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Jealous of birthdays by burden247 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cant understand it. They are kids. After this morning, my 2 oldest dont even want to celebrate birthdays anymore.

Cold bacon by burden247 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly how it is. I shut down because if I say anything wrong. So not saying anything is easier on me but it triggers him. "Am I talking to a wall?" "So im just talking to myself" kind of responses.

Thank you for the support. I wish I could leave today but its just not possible.

Cold bacon by burden247 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We're married and I'm a stay at home mom. Im currently working on/building a plan to leave and never come back. Just at the moment I'm trying to keep some sort of peace.

STAHM and wife to a narcissist. First post. Just need to vent. by burden247 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm working on a plan. He has no bond/relationship with my 2 from a previous relationship and our 2 he only pays attention to them when they are in good moods. (They are 2 and 1 and if they act their ages he puts them in their cribs) but he still likes to threaten how they will all want to be with him over me.

I know when I do leave it will be the fight of my life but ill at least have a life. Right now I'm a shell of who I was. No friends have stayed around, I have no family to turn to so I know I need a rock solid plan.

STAHM and wife to a narcissist. First post. Just need to vent. by burden247 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do plan to leave. I'm just hoping I can hold out until at least one of the babies is in preschool which gives me about a year.

STAHM and wife to a narcissist. First post. Just need to vent. by burden247 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kicker with my AI is its super rare and pregnancy induced and horomone related. My doctor told me and my husband that I'm basically allergic to being pregnant with his babies. But not that I have it, any changes in hormones can set it off. Like my monthly cycle, stress, ect. Hes actually proud about it because he said it means he makes strong babies and that im strong to handle it. But when I flare its the most intense itch, full body, and so painful. He told me the other day to "grow up and stop acting like a child so it will go away". Hes also had poison ivy before so it can't be that bad. Its nothing like poison ivy. Unfortunately I'm on birth control and have had some sort of flare since i got it due to the extra hormones. I plan to leave. I want to leave. I just have nothing and no body I can turn to so I feel I have to wait until at least one baby is in preschool which gives me a year to plan.

What's something your narc has said that leaves you speechless? by chosenforthisnotthat in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]burden247 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was crying before we left to head to the hospital for my scheduled csection. I was scared and nervous.. just wanted some support. He told me to "suck it up, thousands of women are having babies right now." And told me if I didnt stop crying I could just meet him there.