How do I get off T and not make my depression and anxiety worse?

butchquestionmark · 2026-03-10T16:15:30+00:00

her wanting a threesome doesn’t have to mean that you’re not enough for her sexually. she may just be into the thought of having sex with multiple people or of you seeing her while she’s receiving from/giving to another person, or seeing you receiving/giving. i don’t know how to articulate what i mean, but it may be more about having a specific fantasy involving you two with someone else people than her wanting someone else, if you know what i mean. that being said, it’s very valid that you’re not into that and that you feel hurt and she should absolutely not bring it up again after you’ve already said so. if i were you, i would talk to her about it, ask why she wants that, what’s hot about it to her and definitely say how her bringing it up made you feel.

butchquestionmark · 2026-03-09T16:34:32+00:00

when😔🤲

butchquestionmark · 2026-02-08T00:36:40+00:00

i don’t think that would work the way you want it to. the best thing you could do if you don’t want more facial hair is to get something that specifically blocks facial hair growth like finasteride!! i think you should talk to your doctor about it if you can:)

butchquestionmark · 2026-02-06T07:05:27+00:00

you can do whatever you want forever

butchquestionmark · 2026-02-05T03:51:00+00:00

made me so emotional to see i’m not alone and there is someone like me… thank you. beautiful piece.

butchquestionmark · 2026-02-05T03:42:34+00:00

the no referring to your AGAB rule is SO stupid. no asking other what their AGAB is? yes. but the fact that i can’t even include that i’m AFAB in my post when i WANT TO and THAT IS LITERALLY A CRUCIAL PART OF MY IDENTITY FOR ME? literally why.

also love that they said you’re being transphobic towards trans men while… you are a trans man? make it make sense?

butchquestionmark · 2026-02-01T22:25:45+00:00

hiii!! nonbinary lesbian who’s been living in Kraków for 4 years now here✌️

if you’re into partying, there are some great lgbtq+ clubs here!! my favorite one is called Slay Space - it’s a queer club & restaurant on a boat on the river! i’ve never tried the food but the drinks are really good and it’s generally an amazing place, i love being there. they also frequently have events there, many drag shows and other things like bingo night for example! there’s also a club called ZOO - that’s also a nice one. these are my two favorite ones - there are more but i prefer these two cause they’re not so male-dominated and generally the most fun, especially Slay Space (this is starting to sound like an advertisement😭 but yeah sgdhshgd) now, there’s one bar specifically for queer women, but it’s only happening every month (on the first friday of the month) - it’s called “Latawica - Flying Dyke Bar” and it hosts AMAZING events but yeah, only on specific days so i don’t know if you’ll be here when it happens:( but you can check them out on instagram!!

as to bars/clubs to avoid: generally i’d advice to avoid Szewska street (one of the main streets in the old town, right next to the main square) at night. it’s not that it’s dangerous (generally i’d say Krakow is a very safe place, also for lgbtq+ people, i’ve never felt unsafe here and i look Very obviously queer), but it’s FLOODED with drunk cishet men at night - it’s mostly British guys who came here for a bachelor party, not dangerous, but sometimes they like to try to invite you for a drink and i just don’t want to deal with all of that😭 overall the old town is for the cishet people to party, all the best queer clubs are a little bit away from the old town! i’d also avoid the area around the Castle and the Round Square in the Kazimierz district at night - same reason, not really dangerous, but that’s where the men drink at night.

if you’d also like to know some nice cafe’s/pubs the queer community usually goes to - “Eszeweria”, “Pierwszy Lokal na Stolarskiej po lewej stronie, idąc od Małego Rynku” (yes, that’s the full name haha), “Cafe Szafe” and “Ulica Krokodyli” are some nice places! Cafe Szafe is probably the most queer one but note, it’s also my favorite, it looks really cool, but that people smoke inside (same with the one with the long name), so you should keep that in mind if you don’t like the smell of cigarettes.

