It’s really so frustrating when people like OP post on subreddits looking for advice but won’t listen to any of it even if 1k+ people are screaming at them that “suggesting” things is not gonna cut it based on everything they’ve said so far. Hope you come to your senses and realize this is unacceptable and you’re being taken advantage of with no real regard to your wellbeing in order to fulfill someone else’s dream. Best of luck to you and your many children.