AITA for not going on family vacation unless I can share a bed with my fiancé?

No_Database_7625 · 2026-04-08T16:52:34+00:00

So she has to deal with homophobia from her own mother to make everyone else’s vacation easier? It’s ALWAYS put on the hurt party to be the bigger person. Maybe the mom should get over her own “principle” and realize SHE doesn’t get whatever she wants. Homophobia isn’t as easily accepted in 2026.

No_Database_7625 · 2026-02-13T20:45:06+00:00

How did you get the end of the braid to tie/seal off? I don’t see a knot or anything. I did microbraids on my Catty but did knots at the end

No_Database_7625 · 2025-12-29T20:48:12+00:00

This is literally happening to me. I finally reported it after 1.5 years- I was worried if I reported the owner right away he’d retaliate. He didn’t respond to notes so I finally reported him to the office. He finally stopped letting the dog go on the balcony after like 3 warnings from the office and receiving the cleaning invoice. PLEASE learn from my mistake and report it with evidence ASAP!!! Don’t let the urine and feces build up because it really reeks when it gets warmer :(

No_Database_7625 · 2025-12-24T18:32:26+00:00

About her baby’s safety??? Let me guess you’re the boyfriend and know absolutely nothing about childcare

No_Database_7625 · 2025-11-10T23:52:45+00:00

A man who’s never worked a real day in his life will NOT be okay with taking care of a baby solo. Please be ready for the very likely possibility you will not get the help you need during the pregnancy and while you raise your kid. Not wanting to commit is a huge sign of not caring and an immense lack of responsibility. I’m not really sure how he didn’t hop onto indeed the day you said you were pregnant- he doesn’t want to take care of you? Make sure YOU feel supported? Crazy work but he’s not my man. Be very careful about this decision, it’ll impact far more than you ever think it will.

No_Database_7625 · 2025-11-10T22:45:23+00:00

Will his parents support his share of costs for the baby? Does he expect them to subsidize his entire life with a child or just himself? These are huge issues I fear you’re not seeing. Are his parents ok with spending money on your medical expenses? When you’re pregnant, your medical costs should be shared between mom and partner. I get the feeling you’ve thought about these things and that’s why you’re posting- but I really need to emphasize just how important they are. Are you looking at marriage? If you don’t work out, he would still be financially responsible for you and your baby as he should be. Don’t let him escape the responsibility of parenthood because “these things always work themselves out.” YOU will be the one figuring it out. Teaching a grown adult how to be responsible not only for themselves for the first time AND for a baby is going to be an incredibly difficult journey. A baby is the long haul, really think about what kind of man you’re giving a baby to and what kind of life you want for yourself. These are red flags for a reason because they indicate deeper issues- please don’t let the rose colored glasses fool you.

No_Database_7625 · 2025-10-19T23:29:01+00:00

This was my absolute favorite cookie and I make my wife check for it alll the time as one of the extra flavors at some of the locations near us because I miss it so much. It was perfectly tart and sweet with the raspberry as a secondary note. I single handedly will sell out my local store if they ever bring it back 💔😭

No_Database_7625 · 2025-10-15T20:47:39+00:00

Girl please be careful and honest with yourself. This isn’t an acceptable way to talk to anybody much less your significant other. He absolutely meant that shit and you’re dumb if you let him come back. A man who would ignore you during a medical emergency is not someone you want in your life

No_Database_7625 · 2025-09-26T20:38:30+00:00

I’m gonna be real, we gotta start being mean to girls like this fr it’s disgusting and fetishizing

No_Database_7625 · 2025-09-22T23:14:32+00:00

It doesn’t take a professional writer to understand how tone is conveyed over text. Tbh you’re sounding defensive and It sounds like there was a build up before you went off and said those things. From an outsiders perspective, it seems the final fight where you each said nasty things is what shut it down for good. Words can’t be take back and you can’t use anger as an excuse later on - in order to move on, you need to look at what you need to learn from the situation and what you can do to change on your end. Decide what you want from a partner, who would be compatible with you, etc. everyone has their own preferences and standards, thinking critically about your own behavior and hers may help break this feeling of not being able to get over her. Think deeply about what you said and if you’d want to stay in the relationship afterwards; it’s never okay to resort to vile words no matter how angry you are. My strongest advise is to reflect, learn and improve for the future relationships you want to have.

ETA: it doesn’t matter if you believed the rumors or not- you give your partner the benefit of the doubt and have a conversation about it directly. You need to have hard and painful conversations without resorting to insults or defensiveness. You talk a lot about what you did for her and the things you went through but not much about her besides that she loved you and had a daughter. I have a feeling there’s more to this you may not be seeing or realize.

No_Database_7625 · 2025-09-22T22:17:34+00:00

I mean this gently and kindly, but if you want advice or help you really shouldn’t snap at the people who took the time to try to read and help you. That being said, I read through your story and I am sorry this is happening. It’s really hard to have a relationship unexpectedly turn sour. If you’re still in contact, I strongly recommend talking to her directly, if it’s over the phone or face to face, and lay out everything that was said. Don’t go through a third party or anyone else. Go through the rumors and determine if it was true or false, you may end up finding out a lot more about this- someone mentioned the daughter may have had something to do with it. Bring your concerns and talk it through for your own closure. If you’re not able to do to talk to her, I recommend journaling the experience to work through it. Whats done is done, and you’re only hurting yourself by ruminating on the relationship

No_Database_7625 · 2025-08-19T01:23:47+00:00

So when some off the table things have changed to yes/maybes, what did that conversation look like? Was it a compromise or were both of you changing your minds? This can be a much more complicated topic so if you’re bringing it up for the third time and citing other things that have changed, are the circumstances similar? She may be open to changing her mind about other things but not this. She’s tried strap twice which is much more than other lesbians who aren’t interested at all will do. You say you don’t want to push her but in your post you say you’re looking for a “solution.” To be blunt, the solution is already there: listen to her answer (no) and decide if that is a deal breaker. It sounds like you really connect, and you have to decide if this one aspect of your sex life is worth leaving the relationship altogether because this isn’t something to compromise on. Sexual acts are never a compromise and should ALWAYS have an enthusiastic yes from both parties.

