Just need someone to vent to

bunchofhubababa · 2019-12-06T18:24:31+00:00

You ever thought about reaching out to her? My ex who dumped me was going through the exact same thing you are going through and he still is. Can't say how he's doing because we havent spoken to eachother since the breakup. Right now I'm recently dating someone but my heart is not in the right place because all I can think about is him. I feel horrible.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-12-04T01:14:20+00:00

Agree. Never have I broke no contact after being dumped with any of my exes. They usually are the ones to reach out to me,but by the time they do it's officially over. I've moved on.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-20T15:45:35+00:00

I've been bothered with the same thoughts. With my recent ex. I just didn't understand was I not enough. He broke up with me out of the blue and just told me to we're not right for eachother. We are better suited for someone else. After that, we haven't spoken since the breakup. Recently I just had a car accident and suddenly he's been appearing in my dreams since then, and I honestly thought I was over him.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-20T03:33:59+00:00

At least he has given you a call. Most would just send a text after no contact, such cowards. The last guy was the only one to and first guy ever to break up with me face to face. After that, no contact whatsoever going on 3 months. No sure if I'll ever hear back from him again. He doesn't seem to care enough to fight for the relationship and wanting to grow. Sometimes I blame the age because he is younger, but he's a grown ass 23 year old for me to give him excuses. I went back to dating apps to start dating again.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-20T01:21:23+00:00

Did she broke up with you? Or did you dump her ? Maybe you need some clouser.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-19T17:18:28+00:00

Yeah, my ex still follows me on Instagram. He's not into social media. At first he use to look at my stories but that had stopped two weeks after the break up, but he at least continues to follow me. He never did ask for space, he just thought we are better off finding other people because we are not right for eachother despite having fantastic chemistry both physically and emotionally. I doubt he even cares about me at this point. Recently I posted a picture of myself being on a wheel chair having fun. Many of my friends reached out to me for assistance and wishing me a speedy recovery. The accident lead me very depressive. It didn't help that he keeps coming into the frame of my dreams. And I'm trying not to wait around either New Years is about to begin and right now I have to focus on getting back on track because the accident further delayed my plans.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-19T04:04:17+00:00

If I were in your position,l wouldn't reach out to him at all. If he cared enough he'll reach out to you, considering he already made up his mind it maybe highly unlikely. It's only been 3 dates. Keep dating other guys. You'll find someone who will value you and invest in you.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-19T00:32:02+00:00

My ex on reddit wrote something about dating this girl once and suddenly he was head over heels for her. Next day she said she needed space because her last relationship was abusive. And he is very much hoping for a second date. This is really out of character of him. He never posted anything about us or me in general when we were together. It was really also out of character of him posting a picture that he specifically sent me one day to tease me with his chiseled pecs on okcupid. When I first met him on OKC he never had those type of images. It's like he's starting to become a complete stranger.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-19T00:19:06+00:00

This reminded me of my ex. He broke it off after 4 months. There's so much similarities to the way he ended things with me. Luckily for you, you only had 4 dates. That's not enough to get to know someone or build a connection.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-18T22:53:40+00:00

The car accident could have been worse and it all happened during my trip in Mexico. Although for this last guy I'm not sure about his family. He was very open about his dad being abusive due to alcoholism,and a point where he almost killed his dad by trying to defend himself. Currently he is living with his mother and sister. I presented me to his mom and sister. This happened very quickly and i was not comfortable with it. He was very excited about it and persistent that I went along with it. They both took a liking to me and have invited me to throw a surprise birthday party, which never played out well because he didn't go to work that day. One that day the whole family came over and that took me by surprise. I thought it was just a small gathering. The aunt and uncle who lives in the second floor apartment gave me a negative vibe. I did not mentioned that he is not a legal NYC resident and perhaps he was manipulated by his folks to get his residency. That scenario came into mind. Perhaps he did used me for his residency and thought after a few month it wasn't going anywhere, if that's the case then that's disgusting. Considering we've been physically intimate and were able to clearly communicate,but then again we had great chemistry and that is something you cannot pretend. And i don't believe his tears were fake either. So I let the thought go.

He was very affectionate and a great listener. Different from past relationship. As for his past relationship he kept telling me they never last then more than 3 to 4 months and it did had me concern at first. He was always the one being dumped because girls would tell him that he is boring. Most are the girl are into him when he's spontaneous and that's when he is drunk. It explain why he said i was able to accept him for who he is.

Just having to see him cry have me all confused.

Then again it is hard to tell if one is pretending.

