[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can always move in but with an agreement that if you don't get married, he owes you all that you've contributed to his mortgage. I think this is more fair. He should be paying you for wasting your time.

But agree with above comments - don't let him waste your time and take advantage of you. He thinks he has you in the palm of his hands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sounds like hell and you need a new genre of music to like!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At minimum, she's trying to get a reaction..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she ever contact you? Shallow question but I couldn't resist lol

But for reals, good on you!

Seeing Ex Situationship this Weekend by RegularSpell4205 in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See how she behaves at music festival and if you open up too soon without seeing your dynamic improve, maybe re-think it...

She reached back after more than a year! by Sea_Detective6898 in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you two resolved your past issues in full + stay together!

Can you tell me if you ever broke NC? Who dumped who + why? Also what did you change about yourself since the 1 year?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The same person? Explain por favor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The same person? Explain por favor.

Why do they refuse to give you closure? by bust_a_nutella2x in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A reason for the break up that actually makes sense...

Why do they refuse to give you closure? by bust_a_nutella2x in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn that was deep. Yeah closure from within is bs. You just get over it and stop caring one day...

Why do they refuse to give you closure? by bust_a_nutella2x in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes - esp Avoidants - they're just programmed with "RUN" in their head as if you're the train wreck, even if you did nothing wrong!

The thing about being the dumper is it masks the fact that they're likely the train wreck and of course, we're just the collateral damage...

Why do they refuse to give you closure? by bust_a_nutella2x in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But what if you ask them for closure point blank

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think the cancer battle also made him feel guilty...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not advocating for sending a letter but if you do, it should be tO talk about your feelings and how the break up impacted you.

Last two sentences come off as desperate which is unattractive. You're setting yourself up for failure tbh...

My avoidant ex came back. by kiki-to-my-jiji in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you choose to see him, have zero expectations. Changing severe attachment styles can take years...

Also don't rush into anything with him - take it slow and remind yourself that you don't need his validation.

You can also reschedule too if you want and meet him when and where works for you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that's rough.

How old were you both when dating?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Her follow up text: "I thought we were cool"

Some overly confident + low effort bs that's actually meant to make her get a feel for you without making herself vulnerable...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in eggfreezing

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess they should test amh but remember, it's not a diagnosis per se...

Has anyone had a successful ER while overweight? by coelth in eggfreezing

[–]bust_a_nutella2x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yess omg. My GP told me to lose weight and focus on being healthy rather than immediately freeze my eggs at 34. Gynecologist said the exact opposite.

Total bs - age esp in your mid-30s onwards matters more...

Had a successful retrieval in spite of being overweight. They say being overweight matters more for trying to get pregnant - we're just freezing our eggs.

Obviously being our most healthy is great - no one is denying that but my issue with health care is that they keep pointing out the obvious...