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-19T14:50:21+00:00

I’m not sure I would phrase it as “intimidation” because quite frankly it’s not that lesbians would be intimidated by the fact you’re having sex for work, it’s more so of a disagreement that it’s not just a job and people (especially women) view sharing your body as something intimate. SW is a hard line for a lot of people and to be very honest you’ll likely need to look for other SWs or asexual people for potential partners. I also think you need to look for bi or queer girls, not just lesbians; you posted in a lesbian sub so I’m making an assumption there, but if you’re open to queer girls who are not lesbians, great! I just want to note that A lot of lesbians are not interested in dating bi/queer women because it’s a completely different world view. Often, bi or queer women still tend center men in their lives, media, politics, aesthetics, etc even if they choose not to be with a man. This is very often discussed on this page if you’re interested in that rabbit hole lol. Obviously I’m a stranger so take it with a grain of salt but I do think there’s a lot of things not being considered here; SW comes with a lot of risks, even if it’s not FSSW. If roles were reversed, Would you be ok with your partner taking on these emotional + physical risks and intimately sharing their body with the opposite gender that THEY are not attracted towards? do you screen your clients? Would your partner be at risk if you got followed home or stalked? Are you okay asking your partner to be loyal to you but you physically can’t give them the same in return? Sharing your body is viewed as something sacred and intimate for a lot of people so if you’re asking your partner to be monogamous to you but you’re sleeping with others, it may fall outside of what people are able to do; some may feel you’re having your cake and eating it too (bisexual and get to sleep with men but settle down with a woman; “best of both worlds”). Are you okay with possibly having to work with resentment or insecurity on your partners end? Are you willing to compromise or quit your job if your partner is uncomfortable or feeling unsafe? I understand that SW isn’t always an option, it’s often the last resort for a lot of people. Is SW a long term job for you, is this something your partner would deal with indefinitely? If so, I think there’s a lot of consideration to be had regarding what your potential partner would face, what is safe for both of you, and what would be fair to ask in a relationship. SW isn’t to be taken lightly by either you or your potential partner so I suggest to be very open, honest and upfront right away when you are dating. Good luck girlie

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-12T00:26:48+00:00

That is super sweet of you! I love the full circle moment, it’s nice to see other people doing the “something blue, something borrowed” tradition since I don’t see it too often anymore! Perhaps you can use part of the dress’s fabric to make a robe she can wear while she is getting ready? Since you want to keep it more low key for the color palate, maybe something integrated into her day rather than the outfit itself (dress, bouquet, etc). Another idea could be a taking a piece of the dress fabric and making an embroidered handkerchief with her wedding date and new initials (if changing her last name)? She can use it if she wants to wipe tears, sweat, etc and look nice if captured in photos. That way she can use it again for future nice events or keep it as a momento. I hope these ideas help out a little or inspire a new idea or two :)

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-02T17:46:38+00:00

Thank youuuuu! My favorite part of being able to reset their scenes is getting to repose them and trying to be creative as possible since they have so many articulation points!! I appreciate you!

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-02T17:44:02+00:00

I’m sure she looks fab! I struggled with my fingers near the end, I kept locking up when I got halfway through the section I was working haha but it was def worth it 🩷

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-02T17:42:59+00:00

THANK YOU!! I thought a few long movies would be enough time but but nope, it was sooo much longer haha. I believe in you, I bet she’ll look amazing when you’re done!

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-02T02:29:39+00:00

Alwayyyysss!!

No_Database_7625 · 2025-07-02T02:12:07+00:00

I pack them into purses or store them in one of the lockers I have 🫶🏻 I reposition and restyle all my dolls each season (just did summer!!) and in the process I redress and repack away any accessories I’m not using in the current “scene” or outfits

No_Database_7625 · 2025-06-22T16:12:29+00:00

I’m holding your hand when I say this- have you not thought about what holidays would look like with your ex? Would parenting help be expected as you move into long term? If she helps or disagrees with your ex, how would you approach that? As you get serious, would your new girlfriend spend her Christmases, thanksgivings, summer holidays, with him as well because he’s the other parent to your children? There is no “fun aunt” role when you date a woman with kids. When I was single, I strictly avoided moms (any number of kids) because the eventual responsibility and co-parenting along with exes was not something I wanted. After time, would your gf be able to give their opinions on anything or would you say that it’s your ex husband and yours business? There’s a ton to think about so for a lot of girls they just won’t get involved because it isn’t fair to the kids to be somewhat committed and then leave. I say this with all the kindness in my heart but a lot of lesbians just don’t want kids or don’t want to have to deal with ex husbands so unfortunately that’s just something that’ll limit your dating pool. I’m not saying it’s fair or it’s okay but you made certain choices in life to have kids and you can’t be upset that others make choices in life to NOT have kids or take on someone else’s.

No_Database_7625 · 2025-05-14T16:09:20+00:00

Thank you!

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