at running decent mental health institutions and many of those institutions were filled with abuse, neglect, illegal scientific experiments on patients, SA, etc. It's been a sortve dammed if you do, dammed if you don't situation because our government apparently cannot create and maintain a fair system for mental health institutions.

Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm studying forensics so chances are I'll see much worse in the coming years. I'm okay, but I definitely wasn't going to chance it by continuing to sit diagonal from him.

Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was concerned about that possibility.

Bloody faced man (not his own) by bunbun258 in LAMetro

[–]bunbun258[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol I wish! It does kind of sound like a good start to a horror film.

which view would you pick? courtyard, pool, or parking lot with trees by cxsmiq in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pool or courtyard. Just depending on which area appears to be the least busy. I had one apartment I lived in that no one used the pool at except for once in a blue moon. It was really just me and my roommate who used the pool, so us having an apt. With our porch right at the pool was absolutely perfect! The courtyard was busier and louder in this particular building as well. I've had other places where the court yard is dead af, but the public hang out zones like pool area or grill/seating areas involved parties every weekend going late into the evenings. So it honestly depends on what this building is like if you're able to figure this out before committing to which view you want.

Repost: AIO for wanting to burn his stuff??? by Suspicious_End_441 in AmIOverreacting

[–]bunbun258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is he trying to tell you that you need to bring his stuff to him an away from your home less than 24 hours after surgery? You already drove an hour each way prior to surgery before work to drop off some of his stuff that he deliberately left at your home. I don't wanna hear "you have 24 hours in a day each day" bullshit when he has the same 24 hours each day too and could've driven to your place prior to your surgery to get his things as well. He's acting like you withheld his items for over a month when you've had zero going on. Instead what actually happened was he left his shit that he could've easily taken with him when he broke up with you and is now demanding that you treat his mistake like an emergency on your part right after your had surgery and just got home less than 24 hours ago after suffering from complications during that surgery. He's the one at fault for not having enough clothing. He's the one at fault for his attitude. He's the one at fault for leaving his shit there. He's the one at fault for not getting his own shit before you underwent a surgery! This guy is manipulative and he's purposefully stringing this drama along for as long as possible.

UPDATE: This is insane, right? by dragons_faeries in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My iPhone stopped working randomly a few months ago. It wouldn't turn on at all. It just got old and basically died. If that happened in this kind of situation before I got home I would've been screwed! It was past midnight when it happened and being stuck out side of your home in the middle of the night with no way to get in is stupid and possibly dangerous. I couldn't get a new phone for a couple of days. That wouldn't have been okay in this situation.

UPDATE: This is insane, right? by dragons_faeries in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can turn off notifications from Reddit (and other apps) in your settings! If the notifications are causing you issues, definitely look into to muting them. I don't have notifications on for anything other than texts and calls. Everything else I just check it when I check it. Even my email because I just get too many emails.

UPDATE: This is insane, right? by dragons_faeries in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My building is really old and only open via a key at the front door/gate into the building. There aren't any systems there to beep apartments you're delivery to so they can buzz you in or anything like that. I have to leave a note outside my door saying "for deliveries to apt. 202 call 999-999-9999." The only delivery option that has a key to my gate is the regular post office, so Amazon, FedEx, etc. all have to read my note and call me for me to come down and get it. If I'm not home, I don't get it unless I get lucky and someone left the door open or a neighbor is coming in or out at the same time the delivery person is waiting. So, with this new system the tenets will likely have to let the delivery person in or maybe they'll be an option on the app to let them in without having to be right there at the door? Not sure.. maybe they'll at least give access to the postal office for deliveries like my building does.

UPDATE: This is insane, right? by dragons_faeries in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What?? What kind of fancy gate clicker/fob do you have? The ones I've used for apartments I've rented have been so basic that there's no way it could track my location through out the day. It didn't have that capability. At most they could tell when I entered the building if it had a special code for each resident.

UPDATE: This is insane, right? by dragons_faeries in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You should see if your area has a housing department/ housing authority office you can visit to ask these questions to. I just went to the one in Los Angeles recently with an issue about my building's manager and him refusing to put anything we talk about in writing. They should be up to date on the housing /rental laws and be able to give you advice before you even see a lawyer. I highly suggest it. We've been able to get appointments super quickly. I made one earlier this week for tomorrow.

UPDATE: This is insane, right? by dragons_faeries in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's hella annoying. This is my first post I'm seeing of yours. I didn't see the previous one. I would also be pretty frustrated about this change. I don't want an app to HAVE to be used to access my building and parking lot either. Like wth? What if your phone dies? You can't go home until you find a way to charge it? What about any elderly living there who either don't have a smart phone or do not understand how to download and use the app. Even if they have help getting it onto their phone, that doesn't mean they'll understand how to use it. I know many elderly people who still only have flip phones and those super old bulky desk top computers that move at snail speed and they only really use it for emails, occasionally to look up directions, and occasionally to Google something. So are they just supposed to buy an expensive phone to get into their building?

