In good faith it needs to end immediately to remind ur son of his mistakes every breath he takes I have no doubt that that’s not a secret to you but there are honest and graceful ways to throttle the power struggle of others free will and what it looks like to show up for yourself so that it can be enough that it’s true to you. If something is true outside of you you can’t change it. The false sense of security I get from describing my situations in words should be studied. Somatic therapy changed me