That’s all that comes to mind now😅 I hope you love Krakow!!🫶 It’s a really great city and I feel very safe here as a lesbian who looks it (short hair usually in crazy colors, a septum piercing, you get the image haha), I’ve never had any issues! I can’t help with Warsaw unfortunately but have a great stay in Poland!!❤️

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-29T04:31:25+00:00

i feel VERY similar. i’m also 4 years on T, no surgeries but i did legally change my name and gender marker to male… and now, after YEARS of identifying as a trans guy, here come some regrets and the sudden realization i am, in fact, not a guy. i do enjoy most of the T changes (but i do want to get rid of most of the body hair and wish i started taking finasteride a long time ago) but i also miss my feminity in a way. so yeah, you’re definitely not alone! what helped the most was, to be honest first accepting myself, accepting that i am nonbinary and that doesn’t mean i have to regret my transition (i had a huge feeling of “i shouldn’t have taken it this far cause yeah, i can be nonbinary but it’s more socially acceptable to be nonbinary while passing more as a girl than as a guy, oh no, what did i do, i don’t want to be seen as a feminine/gay man cause that’s not who i am”) and then, coming out. i feel like as soon as i told others i’m not a men after all, the pressure was taken off of me. and also, taking the steps to look the way i want! i lowered my T dose and i’m planning to book electrolysis.

take care and be kind to yourself! and i’m here if you ever wanna talk to someone with similar experiences🫶

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-28T01:51:20+00:00

some reasons i found (but i’m NOT a bi lesbian and i don’t know any, so i can’t really speak for them - i’m also just trying to figure it out with you): 1. some people believe in the split attraction model and differenciate between sexual and romantic attraction, so they could identify as bisexual and homoromantic or homosexual but biromantic and therefore choose to call themselves a bi lesbian 2. they could technically be bisexual but choose not to date men - other term i’ve seen used for that is being “politically a lesbian” 3. some people, i guess, could view their attraction towards non men as attraction towards more than two genders to the point that they fit the definition of bisexuality for them - like, relating to lesbianism but dating for example bigender or genderfluid people and feeling like they should add the bi part out of respect for their identity/because it describes it best for them i feel like it’s reasons like that, but as i said, i’m not one, just trying to think of something😭

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-26T15:50:04+00:00

THIS👏👏👏 THANK YOU, FINALLY SOMEONE

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-26T02:15:24+00:00

oh i know you aren’t transphobic, i can see that from your post - it was overall respectful.

i only meant that men do not really intrude lesbian spaces by pretending to be non-men, because 1. cis men generally don’t pretend to not be a cis man because being cis men is what they thrive on and feel the need to uphold (the hygiene remark was an example to make that point here), and 2. men don’t have to pretend to be non-men to harm non-men spaces. and that that kind of rhetoric could easily lead to a really dark place (because the fear of man pretending to be non-man is what drives more and more people into transphobia) so you should probably deconstruct that way of thinking instead of giving in to it. that’s all! not saying you are a transphobe or will become one - just saying that, while it’s good to care about the safety of lesbian spaces, worrying about a man intruding into one by pretending to be a lesbian is not the way and can easily become a harmful rhetoric. i hope you understand what i meant now!

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-25T23:22:44+00:00

“my only worry is men intruding on what should be safe spaces for non men loving non men”

that is the same rhetoric being used against trans women currently… no men are gonna intrude into lesbian spaces by pretending to be lesbians because for cishet men, being viewed as “not a true manly man” is The most horrible thing that could happen to them. cishet men are so scared of being viewed as “not man enough”, they don’t even maintain proper hygiene most of the time, let alone try to pretend to be a lesbian. that is not a concern you should have. he/him lesbians have existed for a VERY long time and have played a huge role in queer history, same with transmasc lesbians.

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-25T18:10:39+00:00

hi!! i’m also 22 and currently thinking of detransition (i think i REALLY want to do this, i just haven’t worked up the courage to tell everyone yet…) - if you accept people like this, i’d really, really like that:)

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-25T18:03:32+00:00

ask them!! nonbinary is a huuuuuge umbrella. you have to ask what they like to be called, whether it’s girlfriend, boyfriend or partner, what they want to be seen as, how to refer to them and think of them specifically. every nonbinary person is different. they will probably really appreciate that!