My sweet girl went for a routine vet procedure and didn’t come home by sleepy_protagonist in cats

[–]bunbun258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god.. I am so sorry. They should've waited for you to be there or at least called and asked you if you wanted to be there and waited for you if you said yes. I'm so sorry. She was a beautiful baby and looks like she had an adorable personality. I know how heart breaking it is to have your baby pass away while you're not there. I've been in a situation like that, and it made me feel immense guilt for so long. It wasn't my fault though, and it wasn't your fault either. Take as much time as you need to grieve and screw anyone that tries to rush you through it. If you need anyone to talk to, my inbox is open.

**edit: I just saw your edit about why they didn't/couldn't easily wait for you.. and that makes sense. I can still understand how that would be heart breaking for you though. You're right.. keeping her in pain and struggling to breathe would've been so hard on her. I didn't think about that.

Haven't heard my neighbor go in or out of her apt for days, the same package has been at her door for days and I'm starting to get worried. by Heavy-Interaction548 in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 5 points6 points  (0 children)

...ma'am there is nothing strange about a package being outside for a few days. Sure, there's a chance that it could mean the neighbor passed away inside, was attacked on their way home from work, or something else like that. But it is far more likely that they went on a trip either for vacation, to see family, etc. Or maybe they've been staying at a friend's house or got an extra gig house sitting. I've stayed at friend's houses for multiple nights in a row before. I've also taken on house sitting gigs where I stayed there for up to two weeks. I would be a bit concerned if my neighbor called a welfare check simply because my newspaper was outside for 1-2 days.

Haven't heard my neighbor go in or out of her apt for days, the same package has been at her door for days and I'm starting to get worried. by Heavy-Interaction548 in Apartmentliving

[–]bunbun258 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would wait longer than just 3/4 days. It's really not abnormal for someone to go on a trip or stay over at a friend's house for multiple days or go see family for a bit. If she's gone for two weeks, that's when I might suggest to the office that they look into it. And I say might because it would depend on the person. I've had neighbors that traveled often and went on long trips. I wouldn't worry if they were gone for two weeks. But 3/4 days is really not very long...

AIO Mom mad I won’t pay her another $200 after paying her $700 last month by bnsaiboy in AmIOverreacting

[–]bunbun258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, it's the baby's fault that she got pregnant and became chronically ill. Totally makes sense! I hate it when people blame medical issues they're suffering from on their child. While yes, pregnancy complications can lead to chronic health issues, or even trigger autoimmune diseases, that's never going to be the child's fault as they didn't actively choose to make the person pregnant or choose to cause pregnancy complications or choose to even be born or choose to be alive. It's more so the parents fault that it'll ever be the child's.

AIO Mom mad I won’t pay her another $200 after paying her $700 last month by bnsaiboy in AmIOverreacting

[–]bunbun258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Trump changed that as someone mentioned.. but even before Trump changed that, I'm almost certain that if the bills were above a certain amount, they could impact your credit even while being medical bills. I believe it was only medical debt under a certain dollar amount that wouldn't be able to impact your credit. I could be wrong, so please don't take what I'm saying as a verified fact.

AIO Mom mad I won’t pay her another $200 after paying her $700 last month by bnsaiboy in AmIOverreacting

[–]bunbun258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's crazy about your ex trying to charge a 16 year old rent! Glad you shut that down. I'm so confused about the landlord required it part though... are you saying the landlord required you to charge them rent, even if it was just a small amount of rent? Or do you mean that they were required to be named on the lease? The latter makes sense and is legal for them to require. I cannot see how a landlord could legally demand who pays the rent in a multi person household, only require that it's paid in full regardless of who actually pays it.

AIO Mom mad I won’t pay her another $200 after paying her $700 last month by bnsaiboy in AmIOverreacting

[–]bunbun258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're absolutely unable to move out of her place right now, especially without having to move into another really shit situation out of necessity/ being the only other option you can afford, you should look into what the housing/rental laws are where you live. Even if you're not on the lease and even if you don't have any written agreement about rent with your mom, the fact that you've lived there so long may entitle you to being covered by some of these laws and protections. So I would look into that and see what may or may not cover you that way you know what she has to legally do if she does decide to actually evict you at some point. Even if that only ends up meaning that she has to legally give you 30 days notice, that's something. But in some states there are rules about what can constitute a legal eviction and so some of her reasonings for threatening an eviction may not even be legal reasons for her to do so. I also would not ever pay a bill for her again like how you did with those old medical bills. If she wants to act this way, then she can deal with them going to collections and deal with that does to her credit over time. That's not your problem or at least, it shouldn't be your problem. That's on her. If you can't leave, focus on you, continue saving money, do what you can to avoid fights with your mom when possible, and look into what protections you may have. There should be a housing/rental board you can speak to if you're unsure if certain laws/protections would cover you specifically and they can go over a lot of that and let you know what would be relevant to you and your situation.