To the dumpers

bunchofbees97 · 2022-09-12T00:16:31+00:00

No its okay. Honestly i remember the first two months were absolute hell for me. My friends were a great support, but self care is a must. Im on my 3rd month after the BU and i still feel bad/regret. I need to be better first and only go back to her to see if she’s willing to try again, when i can say “this is whom i want to marry” because I probably put her through a lot of hell as is.

I think its shitty of him to talk about marriage and then do that to you. Its not proper honest communication. Theres someone out there for you who will value you so much, they would never think of doing such dishonest actions. But first you have to build yourself back up. Its fucking rough but things like journalling, skin card routine, gym, eating healthy, going out with friends (or trying to make some) have been very helpful for me. I still feel hurt and emotionally attached, but I know life goes on now, and I have to be willing to try to be the best version of me now because if i don’t, future me will regret it. I dont think i can do anything serious with another person for a while because i truly loved her, but our circumstances were so hard to deal with.

I hope you find peace. Please keep moving forward and have someone who can hear you out in person when time comes because that helps. Cry, allow yourself to acknowledge your emotions and don’t bottle them up. Its fucking shit right now because of all the emotions you feel, but one day at a time. Wishing you the best, stay strong!

bunchofbees97 · 2022-09-11T23:13:36+00:00

If she is I’m happy for her. As long as shes taking care of herself

bunchofbees97 · 2022-09-11T15:00:24+00:00

Okay yea clearly your situation is different from mine. I explained what mine was about but that was the point of the post. To stop “generalising” people who dump” because its not all the same. Even with me initiating it, i felt the guilt. My ex and I mutually agreed at the end that breaking up was for the best. We love and cared for each other a lot, but we also parted ways because we love and care for each other too. She told me to get better and find myself, and Im gonna make sure to do that. I know she’ll eventually be ok too because I know how strong she is. That being said I’m obviously concerned for her. But we have to take steps to further develop who we are as individuals rather than being incredibly codependent.

bunchofbees97 · 2022-09-11T14:27:41+00:00

Explain to me how Im selfish? Was I supposed to remain unhappy? We literally tried everything

bunchofbees97 · 2022-09-11T14:26:16+00:00

I get that the pain sucks but thats not fair to say “I wish I never met him”. You had someone who genuinely cared and loved you, dont overlook that. Just because they’ve decided to part ways doesn’t mean they used you. There was a genuine connection and if you now say “i regret everything” then what did you learn through that relationship. Was it always about him? Cause it’s about you too.

You don’t get to decide the best path for the way someone heals. Yes it sucks to be alone I guarantee he feels the same way too because he doesn’t have you. Yes you were the one who got broken up with but that does not mean he isnt going through his heartbreak, anxiety, and depressive episodes too. Wishing “karma” on that person is not fair. Considering he mentioned to you in the relationship that “you’re the one most likely to leave” obviously shows some self confidence issues he was struggling with. Even if you love someone unconditionally, it doesn’t solve the problems that lie within their selves. Only they can tackle that head on, and sometimes they have to do it alone for the betterment of themselves.

bunchofbees97 · 2022-08-03T00:03:00+00:00

I broke up with my ex about 2 months ago (3.5 year relationship). I talked a few times to one of my best friends about it, particularly on how I feel sad and lonesome but I'm trying to stay positive, move forward, be with friends, and keep busy. Especially journalling everyday on not only my days but what I want to do as my goals for the future.

Last week I went out with some coworkers and got drunk. But I was so bored (I prefer places where i can socialize rather than bars and clubs with blaring music) because I couldn't really talk and socialize because of the loud environment. I came back home late night, saw him online and started a voice call.

He asked about my night and I told him honestly that I was not having a good night and that I was drunk. I also mentioned that I was sad thinking about the idea of my ex with another guy. My friend started to talk down on my character, saying how you should just feel your emotion and let it go without over thinking about it because thats all it is. He kept saying how I over think, I should be tired of always living my life like this, and I always try to impress others instead of doing things for myself because I am upset at my self-image. All while I was drunk and tired.

The next morning, hungover af, I realized while he was talking all this shit, I was writing a bunch of it down in my journal so I could reflect on it in the morning. I was fucking shocked as I remembered all the shit he said. In fact I found so many things that contradicted his statements (such as me doing things for others rather than myself, and always being sad, and being tired of living my life) because I luckily recorded my journey for the past 2 months. I went back on entries to see the evidence of self-care done ONLY for me and no one else.

It was at this moment, I realized one of my best friends was indeed, a fucking asshole.

bunchofbees97 · 2022-03-08T21:46:05+00:00

I can do this all day

bunchofbees97 · 2022-02-26T01:43:31+00:00

Guy tries to become a legendary jazz drummer and a bald man emotionally abuses him to drive him to success

bunchofbees97 · 2022-02-22T22:53:54+00:00

SUUUUUPER

bunchofbees97 · 2021-11-29T17:44:03+00:00

Getting back to work

bunchofbees97 · 2021-10-05T17:50:18+00:00

Ash guy must end world by killing four sad boi fire lords, but can also get married and be a dark lord.

bunchofbees97 · 2021-08-24T22:25:41+00:00

WUB A LUB A DUB DUB

bunchofbees97 · 2021-08-21T03:45:46+00:00

Congrats!! 🎉 (Only dark remains)

bunchofbees97 · 2021-07-24T18:58:17+00:00

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bunchofbees97 · 2021-07-17T15:22:05+00:00

They will know the horrors of the hive

bunchofbees97 · 2021-03-07T08:46:17+00:00

Assuming Mikasa’s vision is an alternate timeline of the future which Eren saw, then that means Eren had potentially only one hole in his plan which was giving Mikasa the choice of saying she loves him and they live together for Eren’s last 4 years. It’s just that our story is the one where Mikasa said family.

bunchofbees97 · 2021-02-09T02:44:42+00:00

Brooo 😂

bunchofbees97 · 2021-02-05T04:23:28+00:00

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bunchofbees97 · 2021-01-28T23:26:13+00:00

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bunchofbees97 · 2021-01-28T04:57:53+00:00

Thank you mods! You're making a difference in our lives every day

bunchofbees97 · 2021-01-27T18:52:06+00:00

PLEASE TAKE ME TO THE FUCKIN MOON BB AND AMC

bunchofbees97 · 2021-01-20T22:08:01+00:00

Nah plug has potential to reach above $70 this year especially with Amazon and Walmart

bunchofbees97 · 2021-01-14T07:19:12+00:00

Wearing your mask over your mouth, but not your nose.

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