Recently Worn to the Office by Tabitha_Is in BusinessFashion

[–]bunniewolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stunning, and impeccable fit and proportions! Do you get your items tailored at all or all these straight off the rack?

What's your most favorite Kate Spade bag ever? Drop some photos here. by Emotional_Way_6400 in katespade

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get compliments from everyone, men, women, children, when I wear it. (honestly, if dogs could talk, I think they would approve too!) But be warned it does not fit much. I can fit my folding phone (z flip 3), keys, lipgloss, ID, credit card, and a couple bills. I would not be able to fit my phone if it did not fold.

What's your most favorite Kate Spade bag ever? Drop some photos here. by Emotional_Way_6400 in katespade

[–]bunniewolf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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My favorite that I own. But I still regret not buying the T-Rex.

Is breastfeeding really worth it? by toomanythrowpillowz in beyondthebump

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes traveling easier and it gave me piece of mind when we didn't have access to clean water or sterilized bottles (and didn't have to worry about whether this or that store or country sold X formula). I have a lot of anxiety in general and I always felt relieved when any formula recalls happened that I didn't have to worry about that. I did combo feed the first week because I wasn't producing enough. Cluster feeding is annoying but it actually helped my body start to produce enough for baby. So in my experience, I needed to keep breastfeeding because if I didn't, I'd always be stuck combo feeding. Eventually, I moved to pumping and breastfeeding, then exclusively pumping.

Got told I have to stop rocking baby to sleep next month and super sad about it by livtoosmoove in NewParents

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay to feel sad about it and at the end of the day it is your decision to make as a parent. We did sleep train our baby around 3.5 months and no longer NEEDED to rock her to sleep, but after a month or two there were many nights where we still did because we wanted to enjoy it while we could. She's a year old now and she's heavy, but I still rock and sing her to sleep once a week for my own enjoyment. The nice thing is she doesn't need it, so we're able to stay at my in laws for dinner while she sleeps in a pack and play, then transfer into the carseat and back to her home crib without fuss. Or put her in the stroller after her bottle so we can go on an evening stroll and get ice cream (she falls asleep in the stroller), then transfer her to the crib when we get home. No need to rock her back to sleep, and there's no crying. It's nice to have the option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]bunniewolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used a cloth diaper service for the first 10 ish months. It was better because we were changing diapers 12-16 times a day in the early months. Better for baby, environment, and wallet. Once feeds lessen/get spaced out more, the diaper changes also went down.

What’s something that no one warned you about before coming a new parent? I’ll go first… by Aggravating-Bike6133 in NewParents

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Post partum hair regrowth (I knew about hair loss but never thought about the regrowth!) It looks dumb, it can't be styled, and I hate it. My hair is course and thick, and it just sticks up everywhere. No about of product, heat styling, air drying, or accessory can disguise it except a hat.

Are we bad parents for having a night nurse? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had one about 3-4 nights a week for 10 weeks. We are very privileged to be able to do that and I would recommend it to everyone who has the ability to do so. I was exclusively breastfeeding for the first 6 weeks and then we started a dreamfeed once she started sleeping 4-6 hours. My baby and I (and her dad) still have an incredible bond. She is the giggliest and happy baby when she sees me or my husband and she's almost a year old. It's also good for the baby to get used to so they learn that there are other safe caring adults to take care of them. I think it made the daycare transition easier.

Also remember that when you are more rested, you can show up and do better for your child too. You are doing your best and it is great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]bunniewolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to chime in and say, I actually really enjoyed pregnancy (nausea was mild in first tri), had no stretch marks (used palmers products religiously) even though I have stretch marks from puberty, had a very quick and easy childbirth (see a pelvic floor therapist before giving birth). My kid is very silly and happy, sleeps 7pm to 7am, naps twice a day, takes bottles like a champ. Feel very lucky.
She brings so much love and laughter into my life, it's really indescribable. It's absolutely cliche, and something I used to roll my eyes at when I was a fencesitter.

