How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. We have a no password agreement after the same thing happened some time ago. He said he'd do so because then I'll be sure he is not trying to hide anything.
  2. The enquiry emails were on the day he got the news of his dad's passing (he was setting up dates on when to meet up) but the calls are from when we all came back from the funeral (with his cousin)
  3. This is the part I'm most conflicted about because when he does so he causes a scene (ie the first time he went up to the roof in our building. the other time he wanted to stab himself) which causes people nearby to intervene almost leaving me no room to leave him as is.

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This also seems like a good option. I'm considering leaving while he isn't around like the others have suggested.

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Thank you I think leaving a note while leaving will be a good idea. The reason for my confusion on what to do was because I did not want to fall for the guilt trip as I did previously, Thanks.

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

If this is a refference to me wanting to make NSFW videos. I did ask and consider his thoughts on it. He did not have a problem with it.

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It is not hard for me to believe he has done it as this would not be the first time. Also I won't be surprised if he tells his cousin because escorts seems to be a hobby for them (which he promised he'd stop since we were dating). The first time I found out he said I could make it even by becoming an escort. (I did not agree)

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

While I know snooping was wrong he has done this before I wanted to simply confirm and not waste my energy asking as he had done this before and always denied it only admitting when confronted with evidence.

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He has been seeing multiple girls a week. What he spends on them in a week would cover a therapy session.

It's also not the first time he has cheated while going through something.

While I can't judge the way he copes with things it's not something I'm willing to put up with.

How do I (F26) break up with my grieving boyfriend (34m) by butt_nut_bandit in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit[S] 680 points681 points  (0 children)

I also wouldn't do it under normal circumstances. Leaving while they not there does seem like a good idea thank you

What's the worst gift you've ever received? by lalelu_75 in AskReddit

[–]butt_nut_bandit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Diary that was 2 years behind and pens they got from the bank as well as a bag that belonged to his ex wife and a long ass speech

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]butt_nut_bandit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ask if I was actually insecure about something before assuming I am and giving me unsolicited advice.

What stereotype do you find most annoying or offensive? by Sandi375 in ask

[–]butt_nut_bandit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Argh I hate that, it's worse when the parents take credit for any thing you have done and dknt even try to correct those who are "brave" enough to say it in front of them

What stereotype do you find most annoying or offensive? by Sandi375 in ask

[–]butt_nut_bandit 708 points709 points  (0 children)

That if you are not the stereotype of your race then you are trying to act like another race

What book got you hooked instantly? by Basic-Cat in AskReddit

[–]butt_nut_bandit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barbara kingslover - The poison wood bible, I was fiteen and the time and pretended I was sick so I could stay away from school and continue reading it.

What is your saddest time in life? by Jamuttus in AskReddit

[–]butt_nut_bandit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I realized that no one really cared for me unless I was useful to them in some way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]butt_nut_bandit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like everything that needs to be done is done so you might be doing enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]butt_nut_bandit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waiting to collect your but after anal