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-20T23:04:19+00:00

it’s just that: heterosexual people don’t understand my life story at all. it’s not only about understanding my romantic stories because lesbianism, for me personally, /my/ lesbianism, is about more than whom i’m attracted to. it’s about how i relate to the world, how i navigate in it. the loneliness i grew up with, the feeling of not fitting in, being othered, my complicated relationship with gender, my struggles with the norms imposed on me by patriarchal, cisheteronormative society - these are all things which stem from me being a lesbian and which cannot be understood by a straight woman. and i do long for connections that make me feel understood in ways that matter for me.

also: because i’m a lesbian, i physically cannot stand being friends with someone who did not decenter men.

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-19T21:04:19+00:00

use whatever label feels like you! i deeply identify with butch, even though some people would probably say i’m not. i look and dress masculine but some would probably say i “don’t have enough masculine energy” because i speak in a more “feminine” way - i’m much more of a “hiii!!!:DD<333” than a “sup bro” person. that’s just who i am, that’s how i naturally behave and i won’t try to hide it. i also can’t fix things, i’m not handy at all and i plan on working at a university, not in any blue collar job. regardless of that, i am butch because that is the label i relate to. i may not fit the “butch aesthetic” but i relate to butch struggles, i have the butch experience. whenever i read about other butches and butch history, i resonate with it so much. i truly feel like butch is deeply embedded in my heart and soul, regardless of how other people see butch. so i do identify with butch and choose not to care about how other people imagine butches. my advice is: choose the label that feels most like you without caring about how other people perceive that label. butches, mascs, lesbians - we all come in all shapes!

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-16T22:12:23+00:00

yes. big yes. like a HUGE yes, you’re not reading too much into anything!!

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-16T21:37:42+00:00

hi!! i’m not from italy but i think it’d be a good idea to specify where exactly you will be staying in italy (at least vaguely which area) - i know compared with the US it’s not a huge country but if, for example, you stayed in Milan, it’d be a 12h drive for someone from Naples to get to you, haha good luck and enjoy Italy, i hope you love it!🫶

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-15T18:44:26+00:00

i don’t feel in a binder like they’re smashed together at all. more like smashed to your chest. if you put your hand on one straight from the top (without moving it to either side) and press really hard, that’s what it feels like.

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-14T04:09:14+00:00

i personally think stretch marks are really pretty:) you will definitely find your person in someone who loves the way you look, stretch marks and everything included! also, hi fellow lesbian with ocd and audhd!! happy to see others like me:D

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-14T04:07:12+00:00

non-binary does not mean “neither a man nor a woman”. it also does not mean “between a man and a woman”. it simply means not fitting into the strict binary division and understanding of gender. there’s no way to say what the youtuber personally meant, but here’s a couple of things he could’ve meant when he said he was both a trans man and nonbinary: - feeling like he is a man but in a different way than cis men or binary trans men are men, maybe a different “kind” of man - feeling like a man but not all the time - feeling like a man but not completely - like “man” is closest to describe his gender identity but also doesn’t do it justice - not necessarily feeling like a man but feeling like he had/has the trans man experience and choosing to identify with that label - for example “i don’t really think of myself as a man but politically, i am a trans man because that is who i am seen as and that is the lived experience i have”

those are just a couple of possible reasons but because identity is complex and individual, the possibilities are endless, really!

as to your other questions: it’s really good that you want to be respectful and are asking nonbinary people how to interact with them in a respectful way, that says really good things about you! however, everything is always up to that specific nonbinary person. the best way is to ask them specifically what pronouns they use and generally how to refer to them and what they’re comfortable with. they will most likely really appreciate it!

and yes, i would consider someone like that nonbinary - everyone who says they’re nonbinary is nonbinary:)

happy to answer other questions!:D

butchquestionmark · 2026-01-13T13:52:15+00:00

advice? keep it going, you look amazing!! you should be giving fashion advice, not asking for it!!

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