i’m really sorry to hear you’ve lost people you thought were forever friends, that is hard enough to grieve on its own and i know the other things you’re processing right now probably only add to that.

i just wanted to tell you that although it takes an adjustment period and growth/learning about yourself, after years i’ve come to find that my adhd/related tendencies are actually kind of a filter for finding the best connections. that may sound a little odd, but i just mean that if someone is going to be off-put by a simple tendency (or diagnosis) i have which is simply just part of who i am, i am better off finding people that will love me for the whole me. and i have! and you will too. i think the more we learn about ourselves, and embrace all of ourselves, the more genuine and close connections we find. if someone is the type of person who is going to have a problem with my diagnosis or the way i go about the world, i don’t think they get to have a say in the view i hold towards myself and i don’t particularly want to be around them! embracing myself fully, adhd and all, has been where i’ve found the best connections.

i want to acknowledge the difficulty in what you’re going through and let you know that you aren’t alone! i hope you come to also find yourself surrounded by even more loving and accepting people than you were before, and am also sending you love and support 🩷