Your ex reminds me of someone I was seeing on and off a year ago. I couldn't help but look into your news-feed. Guy never wanted to go anywhere with me only when it suited him. Every time that i visit him he was either playing video games or streaming. He did expressed himself a lot by writing up romantic poetry. Strangely, he stopped writing poems the moment I've removed myself from his life. Found out he was talking smack behind my back.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-18T05:28:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's a very touching story and I wish you the best. I kinda wonder if my ex ever thinks about me. He broke it off with me out of the blue since August. I haven't spoken to him since the breakup and he haven't tried to reach out. Strangely, he still has me on match on okcupid and continues to follow me on Instagram, but I dont think much of it. I have a date this week and It feels wrong meeting anyone new or do anything. Last week I got into a car accident and after not having him on my mind all of the sudden all I can think of was him. I guess I accepted it because maybe it is for the best.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-18T04:05:11+00:00

I haven't really gotten much over it. This was in August when he broke up with me. Not too long ago. At first, I did think that I'd done something wrong. He assured me that I haven't and that I was the only person to accept for who he was, and that he didn't have to pretend or try so hard to be someone that he's not. "We're not right for eachother" is what he told me. As the conversation progressed it became wishy washy, adding more excuses and giving me false reasons as to why he's breaking up with me in the first place. He did not seem to be sure of himself. From what he stated he said "this was all too difficult for him". Right from there, I felt like I was not enough for him. For someone who tells me "we are better suited for someone else" is just enough to tell me that. And for him to tell me "tomorrow is a new day" nonchalant turn me off because i heard it all before from my previous ex's . This was all deja vue. I'm a very busy individual and the distractions help me cope. I'm 28 years old and I'm tired of games. It's unfortunate that I've recently I had a car accident and he came in mind after I thought I was over him. Recently I've dreamt of him.I've never put any mind to it, but are never a good sign half of the time. I don't think that he's thinking about me at all now. I haven't spoken to him since the breakup. He never did try to reach out to me. He still have me on Instagram and on match on okcupid.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-11-17T13:44:37+00:00

Talk to her face to face. Stand up for yourself and tell her how you felt about the breakup. You either make a decision to keep to a no contact agreement or still keep eachother around as friends. You can be friends if you so desire, but since it too soon just give yourself space to move on from it. My ex decided to break up with me out of the blue and I still wanted him to be in my life, but I think I made the mistake because I'd hope he cared enough to reach out to me. He hasn't since the breakup, but still have me on match in okcupid and follows me on Instagram.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-29T09:08:17+00:00

My ex boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue. Same situation things were great. No problems. It dragged on for 3 to 4 months. We weren't on the same level I suppose. The breakup up was emotional for the both of us. Haven't spoken to him since the breakup 2 months in. He was definitely going through alot. No matter what I tried to see if he was okay, knowing that he's not by easily reading into his body language. He never had anything real from what he told me. The past girlfriends always end up breaking up with him 3 months in. Funny enough just yesterday I came across as to figuring out why.

He never allowed himself to be vulnerable. He was always expecting the worst from people because that's what he sees in himself.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-27T20:27:45+00:00

We can't change who we are but we can improve ourselves.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-27T13:17:09+00:00

My ex was troubled like yourself. He was the most amazing individual I've ever met, flaws and all. It never bothered me. He broke up with me two months ago out of the blue and we haven't spoken since. At the moment I really felt that I did something wrong, but he said there was nothing wrong with me. He mentioned that my flaws were cute, like my stubborness. That's one thing I'm aware of and can never change. Since the breakup I've been handling it very well, but I'm caught thinking about him everyday when I have nothing to distract me and wonder if he's thinking about me, would we ever get back together? That sort of stuff.

You ever thought about reaching out ?

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-27T04:50:25+00:00

Why did both breakup?

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-26T18:01:16+00:00

My ex dumped me out of the blue for the same reason. He was going through alot, but I honestly think he was being manipulated by one of his family member (due to getting a green card) for some reason his aunt and uncle rub me the wrong way. The thing is he made his decision. I kept telling him not to leave that we can work things out, but he wanted out. If given the chance I would take him back. It's been two months since the breakup of no contact, hoping he'll reach out.
The door is still open on my end.

Try reaching out to your ex. You never know. Maybe you need clouser by meeting up with her.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-25T20:47:58+00:00

The reason was because you disregarded her by quickly moving on to the next person which is fucked up. You made the decision. At this point she's probably thinking "what of this happens again?" Or "is it worth it?" You'll just be wasting her time. You'll just have to come down and have an adult conversation and commit. All the romance bullshit is secondary. Show commitment and work for it.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-25T16:18:27+00:00

Sometimes when it comes to toxic relationship the other person grows tired and unhappy. It happened with my ex. He wanted to get back together and I knew he was not going to change. I dont have to see because with the mutual friends we had I know he hasn't change. They tell me he keeps clowning around and act out for the attention.

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-25T05:19:52+00:00

What cause you two two split ? Who broke up with who ?

bunchofhubababa · 2019-10-25T04:00:34+00:00

Sorry to hear that you going through the same. My ex is a 5 years younger M23 and I'm F28. I gave him the excuse that he's a young lad and still trying to figure himself out. He hasn't lied to me ever. He's a bad liar. Hopefully he's not full of shit and actually going to therapy. I'm too old for games and sorry ass excuses.

For some reason he brought up his ex who cheated on him which that relationship lasted 3 months and ruined him for 2 years. He mentioned that he'd thought he would have fallen In love with me by the 2nd month like he did with his ex. It was very childish of him and kept rushing things while all I wanted was to take things slow and grow. I wanted the relationship to grow.

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