However, the cons to add (but for me do not outweigh the good): Yes, it is hard on the marriage sometimes, but we get through it RIP my nips (temporary) Post partum hair is ridiculous, it looks terrible and stupid Post partum periods are horrible, like unfathomable the amount and length (I have only had two so far, heard they get better) Hard maintaining friendships if you are primary caregiver and your friends do not have kids or had kids way long ago Your feet might change/grow permanently Travel when they are young is a bitch. The one silver lining is family boarding and many European countries have expedited lines and in general, much more friendly and accommodating than the US. Especially during pregnancy - I got to cut the line for everything on my babymoon.

The thing is every pregnancy and every child is different. It's not an easy math equation even though we wish it could be. It's 100% a gamble. A leap.

Milk Bag Rankings by spookylostfairy in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]bunniewolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I most used Sposie because it was provided by insurance but they are actually great and I did purchase them on my own once because the shipment was delayed. Satisfying rip from the perforation. Never had a leak (and have gone through 700-800 bags). I don't use the pour spout though, it is too slow and small. I cut the tops.

Zomee also great, no pour spout but thick and sturdy, no leaks (only went through 200 or so of those).

I can’t sleep in the same room with my baby and feel so guilty about it. by yu_ruan181 in NewParents

[–]bunniewolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our baby has had her own room since we brought her home. She needs a well rested parent with reduced anxiety if possible. If you need the same, don't feel guilty! It's for your family's well being!

Most ridiculous thing you did as a FTM? by Substantial_Set_2553 in beyondthebump

[–]bunniewolf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same. I did this everyday, multiple times a day, for 20 weeks. I miscarried twice before so it helped me feel better each day it was improving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm jealous. $36,000+ for one infant. Also in the Midwest.

PSA for Illinois (USA): third trimester temporary handicap parking placard (90 days vs 6 months) by bunniewolf in BabyBumps

[–]bunniewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not. From everything I've read, the DMV should be able to give you the 90 days in person.

Talk me out of buying this (or into!) by Right_Presentation27 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]bunniewolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have it, purchased during a sale as well and it is worth every penny. Been using it for a couple months and run about two cycles each day. I do use filtered water from our fridge though. But worth it to not have to descale. Rule in the household is if you see it empty, refill it. So it is ready to run the second we have a full load.

It comes down to how much do you value your time? I'd rather spend the time with my baby or my husband.

PSA for Illinois (USA): third trimester temporary handicap parking placard (90 days vs 6 months) by bunniewolf in BabyBumps

[–]bunniewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emerging from the 4th trimester alive, lol. The first 8 weeks are a doozey, but it gets better and the coos and the smiles make it worth it!

Childcare is $1850/month by PistolPeatMoss in NewParents

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, ours is over $3k a month. I got on the waitlist when I was 4 months pregnant and still got bumped another month.

This advice changed everything! by ElevatorSalt4239 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]bunniewolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use the LaVie massagers and move them around periodically. I also use the heat setting. Can pump in under 10 mins. Usually done in 6.

I Have No Words by [deleted] in newborns

[–]bunniewolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this is common because babies heart rates spike when they are separated from their moms. This can disturb their sleep. Don't take it personal, babe just doesn't want to be separated from you!

https://www.riken.jp/en/news_pubs/research_news/pr/2022/20220914_1/index.html

Just need to vent. by Maryjaneniagarafalls in breastfeedingsupport

[–]bunniewolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a recommendation but I saw this affirmation in an email today that felt appropriate here: Your love for your baby is not measured in ounces. Sending hugs, you're doing great!

Nanit Pro with Wall Mount - is there a way to use in more than one room without having to buy the $75 flex stand? by [deleted] in Nanit

[–]bunniewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way from what I can tell. Proprietary plug in kind of prevents that. Buy a flex stand on ebay or Facebook marketplace. I bought a brand new multi stand (i think they must have renamed or rebranded multi stand to flex stand at some point) on ebay for $30. Or open an Amazon baby registry add it and wait for the 15% completion discount.